Develop the Warrior Within
As we are diving into a new year, one thing is sure, chaos and crisis are part of our daily lives. In this constant turmoil, we need to hold clarity from within, crystal clear clarity. We need to be driven by the essence of clarity that is not connected to our emotions, our opinions or our level of pain and pleasure; we need to be driven by the essence of clarity that comes from our true infinite identity.
Despite any challenges you may endure, if you stay true to your blueprint, clarity and simplicity will always be present in your life. From there, you decide how you want to show up and manifest your true purpose in life.
The warrior within you does not sacrifice pleasure, does not push force or pressurize, does not fight; the warrior within you commits to her or his infinite identity. As a warrior, when you experience pain or pleasure, the infinite part of you remains. As a warrior, the finite part of you, your ego and attachments, will not take over your true self. When this impeccable loyalty to your true self occurs, then life ‘s ups and downs will be manageable, then your life will have one focus: service.
Service, from a warrior perspective, is not caught into looking good or being lovable. Service simply is a lifestyle from the clarity of the heart.
If you are curious and want to explore how you can be more in touch with your true self, then book a session with Tejpal. Regardless of your choices, commit to your true identity.
With love,
Keep The Light On
Our responsibility on earth is to keep our light on no matter what. Whether we fall, we fail, or we hurt, we need to keep the light on. We have to decide that there is no other option.
I am not asking you to pretend that you are happy and ignore any parts of you that need healing. You can feel pain and keep the light on at the same time. We have all witnessed people facing drastic challenges yet smiling and shining.
We will all go through unexpected challenges at times, yet we have to decide clearly and be impeccable in our decision: no wishy-washy behavior, no “I don’t know how to do this,” none of this. You think what I am asking you to be is hard; in fact, it is easier to keep the light on than the other way around.
There is a spiritual warrior within you that needs to be awakened if you want to keep your sanity. You do it for you and others, as we are here to serve each other.
Your lifestyle needs to change. You need to be sure that no matter what you create situations that enhance your light: whether it is what and how you eat, the friends you spend time with, the activities you are involved in or the teachers you choose to learn from.
From your own light, you will not be part of the tsunami of noise; you will find peace the foundation for love. Keep it bright and keep it light!
Peace and love to all and happy holiday season!
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Be Empty
Feeling empty usually has a negative connotation. It means that we are depressed or exhausted and that our ability to bounce back is gone. The tradition we are living in does not promote the art of emptiness. If we choose emptiness, we buy less, and our economic model cringes.
Every time we celebrate, we usually create a notion of abundance by providing too much. Too much food, wine, gifts and we leave the table full, which creates within us apathy.
We live in a country where obesity is a significant problem. In 2016, 40% of adults and 30% of children were obese. We live in a country where we die by overeating. To be alive, unique and vibrant we need to practice emptiness.
If your physical body is constantly full, it cannot do its necessary cleansing; your energy goes down, and your ability to focus is damaged. Now think about your breath: if you are full, you cannot breathe deeply. When you don’t breathe deeply, you can get into many kinds of trouble: addiction, depression or anxiety to name a few. To inhale you need to be empty; to take in, you need to be empty. A spacious body will help you have an open mind.
Beyond the physical body, pay attention to how you live; clear your space. Space is the foundation for your creativity and imagination to blossom. When your surrounding does not distract you, you are more in touch with who you are.
The heart by nature cannot be too full; simply because love is space, love is flow; love is about sharing.
In business, if you are too busy, that means that you are good at what you do. We never promote space for nothingness even though it may be the only way you can see what is going on. Without space, it is hard to set priorities and truly reinvent the business if necessary.
Practice emptiness; you will realize that nothing is missing or lacking. Instead, you are creating the opportunity to feel your self fully, grow and open up to new possibilities and new meanings in your life.
With much love,
Be Connected
In the world we are living in, unplugging seems the thing to do as we can easily get overwhelmed with the number of threats, crisis’s and catastrophes. Staying away from the news and the noise is tempting and at times necessary.
Yet, being connected and aware of what is happening on this planet is our human responsibility. We need to learn to be with the chaos and any crisis that occurs without drifting away. We need to stay rooted and not sink in despair but stand up or sit still in the middle of the storm.
Decide how much information you can digest without being lost, depressed or agitated. Yet don’t hide. If a hurricane destroys a part of this country, feel it. If a culture is getting threaten and bombed, feel it; if injustice happens, feel it. Feel it and keep your light on; there is no need to add to any destruction already happening on earth, there is no need to bring more drama.
