The Best Medicine On Earth
I know… most of you would say that the best medicine on earth is Love. In many ways I support this statement: when one lives in the heart center there is a level of stillness awareness and presence that create a wonderful foundation for healing. Yet too often love is often confused with emotions, attachments and or loving something or someone …and so I have decided to look at something else…your breath.
“When you are short of wisdom, breathe.” Guru Nanak
We have a tendency to breathe between 16 and 20 times a minute with a shallow breath that does not give enough oxygen to the blood. A sweet tooth comes from a lack of oxygen in the brain. Lots of diseases are created and enhanced with shallow breathing. If you breathe eight times a minute you will become calmer. If you breathe four times a minute you are more aware, more intuitive and more in tune with the cosmic intelligence. You can go with the infinite flow instead of constantly fighting or worrying.
Your breath is directly connected to how you think and how you feel. A negative thought or action will make you breathe three times faster.
The way you attract people, the way you manifest is directly connected to your Aura, which is greatly impacted by the quality of your breath. In brief, your radiance depends on your breath.
Your intelligence has nothing to do with how many brain cells or degrees you have; your intelligence is based on the capacity of your breath. Choose to practice conscious breathing every day; it will transform everything within you and around you.
The following is a breath you can practice at least three minutes a day:
- Seated on a chair or in an easy pose on the floor.
- Eventually, close your eyes and focus on your third eye.
- Put each hand in Gyan Mudra (index and thumb together) on your knee.
- Inhale through the nose, hold the breath in and as you hold the breath in mentally vibrate the mantra three times: “I am light, I am I am.”
- Exhale through the nose, hold the breath out and as you hold the breath out repeat the same mantra in your head three times.
- End with a deep breath in, hold the breath in and apply Root Lock (squeeze sex organ, rectum, and navel) to seal and integrate the benefits of your breath.
Relax.
Much love to all,
The Lesson Plan
What are you choosing to learn this year? How do you want to express yourself? What are your biggest challenges?
I came on earth with a very strong mind. At a very young age I was aware of people’s patterns and behaviors. I never was lost into the fairy tale of childhood; at time I wished. I was judging, observing and fearing the many distortions around me. Yet with this strong mind of mine, my heart was underdeveloped. Terrified to be loved, terrified to ask or need anything, I chose isolation and pride.
When the mind is not connected to the heart center, the mind divides and reacts. Fuelled by emotions instead of compassion the mind is too loud or too quiet, opinionated and never at peace.
I used to be a quiet kid, unhappy, unfulfilled, and the few times I spoke up I was too negative. At five or six years old my negative expression felt like poison to myself. At that age, I really wanted to be wise stable and compassionate; the gap was painful to experience.
In the time we are living in, we can choose to get lost in the flow of insanities out there and point the finger at the others or we can choose to go within, look at our own distortions and practice forgiveness to self.
In this lifetime, the heart is my great teacher. The heart is not fluffy, nice or soft; the heart is real in a beautiful neutral way. It invites me to stay stable, present and awake with compassion.
If you want to serve in any kind of way you absolutely need a daily practice that invites you to go within and really look without a story, without blame. You need to have a practice that really observes with compassionate stillness. When that is in place, decide how you can be of service as the options are endless.
With much love,
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How Do You Bounce Back In Your Life?
As I am looking at my own life, the lives of my clients and the on going tragedies that are happening in this world, I am asking the following question…How do we bounce back from a physical illness, the loss of a loved one, the destruction of a home, a complete lack of meaning in life or a sense of deep isolation? What are our options?
One of the most potent medicines in bouncing back is to create meaningful connections. You may or may not know how to create authentic relationships, how to ask for help, how to be real in your deepest places of despair, or how to trust the people around you…. Regardless, reaching out is certainly a key element in finding yourself again.
There is another component that I would like to emphasize today; I call it the Art of Falling. In order to bounce back you need to know how to fall. If you are too rigid when you fall you will hurt yourself; if you don’t let go you will break parts of your body. You need to allow yourself to touch the bottom; like playing on a trampoline you can ‘t bounce back if you don’t touch the bottom.
When you really fall you are able to experience a sacred space where the swirl of emotions does not overwhelm you anymore; you become stable and lucid, there is nothing more to loose.
The mind does not know how to fall; the mind wants to be safe. The heart knows how to fall simply because the heart is not driven by fear or the future. The mind on its own has a distorted relationship with pain…either it runs away from it or it is addicted to it.
