What is your experience of commitment? Are you excited or are you afraid? Do you feel pressure or do you experience clarity?
Exploring your relationship with commitment will help you understand why you get or don’t get the things you say you truly want in your life.
Lets explore a few inner conversations you may hold ….
1- “I lose my freedom when I commit.”
Each time you truly commit to something you are fully engaged. When you are engaged, there is no space for the mind to wonder; in fact you are not in your head.
When you live in your head, there is no freedom, when you are engaged you are free. Each time you question endlessly your decision and your actions you are trapped with doubts, worries and fear.
2- “What if I commit to the wrong thing?”
The fear of failure is often a good obstacle for anyone to commit. Notice that I am talking about the fear of failure, not the failure itself. The thought of failing is what creates a resistance to commitment. When you think about the possibility of failing, your mind takes over and tries to figure out all the necessary steps to avoid failure. Notice that at this point you are not even thinking about succeeding but avoiding failure. Commitment gives you the opportunity to learn. Without commitment you can’t grow. I have been around the best harpists and the best golfers in the world. Their mastery comes from the quality of their commitment.
3- “Do I really have to commit?”
Yes at times, commitment feels like one more thing on your to do list. If commitment is only driven by your will, it will not last. Your heart, emotions and spirit need to say yes to your decision.
Commit from a place of truth…
Close your eyes and put your hands on your heart center. What does your heart says about the commitment you are thinking of making? Keep checking in and put your hands on your lower belly. How do you feel? Do you feel relaxed, numbed, or powerful? Now, access the energy around your body: what do you notice? Is there a feeling of expansion or contraction? Do you feel uplifted? Go within and start to notice your yes or your no, your resistance or your fears…Pay attention to your inner experience. You will be able to commit and create real breakthroughs in your life.
The notion of readiness is often the conversation of your mind. In the yogic tradition, we have three minds: the negative, the positive and the neutral mind. Your positive mind loves to dream and get excited. However, when it is time to take actions toward your dreams, the negative mind kicks in and gives you lots of reasons why it is not the right thing to do.
When I moved from Paris to New York 18 years ago, I was not ready. My English was not good and I did not have a secure income. When I decided to go to a four years healing school, I was not ready. I did not know how to pay for the school and I enrolled two weeks prior to the starting date. When I lead my first leadership program 25 years ago, I am sure I was thinking that I was not ready. I needed more knowledge and more experience.
Who is telling you that you are not ready to do something? Most of the time, it is your negative mind. It takes daily practice to be able to remember that your soul and spirit are way bigger than your mind. Do you want to be aligned with your mind or with your soul? If you choose to be aligned with your mind, it will take forever to make a decision. If you choose to be aligned with your soul, you have the opportunity to create vibrant joy and true meaning in your life.
Does it take courage to leap when you do not have all the information or the guaranties before you make a decision? Yes it does.
When you listen to your soul, you have to do one thing: commit. Once you say yes you need to take the necessary actions that will support what you have said yes too. The strength of your commitment is what will make you successful in what you want in life. It has nothing to do with how much you are ready or not. It is your spirit in action.
Here is my homework assignment for you:
Listen to your inner conversation and notice how often you are postponing a decision that is good for you. Make a distinction between the language of your spirit and the language of your negative mind and then decide what you want to do.
Do you want to listen to your spirit? Do you want more joy and meaning in your life? Are you ready for this? Then have a free 20 minutes discovery session with Tejpal.
When you start changing how you relate to anything, you drastically transform your life. The true magic always happens in relationship.
What kind of relationships do you want to create this year? Everything in life is about relationship. Buying something in a store, talking to your daughter, managing a project, or relating to others. When you carry inner conversations about who you are and how you feel, you relate to your own self. You also relate to the past, the future, the unknown, etc.
The year of 2013 is a number 6 (simply add 2+1+3), which is the archetype of the “Lovers” in the Tarot tradition. One aspect of this Archetype is about relationship.
Reinventing relationship starts with the Self. How do you want to nurture your Self this year?
Self-nurturance is a holistic process. How do you nurture your Self at the physical, emotional, mental, heart and spiritual level? Each of these levels is necessary to be taking care of if you choose to be vibrant and radiant.
Let’s explore these five dimensions through two different angles:
If you only nurture your Self at the physical level, your life will look like a treadmill…. predictable, boring, driven by will and therefore eventually depressing.
If you only nurture your Self at the emotional level, you are not grounded and too attached to what is going on around you. Your life becomes a rollercoaster.
If you only nurture your Self at the mental level, you isolate yourself and get lost into the world of thoughts. You may end up dreaming your life instead of living your dreams or you may overanalyze everything to a point where you cannot make any decisions.