Our responsibility to stay connected and stable inside requires each of us to have a mind-body-spirit practice. Any breath practices that will engage your belly are always great options. To name a few, breath of fire or any pumping breath will create a solid foundation.
The time is not to hide and separate, the time is to connect. When we connect, new strengths, new visions, new skills, and new energy appear. The magic of this era lies in the quality depth and authenticity of our relationships. Let’s decide to extend ourselves and reach out further; let’s decide to go deeper.
With much love,
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Shift Happens
Workshop Jan.17-Jan 20 2019; Miraval Resort Tucson Arizona
With Tejpal MA, MBA and Shari Gootter MA, LPC
Hear it at many levels.
When shit truly happens in your life you may shut down, go into blame, anxiety, guilt, depression, victimhood, etc. In other words, you are stuck. Before you know it, you are trapped by uncomfortable emotions and an agitated mind that desperately tries to find a way out.
When shit happens it is time to shift. Instead of using your survival skills to get out of your unwanted situation, you need to completely reinvent how you relate to everything.
This “Shift Happens” workshop is the promise that no one has to get stuck no matter your circumstances. Shari and I are really committed to support each of you in this process. We both have experienced the shit and the shift.
Shari has dealt with J.R.A. at a very young age. When she was two years old, moving was a great challenge. Eventually, she ended up losing her sight. She also lost her brother abruptly. Today, Shari lives her life fully: she is a yoga instructor a leadership facilitator and a therapist. Her life is filled with many interests, many friends and a life partner.
I had my share of existential pain. For the first 33 years of my life, I simply wanted to commit suicide. After lots of therapy, healing, a few name changes, a new citizenship and a radical turn in my career, I am now at peace with myself and grateful about my life.
If you want to expand your horizon of possibilities and “unstuck”, if you want to feel free and alive, if you want to experience a deeper sense of meaning and gratefulness, then join us.
We are not telling you that this workshop is the answer to all of your problems, yet we are holding the space for you so that you can create deep healing and relate to this world in a new meaningful and loving way.
Are you ready?
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With much love,
Tejpal
“Vibrate The Cosmos And The Cosmos Shall Clear The Path” (Yogi Bhajan)
Today you may be at a crossroad in your life and seeking guidance.
The problem is, the more you aim for clarity, the more you use your linear mind and at times over-analyze everything. The results are greater confusion, more doubts, and worries.
My invitation to you is to look at any situation that you are in from a different perspective.
Instead of engaging your analytical mind, pay attention to your attention. Choose where and what you decide to focus on.
Instead of focusing on your problem, “Vibrate The Cosmos,” stay open and receptive; don’t go anywhere, don’t solve anything; receive and experience any problem throughout your whole body. Stay curious and tune in, be sensitive to your whole being. Surrender, let the cosmos in, let anything in, drop your walls and create intimacy with your environment.
When this happens, everything flows. At that moment you are not pushing, using your will or forcing an outcome, you are open and willing to learn.
To create this drastic shift, start practicing with elements of nature. Experience in your whole body, a tree, a plant, a flower, a cloud, invite them, be curious and sensitive to their essence …practice every day and then you may develop your ability to dance with the cosmos.
Are you ready to create more flow in your life?
With much love,
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Connect To Your Divinity
As human beings, we are faced with significant challenges that can elevate us or annihilate us. The way we relate to pain and pleasure is one of them. We believe that pleasure is good and pain is bad. We have a relationship with pleasure that is led by the emotional and mental bodies. In that context, pleasure puts you to sleep because it becomes a distraction or an addiction: more wine, more drugs, more jumping from one thing to another, etc.
When you experience the spiritual dimension of pleasure you expand, you are alive and vibrant; You Are Divine. To create that experience you have to do one thing, go in and drop deeper into your Self and stay.
As you learn to be with your Self, you transcend your thoughts and emotions, yet you pay attention to your senses, not from a place of cravings but a place of longing. You genuinely enjoy the realm of the physical, not from a place of reaction, but a place of choice and awareness. The spiritual experience of pleasure requires for you to commit to Self, moment to moment.
To benefit from the richness of commitment, start with a daily spiritual practice and learn to fall in love with your whole Self: the Self you like and the Self you don’t like. When this happens, you experience the stillness of love, the vastness of pleasure and your divinity.
What do you choose, buzzing, excitement or divinity?
With much love,
Stay Vibrant
How do you stay vibrant? One way is to reset your system to feel radiant and awake. But how do you do it?
