The Gift of Confusion

The Gift of ConfusionThe major problem with confusion is that you reject it: your linear mind gets agitated like a wild animal in a cage trying to find the exit.

Depending on your personality, you may push through your wall of fog to gain clarity; you may be anxious or depressed.

On my side, I am really happy when you get confused: you now have the opportunity to change your old paradigm; if you are not confused, you are not learning.

At times, you get confused because you are overthinking.

Confusion teaches you the art of listening to all the parts of you, not just your mental dimension.

Confusion also allows you to readjust your tempo: when you are confused, you need to slow down. Often you go the other direction; you get impatient ready to put the foot on the accelerator, desperately looking for an answer.

Some of you often ask me if your confusion is a resistance to change or if it is the necessary stage toward transformation. Most likely, it is both as every time we go through a transition, we experience resistance.

When you realize that the time of confusion is precious, you will be able to drop deeper into yourself to heal and nurture some parts of you that you did not know about. Confusion teaches you to stay present and vigilant, not from a place of fear but a place of curiosity.

If you want deeper peace and connection to your self and others, always allow confusion to be, as it is a great teacher for your mind and healer for your life.

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“Vibrate The Cosmos And The Cosmos Shall Clear The Path” (Yogi Bhajan)

Today you may be at a crossroad in your life and seeking guidance.

The problem is, the more you aim for clarity, the more you use your linear mind and at times over-analyze everything. The results are greater confusion, more doubts, and worries.

My invitation to you is to look at any situation that you are in from a different perspective.

Instead of engaging your analytical mind, pay attention to your attention. Choose where and what you decide to focus on.

Instead of focusing on your problem, “Vibrate The Cosmos,” stay open and receptive; don’t go anywhere, don’t solve anything; receive and experience any problem throughout your whole body. Stay curious and tune in, be sensitive to your whole being. Surrender, let the cosmos in, let anything in, drop your walls and create intimacy with your environment.

When this happens, everything flows. At that moment you are not pushing, using your will or forcing an outcome, you are open and willing to learn.

To create this drastic shift, start practicing with elements of nature. Experience in your whole body, a tree, a plant, a flower, a cloud, invite them, be curious and sensitive to their essence …practice every day and then you may develop your ability to dance with the cosmos.

Are you ready to create more flow in your life?

With much love,

 

 

 

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The Life Pulse

Most of us want more joy and meaning in our lives. This is a beautiful longing yet it often becomes an attachment. The way we think our lives should create a roadmap for pain and distraction.
At almost 57 years old, I am amazed by how my life unfolds day by day in such unexpected ways…and I am learning and enjoying the process of detachment about a lifestyle…my life has many styles by the ways.

As you focus on your personal healing and transformation go within and pay attention to your life pulse.

The life pulse has four phases, expansion-stasis-contraction-stasis. This life pulse exists within every cell and every particle within the cell. Some of us get stuck in one phase and some of us skip some of the phases or force some of the phases. If you are attached to the expansion, phase thinking that life has to be exhilarating, expansive and creative all the time you are simply not connected to you. If you are in the stasis phase too much you are not respecting your true essence of personal growth and learning. And we know if you are in the contraction phase all the time it can be very painful.

In our society, we have valued the expansion phase of the life force. This is still a model that drives organizations and that drives how we look at health and vitality.

One of my best friend’s, who has a life-threatening disease, has learned to tap into the contraction phase by taking a three-hour nap every day. That has been her best medicine to challenge all the predictions of “not making it “ after 10 years.

Some of you will gain more peace when you go through a contraction phase. The problem is not the contraction but your perception of the contraction and your relationship with your own contraction. A happy pill…even if it is organic, will not be the first answer, but the last one.

Each phase is necessary for being vibrant and radiant in your life. If you are stuck in one for more than a few weeks then be curious. Is that serving you and how? What are you avoiding?

This month, go within and be curious about your life pulse and the life pulse of the people you love, you will develop compassion…one of the best medicines.

With much love,

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That Thing We Call Death

Once, Osho, the great Spiritual Teacher, said something like this: “Life and death are not opposite. Ego and death are opposite”. …And I got inspired…

Life is always about transformation, transmutation and metamorphosis. Life is always about healing never about achieving. The key element to health and healing is death. If you can’t die you can’t heal. If you can’t let go of your attachments, your beliefs, your stories and your behaviors you can’t heal. Death is the foundation of transformation. If you choose to be vibrant and alive then accept the dying process.

What is in the way to your healing? Your resistance to dying. You want to heal without dying and it simply does not work.

