Every culture has its own tradition. If we look at death in China people buy their coffins before they die and put it in a place where everyone can admire the luxury of it. In America, death is still taboo and we are doing everything we can without clarity to avoid aging or simply dying.
How do you say goodbye when it is time to let go of painful situations? For years I used to say goodbye by slamming the door with a lot of conviction stating how much I was right and how much “they” were wrong. We all know that never works: I was not able to deeply learn and surrender and in this process I was not able to say goodbye.
Saying goodbye is a vital skill that needs to be learned particularly in the time of uncertainty we live in. What do you want to say goodbye to in your life? Is it a person, a behavior, a thought? When you choose to say goodbye you truly grow from within.
If you say goodbye to some habits, a good amount of focus and determination are not going to be the answer. Your focus has to be towards your desires not your will. How clear and strong your desire is?
If you say goodbye to a person you need to allow your emotional body to go through its convulsion and commotion. That is the first stage of any transformation and each time you dismiss it you will prevent any healing to happen.
The culture we live in does not teach you how to say goodbye. If you go on a business trip you text before you take off, you text when you land, you text when you check in your hotel….and it keeps on going.
Saying goodbye is not rejecting, reacting, accusing or blaming, it is a healthy way of living…not always easy but it will bring you closer to your own truth and to your heart, closer to your spiritual dimension.
Be curious and explore…What and or who do you need to say goodbye to?
First write down a list and then connect to the clarity of your desires for each item. In some situations the fear may be to overwhelming and you may not be ready to take actions yet invite consciously your intent and trust that at some point you it will reach a level of simplicity.
With much love,
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