You and Your Mind

“It (your mind) is so dangerous that you can do things that are delusional, imaginative and unintentional. And equally, it is so beneficial that you can create things that can be miracles.” Yogi Bhajan

You already know this: your relationship with your mind can generate great joy or great turmoil. Your relationship with your mind can create peace or anxiety, serenity or depression, stability or agitation.

The biggest problem is that you think you are your mind: every time your mind goes somewhere you go with it. When this happens, your mind owns you and from there you will develop a series of distorted behaviors that mirrors the patterns of your mind; the cycle never stops. When you follow your mind, you don’t know what the roots of your pain are, (as your mind will give you a good story about all your insecurities), and you can’t never heal.

The second important challenge is that you ask your mind for clarity. Your mind, if it leads your life, will always bring confusion. When you desperately look for answers, you disconnect from your true essence and eventually you don’t even know what you were looking for; you are now looking for answers to questions you don’t have.

When we realize how silly we can be with our own mind, then we have a chance to center and remember who we truly are and what needs healing. To create space between you and your mind you need a particular lifestyle that is unique for each of you. Of course, I can help you if you wish.

When you relate to your mind as a system of integration and synchronization instead of a chief in command, when you relate to your mind as a sensory system instead of an authority figure telling you what to do, then you can access everything known and unknown with peace and clarity.

With much love,

The Gift of Confusion

The Gift of ConfusionThe major problem with confusion is that you reject it: your linear mind gets agitated like a wild animal in a cage trying to find the exit.

Depending on your personality, you may push through your wall of fog to gain clarity; you may be anxious or depressed.

On my side, I am really happy when you get confused: you now have the opportunity to change your old paradigm; if you are not confused, you are not learning.

At times, you get confused because you are overthinking.

Confusion teaches you the art of listening to all the parts of you, not just your mental dimension.

Confusion also allows you to readjust your tempo: when you are confused, you need to slow down. Often you go the other direction; you get impatient ready to put the foot on the accelerator, desperately looking for an answer.

Some of you often ask me if your confusion is a resistance to change or if it is the necessary stage toward transformation. Most likely, it is both as every time we go through a transition, we experience resistance.

When you realize that the time of confusion is precious, you will be able to drop deeper into yourself to heal and nurture some parts of you that you did not know about. Confusion teaches you to stay present and vigilant, not from a place of fear but a place of curiosity.

If you want deeper peace and connection to your self and others, always allow confusion to be, as it is a great teacher for your mind and healer for your life.

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The Discipline To Be You

I have one wish for you
It is for you to be you
And forgive me for being so demanding
Forgive me for directing you, or imposing on you in a way
I own my distortion of hope for you
And in that hope, I am not conditional
There is no deadline, no one-way ticket

If you knock at my door
That is what I offer you, nothing else
Be you, beyond your physical attachments, your roles, your look, your age, your belongings, your relationships
Be you, awake and at peace with the constant unfolding of who you truly are

It takes discipline to be you

It will take actually all of you and more to never betray yourself from fear
Of not having enough, being rejected, failing, or whatever else you fear pulls you to do
It takes lucidity to look at your shadow and forgive yourself over and over

It takes trust
And the courage to die over and over
So that you don’t get attached to your fixed identity or what you think you know

The kind of discipline I am talking about
Is the discipline of the heart

If you realize that in the chaos of your life and mind there is no other way
Then knock at my door
And in the space between us, you will find You

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Space versus Time

Space versus Time

Space versus Time

I am not a physicist nor a scientist, yet I know that human beings are caught in the time dimension. Everybody wants to look thirty at the age of sixty and forty at the age of eighty: there is a booming anti-aging market. If you only live in the dimension of time, you will always be stressed and never at peace with anything.

Time is an illusion and an addiction. If you constantly run all day long trying to accomplish as much as you can in a limited amount of time, your life becomes meaningless. If you relentlessly try to beat the aging process, you will have deep inside, constant anxiety and agitation. Time without space engages your linear mind, which is simply never satisfied.

We live in a century where we need to change our sensory system and engage space more than time. If you relate to yourself and everyone around you with space instead of time, you will connect to the intrinsic quality of everything. There is only one part of you that understands space; it is your heart.

If space is the essence, then you experience the energy of everything first. If space comes first, you have to go within your own body, sense it, feel it, and be still. The period we live in is in constant chaos and to have clarity and peace; you need stillness. That is the gift of space.