If you only nurture your Self at the heart level, you don’t know how to set healthy boundaries and you lose your identity.
If you are only nourishing your Self at the spiritual level, you are simply flying in “la-la land”, praying for miracles to happen and you are not able to manifest the life you want in the physical reality.
If you ignore your physical dimension, you cannot access the spiritual world and you cannot develop your intuition.
If you ignore your emotional dimension, you become reactive because you are not paying attention to your needs.
If you ignore your mental body, your ability to learn and grow, slows down.
If you ignore your Heart body, you are deprived of the most important element in life. Your inability to give and receive will create tremendous pain and most likely tremendous distortions in your behavior
If you ignore your spiritual dimension, no matter how much wealth and love you may experience, there is a lack of meaning in your life and you cannot be fully fulfilled.
This year, choose and commit to nurture your five bodies. The inner strength and clarity you will get out of this, is priceless. That is the only way I know you can expand in your business and any kind of relationship.
You have heard that question over and over and most of the time you have answered very quickly with some signs of confidence and clarity.
But what do you truly want in life? Do you really know? How much do you believe in what you want? How much do you commit into what you want?
What’s in the way? Where are your doubts, resistance, and fears? How do they show up in your life and how do they manifest in your physical body?
How do you know that what you want is truly what you want?
Anything you want when connected to your truth always uplifts your spirit. Anything you want always makes you a better person. As your spirit gets more vibrant, your whole energy field radiates at a higher frequency of energy. You become more sensitive, more intuitive, more open to the many opportunities available to you. Your ability to attract and manifest increases tremendously.
Remember 90% of who you are is spiritual if we follow the Yogic tradition. Who you are is mainly your spirit and that is the one to listen to.
Simply ask yourself the question when you wonder the value of your wants in life:
Is my energy going up or down? Am I overwhelmed by fear or am I experiencing an inner smile?
Trust your experience and make a distinction between excitement and joy. The first one is reactive and the second one is coming from within. If your vibration does not raise when you connect to what you want, then what you are asking comes from a place of impulsivity or reaction. In this case what you want will never nourish you.
What if you still don’t know?
Some of you may not be able to know if their vibration is raising, most likely because you are stuck into your linear mind trying to figure out if what you want is a good idea. From that place, there is no sense of spirit in your life, no magic.
If you want to learn how to develop your spirit within and truly work with the intuition cards program, the exercises offered are priceless.
If you want to explore what you want and find out what’s in the way to what you want, truly participate in the Soul Lift Program www.tejpal-inspires.com/events/
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No matter where you are in life, how old or young you are, many of you keep facing the same challenge over and over.
Some of you have struggled in intimate relationships while others have had tremendous difficulties with trust or committing to what you want. Some of you wonder if someday someone will hear you or if they will understand you. Others wonder if authentic happiness is even possible in this life.
Whatever your situation is, each of you holds a unique karmic blue print that can either limit you, or propel you. Which do you choose?
For the past 25 years, I have focused my energy to help men and women to dramatically change the way they create their life to manifest what they want.
What prevents you to change?
The following are the main reasons:
- You don’t believe you can create a change in your life.
- You are not sure that is what you want.
- You go back and forth because you don’t want to make any mistakes.
- You don’t want to shift, instead you just want to stretch and stick with what you know.
- You have been extremely successful in the past and you keep going back to your old model to create something new.
- You let your fears run the show and from that place, you create a good story: you are confused…and you believe this is true.
The one thing that will support you to change…
How badly do you want to drop your old limitations? How deeply do you want to create something radically different in your life?
The foundation for change is based on the strength of your commitment. Commitment is a moment-to-moment choice, not a one-time decision. It calls on every aspect of your being. The anatomy of your desire, your hope, your self-image, your ideal self, etc. Every part of you is awakened.
This year I have decided to create a unique program that will assess at many levels, your life challenge and will help you to break through any limitations and resistance you may hold.
This program will help you drop the old, shift toward your deepest desires, and recreate an identity that is aligned with your essence.
Kick Off this program with 2 days in Tucson AZ, January 31st and February 1st.
Places are limited to 10 people and this program is by application only.
The Path Toward True Gratefulness:
Three Impactful Practices for Vibrant Living
Many teachers have emphasized the importance of being grateful. Yet too often we have miss understood the depth of this practice.
I have noticed two common habits around the art of being grateful that will limit your joy factor in life.
1- Most people practice gratefulness from a place of what they should be grateful for. In my practice, when men and women share what they are grateful for in their lives, ninety nine percent of the time, they talk from their head not from their heart. Their head tells them to be grateful for this or that but their being does not match what they say. Bottom line, they create a deeper disconnect between their true experience and their mind. This increases unhappiness.
