As human beings, we are faced with significant challenges that can elevate us or annihilate us. The way we relate to pain and pleasure is one of them. We believe that pleasure is good and pain is bad. We have a relationship with pleasure that is led by the emotional and mental bodies. In that context, pleasure puts you to sleep because it becomes a distraction or an addiction: more wine, more drugs, more jumping from one thing to another, etc.
When you experience the spiritual dimension of pleasure you expand, you are alive and vibrant; You Are Divine. To create that experience you have to do one thing, go in and drop deeper into your Self and stay.
As you learn to be with your Self, you transcend your thoughts and emotions, yet you pay attention to your senses, not from a place of cravings but a place of longing. You genuinely enjoy the realm of the physical, not from a place of reaction, but a place of choice and awareness. The spiritual experience of pleasure requires for you to commit to Self, moment to moment.
To benefit from the richness of commitment, start with a daily spiritual practice and learn to fall in love with your whole Self: the Self you like and the Self you don’t like. When this happens, you experience the stillness of love, the vastness of pleasure and your divinity.
What do you choose, buzzing, excitement or divinity?
With much love,
How do you stay vibrant? One way is to reset your system to feel radiant and awake. But how do you do it?
I suggest you simply look at your daily rituals. How you dress, how you eat, how you pray, if you do, how you meditate, if you do, how you get up in the morning, etc. Your day is often filled with rituals.
The problem is that your rituals have a life of their own and you may have forgotten their purpose. If you are part of a lineage with a strong culture there are lots of rituals; and if you don’t participate in the rituals, you are out, you don’t belong, and in some cases, you go to jail or you are killed.
Depending on where you live in the world there are rituals linked to your gender, your age, and your social economic milieu. There are a lot of fights in the world about rituals, but a ritual is not the cause. It is a gateway to create a specific experience of inner peace, healing, clarity, grounding, forgiveness, etc.
First set an intent for your life. What are you longing for? Are you longing for peace, serenity, meaning, and/or healing? Then take the time to assess your rituals. Do they serve you and how?
Enjoy experimenting by dropping some of them, tweaking and or adding new ones.
Simply pick a part of your day and change one thing; you may be surprised about the outcomes. As Mother Theresa used to say “We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”
With much love,
I know… most of you would say that the best medicine on earth is Love. In many ways I support this statement: when one lives in the heart center there is a level of stillness awareness and presence that create a wonderful foundation for healing. Yet too often love is often confused with emotions, attachments and or loving something or someone …and so I have decided to look at something else…your breath.
“When you are short of wisdom, breathe.” Guru Nanak
We have a tendency to breathe between 16 and 20 times a minute with a shallow breath that does not give enough oxygen to the blood. A sweet tooth comes from a lack of oxygen in the brain. Lots of diseases are created and enhanced with shallow breathing. If you breathe eight times a minute you will become calmer. If you breathe four times a minute you are more aware, more intuitive and more in tune with the cosmic intelligence. You can go with the infinite flow instead of constantly fighting or worrying.
Your breath is directly connected to how you think and how you feel. A negative thought or action will make you breathe three times faster.
The way you attract people, the way you manifest is directly connected to your Aura, which is greatly impacted by the quality of your breath. In brief, your radiance depends on your breath.
Your intelligence has nothing to do with how many brain cells or degrees you have; your intelligence is based on the capacity of your breath. Choose to practice conscious breathing every day; it will transform everything within you and around you.
The following is a breath you can practice at least three minutes a day:
- Seated on a chair or in an easy pose on the floor.
- Eventually, close your eyes and focus on your third eye.
- Put each hand in Gyan Mudra (index and thumb together) on your knee.
- Inhale through the nose, hold the breath in and as you hold the breath in mentally vibrate the mantra three times: “I am light, I am I am.”
- Exhale through the nose, hold the breath out and as you hold the breath out repeat the same mantra in your head three times.
- End with a deep breath in, hold the breath in and apply Root Lock (squeeze sex organ, rectum, and navel) to seal and integrate the benefits of your breath.
Much love to all,
Most of us want more joy and meaning in our lives. This is a beautiful longing yet it often becomes an attachment. The way we think our lives should create a roadmap for pain and distraction.
At almost 57 years old, I am amazed by how my life unfolds day by day in such unexpected ways…and I am learning and enjoying the process of detachment about a lifestyle…my life has many styles by the ways.
As you focus on your personal healing and transformation go within and pay attention to your life pulse.