When you bring space first, you become the host for everything. You can still be on time, but time becomes effortless and secondary; you are present.

To deepen your connection to space, a daily spiritual practice that challenges your patterns is certainly a first step.

With much love

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Be Uncertain

Be Uncertain

In our culture, we don’t really know how to welcome uncertainty. Our economic model is based on predictability, and at a personal level, we often get excited to see a psychic who can give us information about our future. But let’s face it, are we really feeling that good about certainty?

Our mind feels threaten when uncertainty occurs, and it creates a deep level of insecurity within us. If we could only drop into our physical experience, deep enough to be able to connect to the core of who we are, we would realize that uncertainty is simply being. We would understand that uncertainty is at the center of our identity.

If we stay stuck into our finite social identity, we will never understand what uncertainty truly is. We then use our will and positive thinking to believe that uncertainty is great, but within us, there is tension and fear.

If you connect deep enough within yourself, uncertainty becomes awareness and presence moment to moment. If you drop deep enough into your inner experience at the cellular level, you will experience your infinite self. This may seem a contradiction, but the more you are connected to your physical experience the more spiritual you can be. From there everything is by essence uncertain. One breath at a time, and if you stay there, you will experience the depth of the universe between each heartbeat.

Without any connection to your spiritual self, uncertainty is something you will try to avoid at any price. Your linear mind makes you think that anxiety is fed by uncertainty; in fact, anxiety is led by addiction to certainty. When you realize that knowing from the linear mind is not all we are then you can embrace the constant chaos of life.

We have to train our way of thinking to be able to welcome uncertainty. Instead of pushing uncertainty away, choose to embrace it to experience wholeness within.

With Love,

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Be Cool

If you are in your teens, you know that being cool means having the right look, the right social media platform or the right hobby. In brief, if you are cool, you are in. If you are a hippie dude from the seventies, being cool means that you are laid-back, you don’t sweat the small stuff, and you take it easy.

Now if you don’t fall into these two categories what am I talking about? I am talking about your ability to stay peaceful and still inside no matter what.

If we listen to the yogis, we are made of five gross elements: earth, water, fire, air, and ether. Each element plays a role in our system and has a unique set of qualities. The balance of these five elements supports our health and happiness.

The energy of fire is necessary to digest and process food. It also feeds our courage, passion and allows anger to be expressed.  It helps us to be focused and resilient. Yet, too much fire in our life is extremely consuming: everything becomes a source of irritation, anger or anxiety.

If you live mainly on the energy of fire, you may have a lot of energy, but you consume a lot as well. Chances are you end up being at the center of everything which does not serve you and the people around you: your impatience and reactivity are too loud.

Practicing being cool is choosing to stay away from yelling and screaming as an ongoing communication style; it is choosing to step back instead of jumping in, it is being considerate of the impact of your words, thoughts and actions for yourself and the people around you. 

Being cool is not pretending that everything is great. There is no need to wear a mask or the emoji sunglasses 😎; we want you to be true to yourself and still feel a wide range of emotions.

After an intense physical exercise, cooling down helps you to relax and recover faster. The same applies in life if you get caught into unnecessary heated conversations remember to cool down so that you can move on quicker.

With Love

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Birthday Wishes

What do you want for your birthday?

On my end, the answer is very simple. No one can give it to me, yet everyone can teach it to me. Whether because I witness you mastering it or struggling with it. If my heart is open enough, I will be able to learn it from each of you.

My birthday wish really feeds my soul and helps me go through any challenge, any loss, any struggle, any rejection, and any illness. I cherish it tremendously, and I am so grateful for it. It is really simple: it is Peace.

Being peaceful does not mean being quiet or discreet. One can be colorful and peaceful. It does not mean agreeing with everyone or everything; it means that we don’t become impulsive or don’t fall into drama. We approach situations as they are not as we wish they should be.

Peace requires simplicity and with it extreme clarity. For some of you when life is too simple, you are bored, and you are looking for excitement or troubles. Peace can’t be true says your mind. As soon as you become a thinking being, fear sneaks in, and your true intelligence disappears.

When peace is your foundation, the land in which you unfold, if you cry or if you scream, if you panic or if you are exhausted, you will allow it to be. You will not make up a story, complain or manipulate.

Peace is your true identity; be sure to create a lifestyle that enhances that part of you.