How deeply can you let yourself fall? How deeply can you feel your own pain, despair, anxiety or loss? If you go deep your will heal yourself and the pain will shift to a more spacious and sacred experience.
What do you do to avoid falling? Do you make yourself busier? Do you abuse your body? Do you blame your circumstances? What do you do? Learn to fall if you want to bounce back. Learn to fall if you want to grow and experience peace in your life.
With much love and gratitude for being part of my life, I wish you a great holidays season.
Boredom…
When I invite my clients or students to do a daily spiritual practice, very few end up really doing it. I have heard many stories…stuff gets in the way…kids, work, health, family crisis, etc.
The real truth is that most of you are bored with yourself…yup…most of you are like a little kid that needs to be distracted every so often. And because it is so easy to get distracted these days you get bored even faster. Now you are not the only one! I can relate now and then!
If we get bored with ourselves so easily…then our life is going to be full of distractions, attachments and we will go through a constant emotional rollercoaster. The one thing we need to do is to fall in love with ourselves again and that is a discipline.
Loving yourself is not about liking yourself. Loving yourself is about embracing all of who you are, your light and your shadow. It is about accepting with kindness, your beauty and your limitations. Loving yourself is a practice that helps you to stay away from the polarity of the positive and negative minds.
The most efficient way to get there is to have a daily spiritual practice. As you do it you go beyond pain or pleasure, you become less reactive and impulsive. You have a chance to experience inner stillness and from that place you can see clearly and make life choices that are truly meaningful to you.
There are many kinds of spiritual practices. Today I am offering you a meditation from the Kundalini tradition that will balance your nervous system, create stability and bring you serenity. Do it with me for 40 days in a row and let me know how you are doing!
Open Your Sky
In my practice I notice that most people spend lots of time listening to their thoughts instead of listening to their experience. That pattern is the same when it comes to listening to others. If you are thoughts focused you create lots of pollution in your system. When you pay attention to your experience you nourish yourself. That is the essence of self-love.
Many of you are amazing achievers. Your accomplishments are often outstanding yet your self-care and self-love are lacking. You have used your will and your brilliance in a limited way…and my wish is that you choose to open your sky.
When you choose to listen to your experience your life opens up to unknown possibilities. Are you courageous enough to love yourself? Now…I am not talking of the love and peace movement of the 70s or romantic love; I am talking about love, the ultimate form of commitment, the ultimate discipline that will expand your awareness and intuition.
This discipline goes way deeper than a discipline that comes from your will. I have experienced both and I know the difference.
In my mid 30s and early 40s I was will driven. I ran the NY Marathon (and I never liked running), road bike races and played in golf tournaments. Everything was outcome-driven. Each time I won I felt empty, sick and dry inside. When I did not win I had to focus on the next event.
Self-love has a different flavor. You are curious, sensitive to what is and stay with any type of discomfort. From that ever-changing place of yours you listen and you create your day.
When you choose to connect to your essence there can be pain but no drama. There can be joy but no frantic excitement. You dramatically enhance your awareness and make decisions aligned with your true essence.
Are you ready to open your sky?
With much love and healing,
Tejpal
What Is The Purpose of Healing?
As I have been “sitting around” for the past 12 days or so healing from a knee replacement, I have contemplated the following question: What is your first response when someone asks you about the true purpose of healing?
Is it to feel better? Have more vitality? Gain more joy? Get rid of your pains? All of these answers sound pretty good to me but that is not the ultimate purpose of healing; these benefits are the side effects of the healing process.
The ultimate purpose of healing is to develop your relationship with your true self, beyond your titles, your credentials and the different roles you are taking on as a mother, a father, a leader, etc. Some of you may say is that it? That does not sound like too much fun!
Let’s list of few benefits:
- We make decisions that serve our heart not our ego.
- Our emotions are not leading our life; they are part of it.
- We are less reactive.
- We are able to experience more inner stillness in time of chaos.
- We are more aware and curious.
- We are more authentic.
- Our intuition expands.
The process of Healing brings us closer to our true self and from there our awareness expands tremendously. There is a sense of unity that is priceless to experience particularly when we are hitting a wall…any wall. And so be curious this month about what distracts you and what helps you to connect deeper with you!
With much love and healing,
Tejpal
I Got My Answer
One of my beautiful true friends, Catherine, is a comic and mother of three. She has been diagnosed with LAM lung disease; a rare form of cancer in the lungs that they have not yet found a cure for.
