There are a few things we don’t learn at school or in our family of origin; one of them is the art of saying no. People suffer from anxiety, ADD, sleep disorder, loneliness and much more. People also suffer from avoiding saying no.
In some countries saying no is perceived as a threat and your life can be in danger but that is not the case where most of you live. We need to practice saying no to gain clarity and inner stability.
If you say no from a place of anger, it is already too late. Your needs have not been met for quite a while, you feel rejected neglected or abused and your no is a reaction to what is happening. Yet at time anger is necessary to gain clarity and focus.
If you say no from a place of resistance that means your fears are running the show. Fear is the opposite of love; at that moment you are not present and not much is happening in your life.
There is one place to say no from; it is the heart center. The language of the heart is not about being nice it is about being true. The heart goes beyond the polarity nice/mean or good/bad. The heart carries neutrality clarity and peace. Your nos become a yes to you.
Explore your nos and assess them. Are you saying no enough in your life from your heart center? Are you present enough to who you are? Your values? Your beliefs, and what you care for? Are you committed enough to yourself to say no?
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