With much love,

The Purpose of Discipline

The Purpose of Discipline

What is the purpose of discipline? Is it about achievement? If discipline is outcome driven, you will never be at peace or content. You will always run after the next challenge, and often the results you are chasing will own you. At that moment you disconnect with your true infinite self and you are trapped into the finite.

The purpose of discipline is not about keeping your body fat at 20% or less, not eating your vegetables or sleeping the right amount of time; the purpose of discipline is to live beyond the polarity of your emotions. If you get stuck into the world of emotions, you will go through highs and lows, excitement and depression, addiction and reaction, seduction and rejection; in brief you will not access the wisdom of the heart and its stability. Emotions are wonderful when they are part of a whole spectrum of life not when they take over you.

When you go beyond the polarity or your emotions you are free; you can access the clarity and neutrality of the heart. From there you have direct experience with your infinite self; it is not a concept anymore it is palpable.

When you remember that discipline is about staying connected with your infinite self, then your discipline does not become a chore, then you don’t identify yourself with your accomplishments or failures, then you realize that discipline is simply the path to happiness.

With much love,

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Develop the Warrior Within

As we are diving into a new year, one thing is sure, chaos and crisis are part of our daily lives. In this constant turmoil, we need to hold clarity from within, crystal clear clarity. We need to be driven by the essence of clarity that is not connected to our emotions, our opinions or our level of pain and pleasure; we need to be driven by the essence of clarity that comes from our true infinite identity.

Despite any challenges you may endure, if you stay true to your blueprint, clarity and simplicity will always be present in your life. From there, you decide how you want to show up and manifest your true purpose in life.

The warrior within you does not sacrifice pleasure, does not push force or pressurize, does not fight; the warrior within you commits to her or his infinite identity. As a warrior, when you experience pain or pleasure, the infinite part of you remains. As a warrior, the finite part of you, your ego and attachments, will not take over your true self. When this impeccable loyalty to your true self occurs, then life ‘s ups and downs will be manageable, then your life will have one focus: service.

Service, from a warrior perspective, is not caught into looking good or being lovable. Service simply is a lifestyle from the clarity of the heart.

If you are curious and want to explore how you can be more in touch with your true self, then book a session with Tejpal. Regardless of your choices, commit to your true identity.

With love,

Keep The Light On

Our responsibility on earth is to keep our light on no matter what. Whether we fall, we fail, or we hurt, we need to keep the light on. We have to decide that there is no other option.

I am not asking you to pretend that you are happy and ignore any parts of you that need healing. You can feel pain and keep the light on at the same time. We have all witnessed people facing drastic challenges yet smiling and shining.

We will all go through unexpected challenges at times, yet we have to decide clearly and be impeccable in our decision: no wishy-washy behavior, no “I don’t know how to do this,” none of this. You think what I am asking you to be is hard; in fact, it is easier to keep the light on than the other way around.

There is a spiritual warrior within you that needs to be awakened if you want to keep your sanity. You do it for you and others, as we are here to serve each other.

Your lifestyle needs to change. You need to be sure that no matter what you create situations that enhance your light: whether it is what and how you eat, the friends you spend time with, the activities you are involved in or the teachers you choose to learn from.

From your own light, you will not be part of the tsunami of noise; you will find peace the foundation for love. Keep it bright and keep it light!

Peace and love to all and happy holiday season!

 

 

 

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Be Empty

Feeling empty usually has a negative connotation. It means that we are depressed or exhausted and that our ability to bounce back is gone. The tradition we are living in does not promote the art of emptiness. If we choose emptiness, we buy less, and our economic model cringes.

Every time we celebrate, we usually create a notion of abundance by providing too much. Too much food, wine, gifts and we leave the table full, which creates within us apathy.

We live in a country where obesity is a significant problem. In 2016, 40% of adults and 30% of children were obese. We live in a country where we die by overeating. To be alive, unique and vibrant we need to practice emptiness.

If your physical body is constantly full, it cannot do its necessary cleansing; your energy goes down, and your ability to focus is damaged. Now think about your breath: if you are full, you cannot breathe deeply. When you don’t breathe deeply, you can get into many kinds of trouble: addiction, depression or anxiety to name a few. To inhale you need to be empty; to take in, you need to be empty. A spacious body will help you have an open mind.

Beyond the physical body, pay attention to how you live; clear your space. Space is the foundation for your creativity and imagination to blossom. When your surrounding does not distract you, you are more in touch with who you are.

The heart by nature cannot be too full; simply because love is space, love is flow; love is about sharing.