In 2006, she was given 5 to 10 years to live and she is now more vibrant than ever. Her life force and heart are priceless and her humor is contagious. She has been able to raise 2 million dollars and attract some top-notch scientists to find a cure for this disease. She touches so many with compassion and great laughter that you can only do one thing when you are in her presence…open your heart and laugh really loud.
Here is a newly documentary about Catherine and her website if you would like to make a donation. Please watch it! You will be inspired!
Why am I talking about Catherine’s journey? In many ways Cat helps me to answer that question that has became louder for the past couple of months. How do I show up in this world? What do I stand for? What do I fight for?
I got my answer…I simply need to connect to my gifts and uplift moment to moment. That is where I heal others and myself; that is where I keep my inner light going.
If we listen to the Yogis, the heart’s projection has a 60-degree angle. By nature the heart uplifts.
Uplifting has nothing to do with motivating; there is no agenda to make the other person feel better or have more energy. Each time you expect an outcome you are not in the heart center you are in your will, convincing, forcing and pushing.
Uplifting is not about ignoring what does not work either. You still commit to glow no matter what. If you embrace that quality, every cause you stand up for will not eat you up. More than ever before we all need to glow.
How do you uplift in your day-to-day life?
With much love
Tejpal
My Theme For This Year
As I was cleaning my files during the holiday season I found a piece of paper with this quote on it: “Everything is possible in your life if you approach it with humility.” I have no idea you wrote this; regardless, I started to ponder…
As a child the way I understood humility was: “be less, be small, be invisible”. The focus was on the ego; make it as small as possible. Later in my life I realized that humility is not about asking the ego to be small but is relying on the heart to be big. And moment-to-moment we have to choose what we say yes to: is it our heart or our ego?
The path of humility may not be the easiest one but the other one carries way too much suffering. We did not come on earth to win; we came on earth to heal. When humility is at the center of your life you are at peace with learning the same thing over and over.
Humility keeps us on our toes…there is no falling asleep…everything needs intention and attention …our health, our relationships, our hobbies, our work…
This year I choose to celebrate as much as I can with the quality of humility at the center. In this context, it is not about how great I am but how blessed I am.
Now what about you? What is your theme for this new year?
With much love,
Tejpal
Be The Light House
As we are approaching a new year my true wish is that you let go of setting goals for yourself. Bury that concept, burn it, dance around the fire …whatever speaks to you but once for all…drop it. When you set goals you simply limit who you are because you rely too much on your linear mind and your will. I personally don’t recall that reaching any of my goals made me happier; I always had a next goal in mind…
We are not linear beings we are spiritual beings. Our focus is to increase our vitality. More than ever before we need our vibration to be strong as we are constantly reminded of the political, economical and ecological chaos in our lives. We can pretend to ignore it but because everything is a vibration we still are impacted.
If you want more vitality keep it true. Stay connected with your wholeness, that means your light and your shadow. If you are running away from your darkness you will not experience your spiritual dimension you will not be vibrant. Stay human.
In this period that the Yogis have called “The Grey Period”, we can fall into our reactive patterns and be stressed or we can stand up in our light and be vibrant no matter what. More than ever before we need each others’ light. Yogi Bhajan used to say “Be the Light House”.
Happy holiday season.
With much love
Tejpal
How I Discovered Kundalini Yoga
Twelve years ago I was working with a therapist who was a Sikh and a kundalini yoga teacher, her name was Guru Ravi Kaur Khalsa. One day she mentioned about a kundalini yoga teacher coming to town to lead a workshop and in her detached usual way she said: ”you may like it.” As I was longing for deep personal transformation I went without hesitation.
When I arrived, I saw students seated on a sheepskin with their head covered. There was a wide diversity of people…old and young, male and female…I was taking it all in. After a couple of chants at the beginning of the class we started some series of exercises; some of them were odd and made me laugh. Our eyes were closed to stay within and be present to our own experience. Some of the exercises were physically challenging because of the repetition but very quickly I ended up experiencing my being as pure vibrant energy, invincible and free yet connected and present. As an energy healer working with energy patterns with my clients I was amazed of the sensation and the brilliance of this approach. At the end of the class I went to talk to the teacher and asked her for a daily kryia and meditation. I also mentioned that I wanted to become a teacher. She laughed and said: “ I created a bomb!”…Her name was Gurmuk Kaur Khalsa. I left the class with a sense of complete renewal… I was hooked.