Be curious about your ongoing resistance…how you shut down, how you step away, how you choose to focus on the causes of your unhappiness or disease.  

Allow yourself to experience parts of your being that are new to you.

Allow yourself to look at your light and darkness without any stories around.

Just feel yourself deeper. That is where you will find inner peace and awareness. Pay attention to anything you have been saying to yourself for years: “I really want to change this or that”. Ask yourself this simple question: what part of me is ready to die? Is it my lack of trust? Is it my need for constant approval? Is it my fear of being alone? Is it my self-judgment?

What attachments, stories, beliefs, behavior, thoughts or relationships…am I really to let go?

Only then you experience the sacred within you …and that is the first step of healing.

With much love,

Tejpal

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Open Your Sky

In my practice I notice that most people spend lots of time listening to their thoughts instead of listening to their experience. That pattern is the same when it comes to listening to others. If you are thoughts focused you create lots of pollution in your system. When you pay attention to your experience you nourish yourself. That is the essence of self-love.

Many of you are amazing achievers. Your accomplishments are often outstanding yet your self-care and self-love are lacking. You have used your will and your brilliance in a limited way…and my wish is that you choose to open your sky.

When you choose to listen to your experience your life opens up to unknown possibilities. Are you courageous enough to love yourself? Now…I am not talking of the love and peace movement of the 70s or romantic love; I am talking about love, the ultimate form of commitment, the ultimate discipline that will expand your awareness and intuition.

This discipline goes way deeper than a discipline that comes from your will. I have experienced both and I know the difference.

In my mid 30s and early 40s I was will driven. I ran the NY Marathon (and I never liked running), road bike races and played in golf tournaments. Everything was outcome-driven. Each time I won I felt empty, sick and dry inside. When I did not win I had to focus on the next event.

Self-love has a different flavor. You are curious, sensitive to what is and stay with any type of discomfort. From that ever-changing place of yours you listen and you create your day.

When you choose to connect to your essence there can be pain but no drama. There can be joy but no frantic excitement. You dramatically enhance your awareness and make decisions aligned with your true essence.

Are you ready to open your sky?

With much love and healing,
Tejpal

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My Theme For This Year

As I was cleaning my files during the holiday season I found a piece of paper with this quote on it: “Everything is possible in your life if you approach it with humility.” I have no idea you wrote this; regardless, I started to ponder…

As a child the way I understood humility was: “be less, be small, be invisible”. The focus was on the ego; make it as small as possible. Later in my life I realized that humility is not about asking the ego to be small but is relying on the heart to be big. And moment-to-moment we have to choose what we say yes to: is it our heart or our ego?

The path of humility may not be the easiest one but the other one carries way too much suffering. We did not come on earth to win; we came on earth to heal. When humility is at the center of your life you are at peace with learning the same thing over and over.

Humility keeps us on our toes…there is no falling asleep…everything needs intention and attention …our health, our relationships, our hobbies, our work…

This year I choose to celebrate as much as I can with the quality of humility at the center. In this context, it is not about how great I am but how blessed I am.

Now what about you? What is your theme for this new year?

With much love,

Tejpal

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Be The Light House

As we are approaching a new year my true wish is that you let go of setting goals for yourself. Bury that concept, burn it, dance around the fire …whatever speaks to you but once for all…drop it. When you set goals you simply limit who you are because you rely too much on your linear mind and your will. I personally don’t recall that reaching any of my goals made me happier; I always had a next goal in mind…

We are not linear beings we are spiritual beings. Our focus is to increase our vitality. More than ever before we need our vibration to be strong as we are constantly reminded of the political, economical and ecological chaos in our lives. We can pretend to ignore it but because everything is a vibration we still are impacted.

If you want more vitality keep it true. Stay connected with your wholeness, that means your light and your shadow. If you are running away from your darkness you will not experience your spiritual dimension you will not be vibrant. Stay human.

In this period that the Yogis have called “The Grey Period”, we can fall into our reactive patterns and be stressed or we can stand up in our light and be vibrant no matter what. More than ever before we need each others’ light. Yogi Bhajan used to say “Be the Light House”.

Happy holiday season.

With much love
Tejpal

How to Say Goodbye

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Every culture has its own tradition. If we look at death in China people buy their coffins before they die and put it in a place where everyone can admire the luxury of it. In America, death is still taboo and we are doing everything we can without clarity to avoid aging or simply dying.

How do you say goodbye when it is time to let go of painful situations? For years I used to say goodbye by slamming the door with a lot of conviction stating how much I was right and how much “they” were wrong. We all know that never works: I was not able to deeply learn and surrender and in this process I was not able to say goodbye.