In business, if you are too busy, that means that you are good at what you do. We never promote space for nothingness even though it may be the only way you can see what is going on. Without space, it is hard to set priorities and truly reinvent the business if necessary.

Practice emptiness; you will realize that nothing is missing or lacking. Instead, you are creating the opportunity to feel your self fully, grow and open up to new possibilities and new meanings in your life.

With much love,

Be Connected

In the world we are living in, unplugging seems the thing to do as we can easily get overwhelmed with the number of threats, crisis’s and catastrophes. Staying away from the news and the noise is tempting and at times necessary.

Yet, being connected and aware of what is happening on this planet is our human responsibility. We need to learn to be with the chaos and any crisis that occurs without drifting away. We need to stay rooted and not sink in despair but stand up or sit still in the middle of the storm.

Decide how much information you can digest without being lost, depressed or agitated. Yet don’t hide. If a hurricane destroys a part of this country, feel it. If a culture is getting threaten and bombed, feel it; if injustice happens, feel it. Feel it and keep your light on; there is no need to add to any destruction already happening on earth, there is no need to bring more drama.

Our responsibility to stay connected and stable inside requires each of us to have a mind-body-spirit practice. Any breath practices that will engage your belly are always great options. To name a few, breath of fire or any pumping breath will create a solid foundation.

The time is not to hide and separate, the time is to connect. When we connect, new strengths, new visions, new skills, and new energy appear. The magic of this era lies in the quality depth and authenticity of our relationships. Let’s decide to extend ourselves and reach out further; let’s decide to go deeper.

With much love,

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Shift Happens

Workshop Jan.17-Jan 20 2019; Miraval Resort Tucson Arizona
With Tejpal MA, MBA and Shari Gootter MA, LPC

Hear it at many levels.
When shit truly happens in your life you may shut down, go into blame, anxiety, guilt, depression, victimhood, etc. In other words, you are stuck. Before you know it, you are trapped by uncomfortable emotions and an agitated mind that desperately tries to find a way out.

When shit happens it is time to shift. Instead of using your survival skills to get out of your unwanted situation, you need to completely reinvent how you relate to everything.

This “Shift Happens” workshop is the promise that no one has to get stuck no matter your circumstances. Shari and I are really committed to support each of you in this process. We both have experienced the shit and the shift.

Shari has dealt with J.R.A. at a very young age. When she was two years old, moving was a great challenge. Eventually, she ended up losing her sight. She also lost her brother abruptly. Today, Shari lives her life fully: she is a yoga instructor a leadership facilitator and a therapist. Her life is filled with many interests, many friends and a life partner.

I had my share of existential pain. For the first 33 years of my life, I simply wanted to commit suicide. After lots of therapy, healing, a few name changes, a new citizenship and a radical turn in my career, I am now at peace with myself and grateful about my life.

If you want to expand your horizon of possibilities and “unstuck”, if you want to feel free and alive, if you want to experience a deeper sense of meaning and gratefulness, then join us.

We are not telling you that this workshop is the answer to all of your problems, yet we are holding the space for you so that you can create deep healing and relate to this world in a new meaningful and loving way.

Are you ready?

To register, click here

With much love,
Tejpal

“Vibrate The Cosmos And The Cosmos Shall Clear The Path” (Yogi Bhajan)

Today you may be at a crossroad in your life and seeking guidance.

The problem is, the more you aim for clarity, the more you use your linear mind and at times over-analyze everything. The results are greater confusion, more doubts, and worries.

My invitation to you is to look at any situation that you are in from a different perspective.

Instead of engaging your analytical mind, pay attention to your attention. Choose where and what you decide to focus on.

Instead of focusing on your problem, “Vibrate The Cosmos,” stay open and receptive; don’t go anywhere, don’t solve anything; receive and experience any problem throughout your whole body. Stay curious and tune in, be sensitive to your whole being. Surrender, let the cosmos in, let anything in, drop your walls and create intimacy with your environment.

When this happens, everything flows. At that moment you are not pushing, using your will or forcing an outcome, you are open and willing to learn.

To create this drastic shift, start practicing with elements of nature. Experience in your whole body, a tree, a plant, a flower, a cloud, invite them, be curious and sensitive to their essence …practice every day and then you may develop your ability to dance with the cosmos.

Are you ready to create more flow in your life?