2- Gratefulness is usually about what you have or the behavior of others around you. In this situation, your sense of gratefulness is only focusing on your surroundings. You have a new car, a new house, great vacation, a great support system around you, etc. While it is wonderful to appreciate, value and receive from your environment, you will most likely base your level of happiness on your outer reality. This limits you tremendously.
Focus on these three practices to truly experience vibrant living
1- Be grateful about who you are. Shift your focus from what you have or what is happening to you to who you are. What is the core quality within you that you choose to celebrate today? How do you express this quality in your life? Are there any ways you could express it more often? What will happen if you do?
2- Be grateful about the challenges you are facing in your life. Your biggest challenges in life are your biggest growth opportunities. When you truly receive the challenges you are experiencing, you have an opportunity to learn something about your personal limitations and from there to grow.
3- Be grateful for what you wish. What do you want to create in your life? Who do you want to become? Say yes to your soul’s longing and bring that longing into your present as if it is already there. It will help you shift your paradigm and create a life that matches your deepest longing.
Unleash The Power Of Your Intuition.
No matter what the outcomes are, if you choose to act, think and live from your spirit you will always win in life. Your intuition is the direct conduit between your physical being and your spiritual being. Your Spiritual dimension is your foundation. This is what gives you meaning and happiness in your life; that is what gives you the desire to grow and create a life bigger than your physical reality. Your wisdom and your insights come from your spiritual reality. Your sense of possibilities comes from your spiritual reality.
What would happen if you had all the intuition you ever wanted in life? Who will would you be and what would you do? Allow yourself to dream visualize and write down your answers. I suggest you to do this exercise every day for a minimum of a week; it will drastically open your horizons.
When you don’t listen to your intuition you limit yourself in many ways, for example your self-confidence is constricted, your ability to stay open and serene when you don’t have the answers you wish is limited and your decision making process is much slower and often too complex.
Without intuition in my life (I am not talking about my work), I would likely live in fear city and be much more reactive and negative about life.
My intuition has helped me to uplift my spirit, expand my horizon of possibilities, take risks with clarity, and experience much more inner peace.
What about you?
I have developed a system that will help you shift your relationship with your intuitive gifts. Quite frankly, it is the result of over one hundred workshops that I have led.
This program includes 8 life principles to explore and 26 concrete short practices (exercises) that will truly transform you. Learn more about Tejpals’ program.
Our mind likes to hang out in the “What’s Next Land” and it makes us believe that if we can answer that question we are good to go; we are safe, smart and we know! Happiness is just around the corner… Hmmm.
When I was managing an international team of consultants specializing in leadership development in Paris 20 years ago I thought I was so smart because I could define what’s next before anyone else. Yet, I also remember the level of anxiety and internal pressure I experienced everyday.
Today I work with courageous women (a few men too!) who want to redesign their life around their soul mission. They love to move forward and inevitably I will hear, “Once I do this then what?” I understand the anxiety, the will to commit and change. Yet if I had a plan for everyone ahead of time no transformation will happen.
We have forgotten the ways of the ancient spiritual masters’ teachings. Student’s had no clue what would happen to them and how long they would keep on doing the same thing. They simply trusted their master and had faith.
I am not a spiritual master but one thing I know is that nothing will replace your experience. Your experience does not lie in the knowing, your experience lies in the Being. You need to be in your physical, emotional, spiritual and heart experience. Your mind has to come last not first. It is only through your experience that insights will emerge, wisdom will appear and shifts will be created. Change never happens in your head.
Shifting from what is next to diving into the now of your experience requires help. We cannot change on our own. What you will get is a great sense of clarity and inner peace , a developed intuitive self and an ability to be radiant and vibrant. In brief the benefits are endless.
So when you catch yourself wondering what is next take a breath and smile at yourself.
With every achievement comes equal boredom. (…). In fact, achievement is boredom. Yogi Bhajan
Most of us have been raised with goal setting, and all the technology that goes with it. I have developed a negative reaction to this approach and feel constricted, limited and under pressure each time I hear that goal setting is the foundation for success.
I would like to offer a different formula. Commit to vibrant living to experience a life that is much bigger than yourself and your imagination.
Goal setting anchors you into your linear mind, vibrant living reminds you the strength of your spirit. What do you choose, your mind or your spirit?
Yogis have said that 90% of who you are is spiritual. Why are you putting so much effort on the 10%?