The life pulse has four phases, expansion-stasis-contraction-stasis. This life pulse exists within every cell and every particle within the cell. Some of us get stuck in one phase and some of us skip some of the phases or force some of the phases. If you are attached to the expansion, phase thinking that life has to be exhilarating, expansive and creative all the time you are simply not connected to you. If you are in the stasis phase too much you are not respecting your true essence of personal growth and learning. And we know if you are in the contraction phase all the time it can be very painful.
In our society, we have valued the expansion phase of the life force. This is still a model that drives organizations and that drives how we look at health and vitality.
One of my best friend’s, who has a life-threatening disease, has learned to tap into the contraction phase by taking a three-hour nap every day. That has been her best medicine to challenge all the predictions of “not making it “ after 10 years.
Some of you will gain more peace when you go through a contraction phase. The problem is not the contraction but your perception of the contraction and your relationship with your own contraction. A happy pill…even if it is organic, will not be the first answer, but the last one.
Each phase is necessary for being vibrant and radiant in your life. If you are stuck in one for more than a few weeks then be curious. Is that serving you and how? What are you avoiding?
This month, go within and be curious about your life pulse and the life pulse of the people you love, you will develop compassion…one of the best medicines.
With much love,
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What are you choosing to learn this year? How do you want to express yourself? What are your biggest challenges?
I came on earth with a very strong mind. At a very young age I was aware of people’s patterns and behaviors. I never was lost into the fairy tale of childhood; at time I wished. I was judging, observing and fearing the many distortions around me. Yet with this strong mind of mine, my heart was underdeveloped. Terrified to be loved, terrified to ask or need anything, I chose isolation and pride.
When the mind is not connected to the heart center, the mind divides and reacts. Fuelled by emotions instead of compassion the mind is too loud or too quiet, opinionated and never at peace.
I used to be a quiet kid, unhappy, unfulfilled, and the few times I spoke up I was too negative. At five or six years old my negative expression felt like poison to myself. At that age, I really wanted to be wise stable and compassionate; the gap was painful to experience.
In the time we are living in, we can choose to get lost in the flow of insanities out there and point the finger at the others or we can choose to go within, look at our own distortions and practice forgiveness to self.
In this lifetime, the heart is my great teacher. The heart is not fluffy, nice or soft; the heart is real in a beautiful neutral way. It invites me to stay stable, present and awake with compassion.
If you want to serve in any kind of way you absolutely need a daily practice that invites you to go within and really look without a story, without blame. You need to have a practice that really observes with compassionate stillness. When that is in place, decide how you can be of service as the options are endless.
With much love,
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As I am looking at my own life, the lives of my clients and the on going tragedies that are happening in this world, I am asking the following question…How do we bounce back from a physical illness, the loss of a loved one, the destruction of a home, a complete lack of meaning in life or a sense of deep isolation? What are our options?
One of the most potent medicines in bouncing back is to create meaningful connections. You may or may not know how to create authentic relationships, how to ask for help, how to be real in your deepest places of despair, or how to trust the people around you…. Regardless, reaching out is certainly a key element in finding yourself again.
There is another component that I would like to emphasize today; I call it the Art of Falling. In order to bounce back you need to know how to fall. If you are too rigid when you fall you will hurt yourself; if you don’t let go you will break parts of your body. You need to allow yourself to touch the bottom; like playing on a trampoline you can ‘t bounce back if you don’t touch the bottom.
When you really fall you are able to experience a sacred space where the swirl of emotions does not overwhelm you anymore; you become stable and lucid, there is nothing more to loose.
The mind does not know how to fall; the mind wants to be safe. The heart knows how to fall simply because the heart is not driven by fear or the future. The mind on its own has a distorted relationship with pain…either it runs away from it or it is addicted to it.
How deeply can you let yourself fall? How deeply can you feel your own pain, despair, anxiety or loss? If you go deep your will heal yourself and the pain will shift to a more spacious and sacred experience.
What do you do to avoid falling? Do you make yourself busier? Do you abuse your body? Do you blame your circumstances? What do you do? Learn to fall if you want to bounce back. Learn to fall if you want to grow and experience peace in your life.
With much love and gratitude for being part of my life, I wish you a great holidays season.
As we are approaching the holiday’s season, lets assess how we celebrate: we eat too much, drink too much, talk to much, stay up too late, watch too much football, prepare too much food or engage into too many activities. This “too much” pattern is often part of what we call celebration. It looks to me more like self-destruction.
For years I used to hide behind my work seeing clients on Thanksgiving Day. I have learned to be a Thanksgiving gypsy…not work anymore, connect to nature and land for a little bit of time in one or two gatherings. It is still not my favorite time of the year but always a learning opportunity to soften in the discomfort.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we chose to approach celebrations as a healing opportunity? Wouldn’t it be nice to bring the quality of sacredness in any celebration? There is one element that is the foundation of sacredness and healing, this is Space.