I suggest you simply look at your daily rituals. How you dress, how you eat, how you pray, if you do, how you meditate, if you do, how you get up in the morning, etc. Your day is often filled with rituals.
The problem is that your rituals have a life of their own and you may have forgotten their purpose. If you are part of a lineage with a strong culture there are lots of rituals; and if you don’t participate in the rituals, you are out, you don’t belong, and in some cases, you go to jail or you are killed.
Depending on where you live in the world there are rituals linked to your gender, your age, and your social economic milieu. There are a lot of fights in the world about rituals, but a ritual is not the cause. It is a gateway to create a specific experience of inner peace, healing, clarity, grounding, forgiveness, etc.
First set an intent for your life. What are you longing for? Are you longing for peace, serenity, meaning, and/or healing? Then take the time to assess your rituals. Do they serve you and how?
Enjoy experimenting by dropping some of them, tweaking and or adding new ones.
Simply pick a part of your day and change one thing; you may be surprised about the outcomes. As Mother Theresa used to say “We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”
With much love,
The Best Medicine On Earth
I know… most of you would say that the best medicine on earth is Love. In many ways I support this statement: when one lives in the heart center there is a level of stillness awareness and presence that create a wonderful foundation for healing. Yet too often love is often confused with emotions, attachments and or loving something or someone …and so I have decided to look at something else…your breath.
“When you are short of wisdom, breathe.” Guru Nanak
We have a tendency to breathe between 16 and 20 times a minute with a shallow breath that does not give enough oxygen to the blood. A sweet tooth comes from a lack of oxygen in the brain. Lots of diseases are created and enhanced with shallow breathing. If you breathe eight times a minute you will become calmer. If you breathe four times a minute you are more aware, more intuitive and more in tune with the cosmic intelligence. You can go with the infinite flow instead of constantly fighting or worrying.
Your breath is directly connected to how you think and how you feel. A negative thought or action will make you breathe three times faster.
The way you attract people, the way you manifest is directly connected to your Aura, which is greatly impacted by the quality of your breath. In brief, your radiance depends on your breath.
Your intelligence has nothing to do with how many brain cells or degrees you have; your intelligence is based on the capacity of your breath. Choose to practice conscious breathing every day; it will transform everything within you and around you.
The following is a breath you can practice at least three minutes a day:
- Seated on a chair or in an easy pose on the floor.
- Eventually, close your eyes and focus on your third eye.
- Put each hand in Gyan Mudra (index and thumb together) on your knee.
- Inhale through the nose, hold the breath in and as you hold the breath in mentally vibrate the mantra three times: “I am light, I am I am.”
- Exhale through the nose, hold the breath out and as you hold the breath out repeat the same mantra in your head three times.
- End with a deep breath in, hold the breath in and apply Root Lock (squeeze sex organ, rectum, and navel) to seal and integrate the benefits of your breath.
Relax.
Much love to all,
The Life Pulse
Most of us want more joy and meaning in our lives. This is a beautiful longing yet it often becomes an attachment. The way we think our lives should create a roadmap for pain and distraction.
At almost 57 years old, I am amazed by how my life unfolds day by day in such unexpected ways…and I am learning and enjoying the process of detachment about a lifestyle…my life has many styles by the ways.
As you focus on your personal healing and transformation go within and pay attention to your life pulse.
The life pulse has four phases, expansion-stasis-contraction-stasis. This life pulse exists within every cell and every particle within the cell. Some of us get stuck in one phase and some of us skip some of the phases or force some of the phases. If you are attached to the expansion, phase thinking that life has to be exhilarating, expansive and creative all the time you are simply not connected to you. If you are in the stasis phase too much you are not respecting your true essence of personal growth and learning. And we know if you are in the contraction phase all the time it can be very painful.
In our society, we have valued the expansion phase of the life force. This is still a model that drives organizations and that drives how we look at health and vitality.
One of my best friend’s, who has a life-threatening disease, has learned to tap into the contraction phase by taking a three-hour nap every day. That has been her best medicine to challenge all the predictions of “not making it “ after 10 years.
Some of you will gain more peace when you go through a contraction phase. The problem is not the contraction but your perception of the contraction and your relationship with your own contraction. A happy pill…even if it is organic, will not be the first answer, but the last one.
Each phase is necessary for being vibrant and radiant in your life. If you are stuck in one for more than a few weeks then be curious. Is that serving you and how? What are you avoiding?
This month, go within and be curious about your life pulse and the life pulse of the people you love, you will develop compassion…one of the best medicines.