Saying goodbye is a vital skill that needs to be learned particularly in the time of uncertainty we live in. What do you want to say goodbye to in your life? Is it a person, a behavior, a thought? When you choose to say goodbye you truly grow from within.

If you say goodbye to some habits, a good amount of focus and determination are not going to be the answer. Your focus has to be towards your desires not your will. How clear and strong your desire is?

If you say goodbye to a person you need to allow your emotional body to go through its convulsion and commotion. That is the first stage of any transformation and each time you dismiss it you will prevent any healing to happen.

The culture we live in does not teach you how to say goodbye. If you go on a business trip you text before you take off, you text when you land, you text when you check in your hotel….and it keeps on going.

Saying goodbye is not rejecting, reacting, accusing or blaming, it is a healthy way of living…not always easy but it will bring you closer to your own truth and to your heart, closer to your spiritual dimension.

Be curious and explore…What and or who do you need to say goodbye to?

First write down a list and then connect to the clarity of your desires for each item. In some situations the fear may be to overwhelming and you may not be ready to take actions yet invite consciously your intent and trust that at some point you it will reach a level of simplicity.

With much love,
Tejpal

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Create Miracles In Your Life

MiraclesAs I am on my way to experience the well renowned healer “John of God” in Brazil, I have taken quite some time clarifying the true intent of this coming trip. John of God is well known for the miracle healings many have received in his presence and so… I wonder …what is a miracle? What does it take to create miracles in life?

It takes the ability to surrender. When we surrender we are engaged, we are not passive. We are co creating with this vast universe and beyond. When we surrender we choose to drop our fixed images of what we want; we give a voice to our desires and yet we are willing to be spacious, not attached to an end results.

This month, be curious about your desires and be curious about your expectations.

Are your desires coming from a place of fear or from your essence? For example, do you want to be in a relationship because you are afraid of being alone or because you want to learn to live more in the heart?

With each desire, notice some of your attachments and realize how they prevent you from creating your miracles. Write down your attachments every day, 3-5 minutes a day to give yourself a chance to co create miracles.

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How To Manifest Moment To Moment

Imagine that you hold in your hands the power to change your reality and that you are capable of creating your highest vision and desire. Imagine that life is way simpler than what you think. Then….you are able to Manifest Moment To Moment the life you truly long for.

Many of you know that I have co-written a book with my business partner Dr. Carrol McLauglin.

And so here we are! Our “Manifest Moment To Moment” book is published by Hay House and will be released June 4th this year.

Check out our website, www.ManifestMomentToMoment.com, the videos, and the claim it exercises! We hope that you will appreciate the spirit , insights and tools we have to offer! To respect your space, you will get an insightful newsletter once a month from this new website.  I will scale down from the Tejpal-Inspires website and send one newsletter once a month as well. Feel free to give me some feedback, I would love to hear from you!

As I had my birthday this week, the day prior to my date of birth, I received some clear insights: “Tejpal, the theme of this year for you is about surrendering”. And then I received a few directions about which spiritual practice I need to focus on.

And so here I am…pondering and assessing the different parts of my life. Every area of my life will beneficiate from my ability to surrender, no doubt. Surrendering is for me the most gracious intent as it calls on flexibility and spaciousness. If I create more space then creativity can truly happen. If I am really creative then there is a way no matter how many blocks I may encounter in my life; I can always bounce back. And quite frankly in life we don’t need to be sure we are doing the right thing to be happy, we need to know we can bounce back so that we feel more secure inside to move forward and listen to our deepest desire.

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The One Thing That Prevents You Moving Forward

Over the years, I have witnessed the same thing over and over when it is time to shift and grow…there is one thing that is in the way for pretty much everyone I have helped. It is the lack of compassion you have toward your own Self. Yes, it is simple, but true. That is your biggest obstacle in your life.

Too often, we create a fixed idea of what our Self should be and each time we do not match that rigid identity. We shrink, contract and sometimes we spend too much time inward over analyzing everything.

First we need to let go of that fixed image about ourselves but still have that deep desire to expand, be more accepting, living more in the heart or whatever you would like to express and experience often in our life.

The people that get the most hyper and excited about working with me are often the people who struggle to commit. Their ideal image of themselves takes over and their engagement is like a fire cracker…explosive, beautiful and short.

If you want to go really far, be aware of your limitations and have compassion for what you may call your contradictions, your paradoxes and your faults. Own them and hold them; there are parts of your expression.

There is no world-class athlete that dismissed their own limitation. Gary Player knew as a golfer that he had to go the gym and be fit, way before the Tiger Wood trend, to compensate his short size in order to be a legendary golfer.

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