The Discipline To Be You
I have one wish for you
It is for you to be you
And forgive me for being so demanding
Forgive me for directing you, or imposing on you in a way
I own my distortion of hope for you
And in that hope, I am not conditional
There is no deadline, no one-way ticket
If you knock at my door
That is what I offer you, nothing else
Be you, beyond your physical attachments, your roles, your look, your age, your belongings, your relationships
Be you, awake and at peace with the constant unfolding of who you truly are
It takes discipline to be you
It will take actually all of you and more to never betray yourself from fear
Of not having enough, being rejected, failing, or whatever else you fear pulls you to do
It takes lucidity to look at your shadow and forgive yourself over and over
It takes trust
And the courage to die over and over
So that you don’t get attached to your fixed identity or what you think you know
The kind of discipline I am talking about
Is the discipline of the heart
If you realize that in the chaos of your life and mind there is no other way
Then knock at my door
And in the space between us, you will find You
Book your Transformational One-On-One phone session with Tejpal.
Reinvent Your Relationship With Forgiveness
In my 30 years of working with thousands of men and women I have noticed that most people misunderstand forgiveness.
The forgiveness process is a healing method to help you release old pains you are holding onto. The biggest obstacle lies in your attachment to the outcome. Too often you get so caught up in wanting to make the situation better that you skip the crucial phase of the forgiveness process, which is focusing on what hurts.
We don’t know how to connect to our pain. We live in an environment that promotes running away from pain. The amount of drugs available to relieve physical or emotional pain is humongous. The list of distractions to never experience our own feelings and thoughts is endless. By running away from our own pain we simply don’t know who we are, we have no identity. From there nothing can happen.
The common resistances to focusing on what hurts are:
“If I connect to my pain I will hurt more” or “I need to stay positive I don’t want to dwell in the negative”.
In these above statements, there is no heart connection, just an ego or mind connection. When you connect to your pain from the heart center you heal and grow.
What will it take for you to feel more connected at the heart center? Journaling is often an insightful process. The following is an exercise:
Everyday for three minutes or so list your pains (physical, emotional, heart or spiritual) without analyzing them, just write them down. Depending on the amount of healing work and personal process work you have already done, this process can take ten days or six months. For each of you it will be unique but if you trust the process, you will be able to drop in a place of neutrality where you become curious; that is the sacred space of the heart center.
If you want to truly forgive you need to connect to your pain. There is simply no shortcut. Trust this process if you want to feel more vibrant in your life.
With much love
Tejpal
From Suffering to Renewing
For many years I have been addicted to pain one way or another. In the womb of my mother I recall myself saying: “It is not going to be easy”. It ended up being pretty accurate as my childhood was a blend of sexual abuse and lies from my father’s side, mixed with severe depression and an ongoing attachment from my mother’s side to die.
Nevertheless there were also good elements; both my parents had artistic talents, boys and girls were treated the same and physical health (nutrition and physical activities) were always a priority. Having said that, love was simply not there.
For years in many of my relationships I was choosing my partners based on their pain instead of their essence.
During the first 33 years of my life I thought I would either commit suicide or end up in a psychiatric hospital. At work I was always taking on the most challenging responsibilities; I did not know the word ease.
It took me a while to allow myself to be free of pain and shine in the world.
As I have given coaching and healing sessions for the past 30 years to thousand of people all over the world, I know that pain is where magic can occur. The magic of transformation and healing is not about avoiding pain, it is about creating a new relationship with pain.
Come join me, Thursday August 6th at 6pm. Together we will learn and practice six different approaches to help you change your relationship with pain and gain tremendous insights for a renewed Self.
If you cannot make it, the session will be recorded.
Reinventing Your Relationship With Forgiveness
Every change you truly desire starts at the heart center. Your will or your mindset may be useful to support any transition you want to create in your life, but without the heart energy the changes you are making will feel stressful or will not last.
There are two important practices that enhance the energy of the heart: gratefulness and forgiveness. All of us can gain to deepen our relationship with both. When we experience our heart energy, we live in the present and are open to receive intuitive guidance.
Over the past 25 years I have witnessed with my clients a lot of pain, struggle and confusion around the theme of forgiveness. I often notice a genuine desire to forgive and yet the feelings of resentment, anger and confusion are still present. We know that when we truly forgive we feel free, spacious and ready to reinvent our lives.
- We will practice several meditations to expand the energy of the heart
- You will learn the 3 stages toward true forgiveness
- I will work with you, (during our Q&A), and share insights and healing to support you on your journey
Let’s create a beautiful time and bring our energy together for healing.
Click here to learn more about the Virtual Monthly Healing Circles.