With much love,
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The Lesson Plan
What are you choosing to learn this year? How do you want to express yourself? What are your biggest challenges?
I came on earth with a very strong mind. At a very young age I was aware of people’s patterns and behaviors. I never was lost into the fairy tale of childhood; at time I wished. I was judging, observing and fearing the many distortions around me. Yet with this strong mind of mine, my heart was underdeveloped. Terrified to be loved, terrified to ask or need anything, I chose isolation and pride.
When the mind is not connected to the heart center, the mind divides and reacts. Fuelled by emotions instead of compassion the mind is too loud or too quiet, opinionated and never at peace.
I used to be a quiet kid, unhappy, unfulfilled, and the few times I spoke up I was too negative. At five or six years old my negative expression felt like poison to myself. At that age, I really wanted to be wise stable and compassionate; the gap was painful to experience.
In the time we are living in, we can choose to get lost in the flow of insanities out there and point the finger at the others or we can choose to go within, look at our own distortions and practice forgiveness to self.
In this lifetime, the heart is my great teacher. The heart is not fluffy, nice or soft; the heart is real in a beautiful neutral way. It invites me to stay stable, present and awake with compassion.
If you want to serve in any kind of way you absolutely need a daily practice that invites you to go within and really look without a story, without blame. You need to have a practice that really observes with compassionate stillness. When that is in place, decide how you can be of service as the options are endless.
With much love,
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How Do You Bounce Back In Your Life?
As I am looking at my own life, the lives of my clients and the on going tragedies that are happening in this world, I am asking the following question…How do we bounce back from a physical illness, the loss of a loved one, the destruction of a home, a complete lack of meaning in life or a sense of deep isolation? What are our options?
One of the most potent medicines in bouncing back is to create meaningful connections. You may or may not know how to create authentic relationships, how to ask for help, how to be real in your deepest places of despair, or how to trust the people around you…. Regardless, reaching out is certainly a key element in finding yourself again.
There is another component that I would like to emphasize today; I call it the Art of Falling. In order to bounce back you need to know how to fall. If you are too rigid when you fall you will hurt yourself; if you don’t let go you will break parts of your body. You need to allow yourself to touch the bottom; like playing on a trampoline you can ‘t bounce back if you don’t touch the bottom.
When you really fall you are able to experience a sacred space where the swirl of emotions does not overwhelm you anymore; you become stable and lucid, there is nothing more to loose.
The mind does not know how to fall; the mind wants to be safe. The heart knows how to fall simply because the heart is not driven by fear or the future. The mind on its own has a distorted relationship with pain…either it runs away from it or it is addicted to it.
How deeply can you let yourself fall? How deeply can you feel your own pain, despair, anxiety or loss? If you go deep your will heal yourself and the pain will shift to a more spacious and sacred experience.
What do you do to avoid falling? Do you make yourself busier? Do you abuse your body? Do you blame your circumstances? What do you do? Learn to fall if you want to bounce back. Learn to fall if you want to grow and experience peace in your life.
With much love and gratitude for being part of my life, I wish you a great holidays season.
Reinventing Celebration
As we are approaching the holiday’s season, lets assess how we celebrate: we eat too much, drink too much, talk to much, stay up too late, watch too much football, prepare too much food or engage into too many activities. This “too much” pattern is often part of what we call celebration. It looks to me more like self-destruction.
For years I used to hide behind my work seeing clients on Thanksgiving Day. I have learned to be a Thanksgiving gypsy…not work anymore, connect to nature and land for a little bit of time in one or two gatherings. It is still not my favorite time of the year but always a learning opportunity to soften in the discomfort.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we chose to approach celebrations as a healing opportunity? Wouldn’t it be nice to bring the quality of sacredness in any celebration? There is one element that is the foundation of sacredness and healing, this is Space.
Being spacious is not about being distant; it is not about disconnecting or minimizing your time with any loved ones. It is creating space in your attitude, in your listening, in your seeking, in your love and in your actions.
Love is space so that everyone can unfold in its unique and mysterious way moment to moment. Love without space becomes purely emotional and that is signing up for a rollercoaster of suffering.
Healing is space so that every part of you can change its own pattern and create a new way to exchange energy. Healing without space becomes rigid in the process and it will not work.
My wish is you decide to be spacious during the upcoming celebrations. You will gain awareness and your heart will thank you.
With all my love,
Boredom…
When I invite my clients or students to do a daily spiritual practice, very few end up really doing it. I have heard many stories…stuff gets in the way…kids, work, health, family crisis, etc.