Why Do I Practice Kundalini Yoga
At a very young age I was touched by anyone who committed to a spiritual practice. I explored many traditions and practiced essentially Vinyassa Yoga, Siddha Yoga, Bikram Yoga, Nichiren Buddhism and Qigong. One day I got introduced to Kundalini Yoga and at the end of my first class, I knew “I found home” and that I would become a teacher.
Every spiritual practice has unique gifts to offer. Kundalini Yoga has this no BS essence in it that fits my style. It has been called the Yoga of Awareness. This practice helps you break unnecessary patterns, take responsibility for one self, develop your intuition and support you to go through any layers of confusion, worries, anxiety or depression to connect to your true essence. In fact in the seventies, there were a lot of centers that used the technology of Kundalini Yoga to help people with drug addiction. It is a “cut the crap” practice …whatever the crap of the day maybe.
After ten years of teaching students and future teachers, I am always amazed of the efficiency of this practice. The transformation one goes through is a gift to witness. It brings simplicity clarity energy and inner stability in one’s life and from that place true happiness can emerge.
Now this practice touches me. I experience very quickly energetic shifts and a sense of expansion that I never came close to before. Often it will bring in me energy and pleasure and at time old emotions of anger or anxiety will come up to be cleared. One thing is sure; the practice of Kundalini Yoga has been my best teacher to love myself deeper than ever before.
How to Say Goodbye
Every culture has its own tradition. If we look at death in China people buy their coffins before they die and put it in a place where everyone can admire the luxury of it. In America, death is still taboo and we are doing everything we can without clarity to avoid aging or simply dying.
How do you say goodbye when it is time to let go of painful situations? For years I used to say goodbye by slamming the door with a lot of conviction stating how much I was right and how much “they” were wrong. We all know that never works: I was not able to deeply learn and surrender and in this process I was not able to say goodbye.
Saying goodbye is a vital skill that needs to be learned particularly in the time of uncertainty we live in. What do you want to say goodbye to in your life? Is it a person, a behavior, a thought? When you choose to say goodbye you truly grow from within.
If you say goodbye to some habits, a good amount of focus and determination are not going to be the answer. Your focus has to be towards your desires not your will. How clear and strong your desire is?
If you say goodbye to a person you need to allow your emotional body to go through its convulsion and commotion. That is the first stage of any transformation and each time you dismiss it you will prevent any healing to happen.
The culture we live in does not teach you how to say goodbye. If you go on a business trip you text before you take off, you text when you land, you text when you check in your hotel….and it keeps on going.
Saying goodbye is not rejecting, reacting, accusing or blaming, it is a healthy way of living…not always easy but it will bring you closer to your own truth and to your heart, closer to your spiritual dimension.
Be curious and explore…What and or who do you need to say goodbye to?
First write down a list and then connect to the clarity of your desires for each item. In some situations the fear may be to overwhelming and you may not be ready to take actions yet invite consciously your intent and trust that at some point you it will reach a level of simplicity.
With much love,
Tejpal
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Chill…Take A Deep Breath…
Every one has heard that sentence before and right there lays some ancient knowledge about the power of breath. Each time you change your breathing you change your thought patterns and with this your feelings. Any yoga practice includes conscious breathing to help you stay present to your inner experience and prevent your mind to run your life.
The practice of yoga started approximately 5000 years ago and its intent was to yoke/bring together the mind, body and spirit. Many schools of yoga emerged then focusing on different aspects. Patanjali (200/800 AD) was interested in creating a system that embraced all the different forms of yoga. He organized and codified into a system of 195 sutras the different knowledge approaches and philosophies. In this system he describes the eight limbs of yoga, which are essential for a yoga practice.
One of the limbs is called Pranayam, which is the ability to control the movement of Prana through breathing techniques. Prana means life force and Ayam means expansion. Pranayama is energy management. By practicing different breath techniques you develop your Prana and therefore promote your health, vitality and intuition.
There are many breath patterns from many spiritual traditions that create a very specific impact on your being. Do you want to develop your intuition? There is a breath for that. Do you want to reduce your anxiety? There is a breath for that. Do you want to develop your focus? There is a breath for that. In fact there are many breath patterns for the three mentioned above.