With much love,

 

 

 

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Connect To Your Divinity


As human beings, we are faced with significant challenges that can elevate us or annihilate us. The way we relate to pain and pleasure is one of them. We believe that pleasure is good and pain is bad. We have a relationship with pleasure that is led by the emotional and mental bodies. In that context, pleasure puts you to sleep because it becomes a distraction or an addiction: more wine, more drugs, more jumping from one thing to another, etc.

When you experience the spiritual dimension of pleasure you expand, you are alive and vibrant; You Are Divine. To create that experience you have to do one thing, go in and drop deeper into your Self and stay.

As you learn to be with your Self, you transcend your thoughts and emotions, yet you pay attention to your senses, not from a place of cravings but a place of longing. You genuinely enjoy the realm of the physical, not from a place of reaction, but a place of choice and awareness. The spiritual experience of pleasure requires for you to commit to Self, moment to moment.

To benefit from the richness of commitment, start with a daily spiritual practice and learn to fall in love with your whole Self: the Self you like and the Self you don’t like. When this happens, you experience the stillness of love, the vastness of pleasure and your divinity.

What do you choose, buzzing, excitement or divinity?

With much love,

Stay Vibrant

How do you stay vibrant? One way is to reset your system to feel radiant and awake. But how do you do it?

I suggest you simply look at your daily rituals. How you dress, how you eat, how you pray, if you do, how you meditate, if you do, how you get up in the morning, etc. Your day is often filled with rituals.

The problem is that your rituals have a life of their own and you may have forgotten their purpose. If you are part of a lineage with a strong culture there are lots of rituals; and if you don’t participate in the rituals, you are out, you don’t belong, and in some cases, you go to jail or you are killed.

Depending on where you live in the world there are rituals linked to your gender, your age, and your social economic milieu. There are a lot of fights in the world about rituals, but a ritual is not the cause. It is a gateway to create a specific experience of inner peace, healing, clarity, grounding, forgiveness, etc.

First set an intent for your life. What are you longing for? Are you longing for peace, serenity, meaning, and/or healing? Then take the time to assess your rituals. Do they serve you and how?

Enjoy experimenting by dropping some of them, tweaking and or adding new ones.

Simply pick a part of your day and change one thing; you may be surprised about the outcomes. As Mother Theresa used to say “We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”

With much love,

 

The Best Medicine On Earth

I know… most of you would say that the best medicine on earth is Love. In many ways I support this statement: when one lives in the heart center there is a level of stillness awareness and presence that create a wonderful foundation for healing. Yet too often love is often confused with emotions, attachments and or loving something or someone …and so I have decided to look at something else…your breath.

When you are short of wisdom, breathe.” Guru Nanak

We have a tendency to breathe between 16 and 20 times a minute with a shallow breath that does not give enough oxygen to the blood. A sweet tooth comes from a lack of oxygen in the brain. Lots of diseases are created and enhanced with shallow breathing. If you breathe eight times a minute you will become calmer. If you breathe four times a minute you are more aware, more intuitive and more in tune with the cosmic intelligence. You can go with the infinite flow instead of constantly fighting or worrying.

Your breath is directly connected to how you think and how you feel. A negative thought or action will make you breathe three times faster.

The way you attract people, the way you manifest is directly connected to your Aura, which is greatly impacted by the quality of your breath. In brief, your radiance depends on your breath.

Your intelligence has nothing to do with how many brain cells or degrees you have; your intelligence is based on the capacity of your breath. Choose to practice conscious breathing every day; it will transform everything within you and around you.

The following is a breath you can practice at least three minutes a day:

  1. Seated on a chair or in an easy pose on the floor.
  2. Eventually, close your eyes and focus on your third eye.
  3. Put each hand in Gyan Mudra (index and thumb together) on your knee.
  4. Inhale through the nose, hold the breath in and as you hold the breath in mentally vibrate the mantra three times: “I am light, I am I am.”
  5. Exhale through the nose, hold the breath out and as you hold the breath out repeat the same mantra in your head three times.
  6. End with a deep breath in, hold the breath in and apply Root Lock (squeeze sex organ, rectum, and navel) to seal and integrate the benefits of your breath.
    Relax.

Much love to all,

The Life Pulse

Most of us want more joy and meaning in our lives. This is a beautiful longing yet it often becomes an attachment. The way we think our lives should create a roadmap for pain and distraction.
At almost 57 years old, I am amazed by how my life unfolds day by day in such unexpected ways…and I am learning and enjoying the process of detachment about a lifestyle…my life has many styles by the ways.