The real truth is that most of you are bored with yourself…yup…most of you are like a little kid that needs to be distracted every so often. And because it is so easy to get distracted these days you get bored even faster. Now you are not the only one! I can relate now and then!
If we get bored with ourselves so easily…then our life is going to be full of distractions, attachments and we will go through a constant emotional rollercoaster. The one thing we need to do is to fall in love with ourselves again and that is a discipline.
Loving yourself is not about liking yourself. Loving yourself is about embracing all of who you are, your light and your shadow. It is about accepting with kindness, your beauty and your limitations. Loving yourself is a practice that helps you to stay away from the polarity of the positive and negative minds.
The most efficient way to get there is to have a daily spiritual practice. As you do it you go beyond pain or pleasure, you become less reactive and impulsive. You have a chance to experience inner stillness and from that place you can see clearly and make life choices that are truly meaningful to you.
There are many kinds of spiritual practices. Today I am offering you a meditation from the Kundalini tradition that will balance your nervous system, create stability and bring you serenity. Do it with me for 40 days in a row and let me know how you are doing!
How Do You Pray?
We have many opportunities to pray as constant chaos and losses are happening on earth. The simple question is: how do you pray? Like many of you, in my younger age, I have begged and bargained in my prayers; I have prayed from a place of victim asking to be saved.
Praying is the opposite of begging; when you beg you loose your power and when you pray you are in your power. I am talking about spiritual power which the ability to experience oneness and stay connected with your true self.
When you pray, no matter what you do at the physical level, spiritually you are standing up. If you are praying on your knees, the purpose is to collect yourself not to make yourself so small that you don’t know what to do anymore. At that moment you raise the vibration within you and within the situation or people you are praying for.
Each of you is gifted with the power of prayers. Yet if you get attached to a specific outcome you loose your spiritual connection and no healing can truly occur. We can’t really control the physical delivery of our prayers but we can shift the energy and from there things will unfold. Pray from a place of inner power like a true spiritual warrior.
With Much love,
Tejpal
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Exploring Transitions
Every day, all day long we are going through constant transitions: waking up, eating, driving, sleeping, reading, watching, playing,….to name a few. And yet how do we transition from one thing to another?
In life we spend a lot of time anticipating and being prepared for any kind of transitions but we don’t spend much time in practicing staying awake and aware during the time of transition. We like to plan as much as we can but …how about the unplanned transitions? Like…getting sick, going through a break up, loosing someone, getting fired, having a loved one getting sick, losing a contract, being in a car accident, etc.
Anticipation is certainly a good thing up to a point. Some of you are only interested in what is next as if your mind always needs something to chew on to prevent feeling boredom, lack of motivation or depression.
A beautiful spiritual practice is staying awake during our time of death, our ultimate transition while we are on earth. As I was participating in a dream yoga workshop a couple of weeks ago that has been a new focus for me.
During that workshop we had a nap everyday and one of the exercises was to mindfully transition to a resting time. I was amazed of how much my mind was all over the place like crazy…laughable at some point…and so I invite you to explore…
When we are able to stay stable with our mind during any time of transition the chaos of life is not going to bring us into neurotic behaviors. The Tibetan have mentioned that if we die unconscious then we will return on earth within 49 days doing the same thing over and over.
Regardless what your spiritual preferences are, staying conscious during any transitions is certainly a beautiful practice. You learn to develop a stable mind so that you can free yourself from listening to the constant rumbling of your thoughts. You can connect to your true essence and from there feel your vastness.
Pick one transition; maybe it is your wake up time or sleeping time…or perhaps it is before and after a meal…or before and after a visit with someone…Be curious…be aware about your thoughts, emotions and sensations….you will first realize how unstable you are but with regular practice you will gain inner clarity and inner peace.
With Love
Tejpal
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That Thing We Call Death
Once, Osho, the great Spiritual Teacher, said something like this: “Life and death are not opposite. Ego and death are opposite”. …And I got inspired…
Life is always about transformation, transmutation and metamorphosis. Life is always about healing never about achieving. The key element to health and healing is death. If you can’t die you can’t heal. If you can’t let go of your attachments, your beliefs, your stories and your behaviors you can’t heal. Death is the foundation of transformation. If you choose to be vibrant and alive then accept the dying process.
What is in the way to your healing? Your resistance to dying. You want to heal without dying and it simply does not work.
Be curious about your ongoing resistance…how you shut down, how you step away, how you choose to focus on the causes of your unhappiness or disease.
Allow yourself to experience parts of your being that are new to you.