Most people breathe too shallow at a rhythm of fourteen times a minute, which does not bring a lot of vitality or stability of the mind. When you breathe eight times per minute you feel more relaxed. If you breathe four times a minute you increase your awareness and if you breathe one time a minute you develop dramatically your intuition.
Your breath gives you a glow. In fact the yogis used to say that your attraction factor is your Prana, therefore your breath. Do you want more glow in your life then come to Miraval and dive into the many practices of yoga you will be glad you did!
Reinvent Your Relationship With Forgiveness
In my 30 years of working with thousands of men and women I have noticed that most people misunderstand forgiveness.
The forgiveness process is a healing method to help you release old pains you are holding onto. The biggest obstacle lies in your attachment to the outcome. Too often you get so caught up in wanting to make the situation better that you skip the crucial phase of the forgiveness process, which is focusing on what hurts.
We don’t know how to connect to our pain. We live in an environment that promotes running away from pain. The amount of drugs available to relieve physical or emotional pain is humongous. The list of distractions to never experience our own feelings and thoughts is endless. By running away from our own pain we simply don’t know who we are, we have no identity. From there nothing can happen.
The common resistances to focusing on what hurts are:
“If I connect to my pain I will hurt more” or “I need to stay positive I don’t want to dwell in the negative”.
In these above statements, there is no heart connection, just an ego or mind connection. When you connect to your pain from the heart center you heal and grow.
What will it take for you to feel more connected at the heart center? Journaling is often an insightful process. The following is an exercise:
Everyday for three minutes or so list your pains (physical, emotional, heart or spiritual) without analyzing them, just write them down. Depending on the amount of healing work and personal process work you have already done, this process can take ten days or six months. For each of you it will be unique but if you trust the process, you will be able to drop in a place of neutrality where you become curious; that is the sacred space of the heart center.
If you want to truly forgive you need to connect to your pain. There is simply no shortcut. Trust this process if you want to feel more vibrant in your life.
With much love
Tejpal
“The Truth”
“We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”
Mother Theresa
Many generations, countries, families and organizations have fought for what they consider “the truth” in life. Under the name of truth, it has been acceptable to kill, reject, punish or abuse in many styles. But really the truth at the end of the day is just an opinion that you are holding onto really tight. What is true for you one day may not be true for you later in the year.
The day we choose to release the truth as the way to be, then becomes the day we start to practice humility…perhaps one of the most beautiful qualities one human being can experience.
Humility is the art of letting go and letting the ego go. As a healer I have been working for over 20 years helping people who are going through a diverse range of pain: cancer, leukemia, back pain, heart break, spiritual pain, etc. Even if I have a passionate style of working and sharing what I receive, I know what I don’t know. I know that the healing process is so complex that I cannot even pretend that I have “the answer”. Yet like all of us I need to practice humility.
Humility does not mean making yourself smaller. In fact, we came on earth to shine, share our gifts and that takes courage, patience and humility.
Humility means staying present and curious to your own experience.
How can we practice humility?
Start with setting back instead of jumping into conclusions and assumptions. Become aware of your inner experience throughout your whole body. Every day for three minutes close your eyes and do a body scan, a check in; give a voice to your sensations, emotions and flows of energy instead of your opinions. You will appreciate your wisdom knowing that the most important thing in life is not to understand each other but to experience each other.
With love,
Tejpal
Which Planet Are You Living In?
This past week during one of my workshops a young man who has three children raised his hand and asked me: “How can I be a perfect dad?” I was touched by this beautiful question as I could hear the purity of his intent… Bill wanted to be the best he could be for his kids. Yet I don’t believe we need to be or to follow a role model anymore; we need love.
We don’t need to be driven by perfection we need to be aligned with our heart. It is a different form of discipline that focuses more on listening and receiving than constantly showing the way and telling what is right or wrong. This discipline makes us shift from the ego to the heart.
- Your ego is driven by perfection; your heart is guided by connection.
- Your ego convinces; your heart inspires.
- Your ego strategizes; your heart has insights.
- Your ego dictates; your heart learns.
- Your ego avoids pain at any price; your heart connects to your pain and grows.
- Your ego is driven by fear and threat; your heart trusts.
- Your ego compares; your heart invites.
- Your ego anticipates; your heart lives in the moment.
- Your ego cannot be alone by itself; your heart loves to be with you.
- Your ego denies what could be uncomfortable; your heart faces everything.
- Your ego believes in impressing others; your heart believes in truth.