I don’t live in la-la land and I do appreciate financial abundance but first you need to trust the brilliance of your spirit and develop your intuitive skills to be at ease with your physical and spiritual reality. Being able to hold both dimensions will propel your ability to manifest moment to moment.
One Secret Teaching to Creating Vibrant Living
If I had a magic wand, I may first do more healing retreats as a participant, get more spa treatments, have a beautiful and simple house by the water, do some artistic workshops…and then what?
My soul would be kicking and screaming inside of me to get up and get going and share my life purpose which is to help ambitious women redesign their life around their soul mission.
When you design your life around your soul mission you take the risk to be happy. It is way easier and safer to be miserable and in pain than being happy and vibrant.
Choosing happiness requires one thing: Commit.
When you hear the word commit some of you may contract, shut down or run away. The common associations with the actions of commitment are lack of freedom, too much pressure, and fear of failure.
In fact commitment is your doorway to your freedom, your radiance and your true joy. The following are four main reasons:
- When you commit to something, there is a level of clarity and direction in your energy field that creates intensity and flow for manifestation at the physical level to happen.
- When you commit, you decide and go after what you want no matter what your environment is saying or doing. You don’t get impacted with the drama of the world, which will create doubts confusion and fear. Your environment is not running your life.
- When you commit, you anchor into the physical reality. If not you are dreaming your life and not living your dream.
- It is only through commitment that you can learn, grow and expand.
You can choose to wish creating a happy life and hopping magic to happen, or you can decide to commit to your soul longing and simply realizing that you are the magic wand….
What do you choose?
If you want to commit to Vibrant Living, fill out the Vibrant Living Questionnaire and get a 25 minutes complementary discovery session with Tejpal.
There are 2 important elements in your life that prevent you from living your purpose.
1- Your Perceived Negative Emotions
Negative emotions are fear, anxiety, sadness, terror, anger, rage, jalousie, resentment and vulnerability to name a few. When you spent energy avoiding experiencing a specific emotion you disconnect from your life purpose.
If you are terrified of anger, you may design a life that seems peaceful. Yet by not expressing your anger and shutting down, you may never create the necessary changes toward a vibrant life.
2- Your Perceived Negative Behaviors
Negative behaviors can be judging, rejecting others, comparing, lying, manipulating, etc.
If you are terrified of being rejected you will most likely design a life where you give too much and where you don’t speak your truth or set healthy boundaries.
If you are afraid of depression, you may design a life that is full of activities where rest can’t happen.
The emotion or the behavior that you are trying to avoid in your life simply run the show and become the foundation of your life design. You give them full power and can’t access your truth.
Remember that you are not your emotions or your behavior. You are much bigger. You are a spirit, a source of energy.
Write down the one emotion or the one behavior that you are avoiding and journal about that particular emotion or behavior, 5 minutes a day for 40 day. You will learn to accept this part of you, reclaim your essence and fulfill your purpose.
If you truly desire to fulfill your purpose, email Tejpal for a 25 minutes complementary discovery session.
We came on earth with a specific mission . Too many of us don’t really know what that is and go through life missing the biggest opportunity they have to experience real passion and authentic joy.
There are two main behaviors that prevent you to be curious about your soul longing.
1- You design your life around your talent
The environment you are born in often promotes short-term outcomes. You then focus on what you are good at and build a life around your skills instead of focusing on what brings you joy. Your talents become the foundation for everything but will only create a rush of satisfaction that will not last. You may become very successful at what you do and feel empty at the same time.
2- You design your life around your ideal identity
Too often your identity has become more important than your purpose. But truly, who are you? You are not your story, not your belief system, not your dreams or your despairs, not your social identity, not your credentials, not your successes or your failures.
When we are willing to go beyond the outcomes of our actions to define who we are, we have a chance to really be. The problem is that we get attached to who we think we are and we try to fit into that identity.
Redesigning your life around your soul mission means choosing to connect to your true essence instead of listening to your stories. You may decide to be distracted by your mind or you may decide to be fed by your spirit. Which one do you choose?
If you choose the path of your spirit, the following is an exercise for you to do.
Take a piece of paper and draw a big circle in the middle with 5 smaller circles on the outside. Write in each smaller circle one of these five qualities: Energy, Gratefulness, Inner-Peace, Joy and Compassion. Write down in the big circle anything that give you the opportunity to experience these 5 qualities. You may go back to this diagram for a week or for a month. It is the doorway to feed you soul and the first step to redesign your life around your soul mission.
With Joy 🙂
Your intuition expands when your essence, your soul, can shine through you. If you live in fear, anxiety or worries you cannot access your intuition. If you live in a fantasyland disconnected from reality your intuition will be misaligned.
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