Allow yourself to look at your light and darkness without any stories around.
Just feel yourself deeper. That is where you will find inner peace and awareness. Pay attention to anything you have been saying to yourself for years: “I really want to change this or that”. Ask yourself this simple question: what part of me is ready to die? Is it my lack of trust? Is it my need for constant approval? Is it my fear of being alone? Is it my self-judgment?
What attachments, stories, beliefs, behavior, thoughts or relationships…am I really to let go?
Only then you experience the sacred within you …and that is the first step of healing.
With much love,
Tejpal
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Faith Can Limit You
Faith has been called upon by many of us particularly when we are facing challenges or are at a crossroad in our life. The practice of faith brings beautiful qualities; it supports us to stay humble, open and to surrender to the laws of the universe.
Yet if we jump too quickly into the “faith wagon” we may never get what we are looking for and we will never heal or learn anything. When the practice of faith is not anchored into our physical being it becomes an empty prayer, a spacey ritual or at time a begging.
The roots of faith connect to the quality of trust. If your relationship with trust is out of alignment so will be your faith. First assess how trust shows up in your life. What do you need to trust someone in a business environment or a personal relationship? What do you need to trust your golf swing, your dance performance or anything that will invite you to express yourself? How much do you respect and accept that part of you? Every culture, every tradition has a unique relationship with trust. Be curious about your needs and choose to honor them.
The way you trust may fit into these categories:
- You only rely on your mind and data: the more information the better.
- You let yourself be guided by impulsive pleasure and listen only to your emotional body.
- You struggle with your intuition to figure out what is next; you are caught in the mind.
- You dissociate into the spiritual dimension pretending everything is fine and God or the Universe will take care of things.
These are four styles of distortion, as they are not paying attention to your fears. There is only one place that is real about who you are, your fears and your needs: your heart. There is only one place that will give you true insights: your heart.
Be curious about who you truly are if you want to experience the beauty of faith.
With love,
Tejpal
Open Your Sky
In my practice I notice that most people spend lots of time listening to their thoughts instead of listening to their experience. That pattern is the same when it comes to listening to others. If you are thoughts focused you create lots of pollution in your system. When you pay attention to your experience you nourish yourself. That is the essence of self-love.
Many of you are amazing achievers. Your accomplishments are often outstanding yet your self-care and self-love are lacking. You have used your will and your brilliance in a limited way…and my wish is that you choose to open your sky.
When you choose to listen to your experience your life opens up to unknown possibilities. Are you courageous enough to love yourself? Now…I am not talking of the love and peace movement of the 70s or romantic love; I am talking about love, the ultimate form of commitment, the ultimate discipline that will expand your awareness and intuition.
This discipline goes way deeper than a discipline that comes from your will. I have experienced both and I know the difference.
In my mid 30s and early 40s I was will driven. I ran the NY Marathon (and I never liked running), road bike races and played in golf tournaments. Everything was outcome-driven. Each time I won I felt empty, sick and dry inside. When I did not win I had to focus on the next event.
Self-love has a different flavor. You are curious, sensitive to what is and stay with any type of discomfort. From that ever-changing place of yours you listen and you create your day.
When you choose to connect to your essence there can be pain but no drama. There can be joy but no frantic excitement. You dramatically enhance your awareness and make decisions aligned with your true essence.
Are you ready to open your sky?
With much love and healing,
Tejpal
What Is The Purpose of Healing?
As I have been “sitting around” for the past 12 days or so healing from a knee replacement, I have contemplated the following question: What is your first response when someone asks you about the true purpose of healing?
Is it to feel better? Have more vitality? Gain more joy? Get rid of your pains? All of these answers sound pretty good to me but that is not the ultimate purpose of healing; these benefits are the side effects of the healing process.
The ultimate purpose of healing is to develop your relationship with your true self, beyond your titles, your credentials and the different roles you are taking on as a mother, a father, a leader, etc. Some of you may say is that it? That does not sound like too much fun!
Let’s list of few benefits:
- We make decisions that serve our heart not our ego.
- Our emotions are not leading our life; they are part of it.
- We are less reactive.
- We are able to experience more inner stillness in time of chaos.
- We are more aware and curious.
- We are more authentic.
- Our intuition expands.
The process of Healing brings us closer to our true self and from there our awareness expands tremendously. There is a sense of unity that is priceless to experience particularly when we are hitting a wall…any wall. And so be curious this month about what distracts you and what helps you to connect deeper with you!
With much love and healing,
Tejpal