As you focus on your personal healing and transformation go within and pay attention to your life pulse.

The life pulse has four phases, expansion-stasis-contraction-stasis. This life pulse exists within every cell and every particle within the cell. Some of us get stuck in one phase and some of us skip some of the phases or force some of the phases. If you are attached to the expansion, phase thinking that life has to be exhilarating, expansive and creative all the time you are simply not connected to you. If you are in the stasis phase too much you are not respecting your true essence of personal growth and learning. And we know if you are in the contraction phase all the time it can be very painful.

In our society, we have valued the expansion phase of the life force. This is still a model that drives organizations and that drives how we look at health and vitality.

One of my best friend’s, who has a life-threatening disease, has learned to tap into the contraction phase by taking a three-hour nap every day. That has been her best medicine to challenge all the predictions of “not making it “ after 10 years.

Some of you will gain more peace when you go through a contraction phase. The problem is not the contraction but your perception of the contraction and your relationship with your own contraction. A happy pill…even if it is organic, will not be the first answer, but the last one.

Each phase is necessary for being vibrant and radiant in your life. If you are stuck in one for more than a few weeks then be curious. Is that serving you and how? What are you avoiding?

This month, go within and be curious about your life pulse and the life pulse of the people you love, you will develop compassion…one of the best medicines.

With much love,

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The Lesson Plan

What are you choosing to learn this year? How do you want to express yourself? What are your biggest challenges?

I came on earth with a very strong mind. At a very young age I was aware of people’s patterns and behaviors. I never was lost into the fairy tale of childhood; at time I wished. I was judging, observing and fearing the many distortions around me. Yet with this strong mind of mine, my heart was underdeveloped. Terrified to be loved, terrified to ask or need anything, I chose isolation and pride.

When the mind is not connected to the heart center, the mind divides and reacts. Fuelled by emotions instead of compassion the mind is too loud or too quiet, opinionated and never at peace.

I used to be a quiet kid, unhappy, unfulfilled, and the few times I spoke up I was too negative. At five or six years old my negative expression felt like poison to myself. At that age, I really wanted to be wise stable and compassionate; the gap was painful to experience.

In the time we are living in, we can choose to get lost in the flow of insanities out there and point the finger at the others or we can choose to go within, look at our own distortions and practice forgiveness to self.

In this lifetime, the heart is my great teacher. The heart is not fluffy, nice or soft; the heart is real in a beautiful neutral way. It invites me to stay stable, present and awake with compassion.

If you want to serve in any kind of way you absolutely need a daily practice that invites you to go within and really look without a story, without blame. You need to have a practice that really observes with compassionate stillness. When that is in place, decide how you can be of service as the options are endless.

With much love,

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How Do You Bounce Back In Your Life?

As I am looking at my own life, the lives of my clients and the on going tragedies that are happening in this world, I am asking the following question…How do we bounce back from a physical illness, the loss of a loved one, the destruction of a home, a complete lack of meaning in life or a sense of deep isolation? What are our options?

One of the most potent medicines in bouncing back is to create meaningful connections. You may or may not know how to create authentic relationships, how to ask for help, how to be real in your deepest places of despair, or how to trust the people around you…. Regardless, reaching out is certainly a key element in finding yourself again.

There is another component that I would like to emphasize today; I call it the Art of Falling.  In order to bounce back you need to know how to fall. If you are too rigid when you fall you will hurt yourself; if you don’t let go you will break parts of your body. You need to allow yourself to touch the bottom; like playing on a trampoline you can ‘t bounce back if you don’t touch the bottom.

When you really fall you are able to experience a sacred space where the swirl of emotions does not overwhelm you anymore; you become stable and lucid, there is nothing more to loose.

The mind does not know how to fall; the mind wants to be safe. The heart knows how to fall simply because the heart is not driven by fear or the future. The mind on its own has a distorted relationship with pain…either it runs away from it or it is addicted to it.

How deeply can you let yourself fall? How deeply can you feel your own pain, despair, anxiety or loss? If you go deep your will heal yourself and the pain will shift to a more spacious and sacred experience.

What do you do to avoid falling? Do you make yourself busier? Do you abuse your body? Do you blame your circumstances? What do you do? Learn to fall if you want to bounce back. Learn to fall if you want to grow and experience peace in your life.

With much love and gratitude for being part of my life, I wish you a great holidays season.