- Your ego makes you believe you act from the heart; your heart recognizes your ego.
In the time of crisis and uncertainty we are living in, we need to develop our “Thouness”, our ability to stay in the heart where we truly experience a sense of belonging and deep connection. In the heart we stay still, still with our pain, still with our limitations and still with our hopes. What would happen if this planet became stiller?
Choose one of the statements above that speaks to you and decide for 40 days to make that shift. Journal a few minutes a day and first assess your misalignments. Stay compassionate with your miss alignments. You cannot grow if you don’t practice self-love.
Do you want to shift from your ego to your heart?
Book a session with Tejpal.
40 Days Meditation For The Holidays and Transitioning Into the New Year
When I was little, I always had mix feelings about the Holiday Season. I was excited about the “stuff” I was going to get and at the same time so disappointed about the lack of connection, the lack of love. I felt empty, meaningless and was reminded of this constant existential pain I was born with.
In my teens, at this time of the year, I was dragging my feet shutting down and watching the family scene holding lots of judgments. In my twenties, I chose to simply dismiss myself from most family gatherings and was then taking the time for personal self-care such as reading, painting and playing music. In my thirties, I moved to the USA and was surprised by the length of the holiday season starting with the famous Thanksgiving. I learned one year at a time to relax a little more during that period of celebration and embrace it. I also chose to share my gifts as a teacher and a healer. Every year, I love to work part of Thanksgiving day to stay center.
My wish for the Holidays is that all of us can stay true to we you are. We are born with a lineage and a destiny and I do believe that if we take care of our destiny first our lineage will be taking care off. Open yourself to new ways of celebrating, mix traditions and create new rituals that help your heart to heal and open.
I have chosen a healing meditation easy for everyone to do. Your child or your grandmother can do it. Share this gift with many. Meditation is an act of self-love. In this time of chaos, your soul is your biggest ally. No one can kill your soul; no one can threaten your soul.
Crisis Kit For The Holiday Season
“You have the right to create harmony and you have the right to create crisis, nobody creates them for you. (…) There is just one way to get out, and that is to grow.” YBJ
Emergency Kits are usually used when you are in some form of crisis. And when you are, you may experience the following with your kit: some products are obsolete, you don’t know how to use them and you don’t have what you need in it. In brief, you have not prepared yourself for challenging situations.
In school, nobody taught you how to fail; everybody wanted you to succeed whatever that meant. When you focus on making the right decision you put lots of pressure on yourself and build up an ideal image of who you think you should be. Your ego is now running your life and you learn absolutely nothing.
The only place we can learn from is the heart. The only place we can grow from is the heart. Making the so-called wrong decision, getting an undesirable outcome, or experiencing deep pain are situations we all face. In life the most important aspect is not making the right decision but instead mastering bouncing back.
The holiday season always brings a myriad of emotions in each of us. Depending on your history you may experience more joy than pain and yet if you are really connected to yourself some memories will make you smile and some will make you cry. There will be hope, disappointment, gratefulness, excitement, pure joy and deep sadness. If we choose to welcome the diversity of our experience without getting locked into one them we are fine.
During this time of connection and reconnection with others choose also to enhance a reconnection with yourself. Enjoy the adventure of you.
To support you in this process I am giving you a special meditation:
Video 1: Four Misconceptions About Meditation
Watch this short video to tune in before practicing.
Video 2: Self-Healing Meditation For The Holiday Season
Practice this meditation 3 to 11 minutes a day until January. Share this practice with many around you and If you are in Tucson November 23rd, join me at Yoga 4 All at 6:30pm November 23rd to jump start your meditation .
Wishing inner peace for the Holiday Season
With Love
Tejpal
Your Fears Heal You
“Those who know do not need to get rid of darkness; they simply need to light a lamp.” ~ Osho
Most of our misaligned behaviors, perhaps all of them, come from a place of fear. If we are called to create inner peace and experience true love in our life, we need to be curious about that part of us.
Are you willing to experience your fears in a new way? Are you willing to sit with your fears, connect to the essence of them, taste them, smell them and see them?
If you want to experience true happiness, you need to be still with your fears. In this quiet space you can hear, listen, receive and learn from them. Once you can experience your fears without running away, you can transform yourself and experience the depth of love.
Fear and love are part of the same polarity. How deep you can connect with your fears will reflect how deep you can love. There are many exercises to help you explore your relationship with your fears and deepen your ability to love.
I suggest you journal on this two questions for a minimum of ten days:
- What is your biggest fear?
- What do you do to avoid it? Be curious. You may not know right away what is your biggest fear. Notice how much energy you spend on avoiding experiencing this particular fear and how much you step away from your authentic self when you do this. Once you are at peace with your fears, you are at peace with everything else in your life and then everything is possible.
Do you want to experience authentic happiness? Get an individual, Transformative One-on-One Session from Tejpal.
I will be working in Manhattan, NYC but I am currently sold out but if you have an urge to see me there I will add some hours. Please contact my assistant, Chris at Chris@SerenityVA.com for an appointment.
When: Oct 9th and 10th
Where: Tournesol Wellness
26 East 36th Street
New York, NY 10016
With Much Love Tejpal
Create Miracles In Your Life
As I am on my way to experience the well renowned healer “John of God” in Brazil, I have taken quite some time clarifying the true intent of this coming trip. John of God is well known for the miracle healings many have received in his presence and so… I wonder …what is a miracle? What does it take to create miracles in life?
It takes the ability to surrender. When we surrender we are engaged, we are not passive. We are co creating with this vast universe and beyond. When we surrender we choose to drop our fixed images of what we want; we give a voice to our desires and yet we are willing to be spacious, not attached to an end results.
This month, be curious about your desires and be curious about your expectations.
Are your desires coming from a place of fear or from your essence? For example, do you want to be in a relationship because you are afraid of being alone or because you want to learn to live more in the heart?
With each desire, notice some of your attachments and realize how they prevent you from creating your miracles. Write down your attachments every day, 3-5 minutes a day to give yourself a chance to co create miracles.
Do you want to develop your ability to create miracles in your life?
Book a Transformative One-on-One phone session with Tejpal
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When: Oct 9th and 10th
Where:Tournesol Wellness
26 East 36th StreetNew York, NY 10016
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When: Oct 15th and 16th
Where: New Moon Wellness
30315 Canwood Street, Suite 9
Agoura Hills, CA 91301
How Do You Relate To Pain?
I was reading a book this weekend about a friend of mine Janice, who was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2010. Today she is still active touching so many yet experiencing a new chemo treatment. I witness her beautiful and relentless spirit, her untouchable focus and ability to be so grateful day after day.
I also have two of my clients Carolyn and Laura going through major diseases; both have the same ability to celebrate in their unique style any victory they have.
These three women have mastered their relationship with pain. Janice has a foundation and she teaches; uplifting so many and bringing awareness about cancer prevention. Carolyn who is still in the early stages of treatment for Leukemia is at the hospital and blogs. Her insights about surrendering and being a spiritual warrior are priceless. Laura is experiencing multiple forms of cancer and is too weak these days to do much of anything but she focuses on gratefulness with so much depth. These three women rely on two things: their heart and their spirit.
Most of us when we go through any pain we go into more fear, worries, anxiety and we jump into the future saying to ourselves: “When is it going to end?” As I am doing some renovation in my house and experiencing an on going mess, I have asked that question more than once. When I went through a break up last October I wondered many times when the pain will end.
Our pain always gives us an opportunity to grow. We can pretend there is no pain and find a way to numb it. We can be busier, drink a little more, jump into a new relationship, or collapse and be depressed. Quite frankly there are many more options.
We can blame or we can learn. We can ignore it or we can grow through it. When you master how you relate to your pain you deepen your experience with joy. Choose to drop your thinking, step back from your emotions and go into the heart.
The heart is the only place that will teach you how to be still and present when you are in pain.
When you are worrying about your future you are not in the heart. As Janice was saying in her book*, “NOW spelled backwards is WON…if you stay in the now, you’ve won the day”.
When you are obsessing on how to get rid of your pain you are not in the heart, you are in your head. Your pain is not a problem to be fixed but a part of you to be explored.
Join me August 6th , at 6 pm Pacific. I will lead a virtual healing circle to help you experience the wisdom of your heart.
For an hour you will:
– Learn three specific meditations to help you be in the heart
– Experience healing processes to feel peace and release any agitations coming from your mind
– Understand your unique style and discover specific ways to embrace your pain and get insights
This is a time for transformation!
Join me August 6th at 6PM Pacific. Together our healing power is stronger. If you cannot make the call, this session is recorded.
*Janice M. Coggins, MSW
“OVARIAN CANCER?
You can NOT be serious!”