Being spacious is not about being distant; it is not about disconnecting or minimizing your time with any loved ones. It is creating space in your attitude, in your listening, in your seeking, in your love and in your actions.
Love is space so that everyone can unfold in its unique and mysterious way moment to moment. Love without space becomes purely emotional and that is signing up for a rollercoaster of suffering.
Healing is space so that every part of you can change its own pattern and create a new way to exchange energy. Healing without space becomes rigid in the process and it will not work.
My wish is you decide to be spacious during the upcoming celebrations. You will gain awareness and your heart will thank you.
With all my love,
When I invite my clients or students to do a daily spiritual practice, very few end up really doing it. I have heard many stories…stuff gets in the way…kids, work, health, family crisis, etc.
The real truth is that most of you are bored with yourself…yup…most of you are like a little kid that needs to be distracted every so often. And because it is so easy to get distracted these days you get bored even faster. Now you are not the only one! I can relate now and then!
If we get bored with ourselves so easily…then our life is going to be full of distractions, attachments and we will go through a constant emotional rollercoaster. The one thing we need to do is to fall in love with ourselves again and that is a discipline.
Loving yourself is not about liking yourself. Loving yourself is about embracing all of who you are, your light and your shadow. It is about accepting with kindness, your beauty and your limitations. Loving yourself is a practice that helps you to stay away from the polarity of the positive and negative minds.
The most efficient way to get there is to have a daily spiritual practice. As you do it you go beyond pain or pleasure, you become less reactive and impulsive. You have a chance to experience inner stillness and from that place you can see clearly and make life choices that are truly meaningful to you.
There are many kinds of spiritual practices. Today I am offering you a meditation from the Kundalini tradition that will balance your nervous system, create stability and bring you serenity. Do it with me for 40 days in a row and let me know how you are doing!
We have many opportunities to pray as constant chaos and losses are happening on earth. The simple question is: how do you pray? Like many of you, in my younger age, I have begged and bargained in my prayers; I have prayed from a place of victim asking to be saved.
Praying is the opposite of begging; when you beg you loose your power and when you pray you are in your power. I am talking about spiritual power which the ability to experience oneness and stay connected with your true self.
When you pray, no matter what you do at the physical level, spiritually you are standing up. If you are praying on your knees, the purpose is to collect yourself not to make yourself so small that you don’t know what to do anymore. At that moment you raise the vibration within you and within the situation or people you are praying for.
Each of you is gifted with the power of prayers. Yet if you get attached to a specific outcome you loose your spiritual connection and no healing can truly occur. We can’t really control the physical delivery of our prayers but we can shift the energy and from there things will unfold. Pray from a place of inner power like a true spiritual warrior.
With Much love,
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Every day, all day long we are going through constant transitions: waking up, eating, driving, sleeping, reading, watching, playing,….to name a few. And yet how do we transition from one thing to another?
In life we spend a lot of time anticipating and being prepared for any kind of transitions but we don’t spend much time in practicing staying awake and aware during the time of transition. We like to plan as much as we can but …how about the unplanned transitions? Like…getting sick, going through a break up, loosing someone, getting fired, having a loved one getting sick, losing a contract, being in a car accident, etc.
Anticipation is certainly a good thing up to a point. Some of you are only interested in what is next as if your mind always needs something to chew on to prevent feeling boredom, lack of motivation or depression.
A beautiful spiritual practice is staying awake during our time of death, our ultimate transition while we are on earth. As I was participating in a dream yoga workshop a couple of weeks ago that has been a new focus for me.
During that workshop we had a nap everyday and one of the exercises was to mindfully transition to a resting time. I was amazed of how much my mind was all over the place like crazy…laughable at some point…and so I invite you to explore…
When we are able to stay stable with our mind during any time of transition the chaos of life is not going to bring us into neurotic behaviors. The Tibetan have mentioned that if we die unconscious then we will return on earth within 49 days doing the same thing over and over.
Regardless what your spiritual preferences are, staying conscious during any transitions is certainly a beautiful practice. You learn to develop a stable mind so that you can free yourself from listening to the constant rumbling of your thoughts. You can connect to your true essence and from there feel your vastness.
Pick one transition; maybe it is your wake up time or sleeping time…or perhaps it is before and after a meal…or before and after a visit with someone…Be curious…be aware about your thoughts, emotions and sensations….you will first realize how unstable you are but with regular practice you will gain inner clarity and inner peace.
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Once, Osho, the great Spiritual Teacher, said something like this: “Life and death are not opposite. Ego and death are opposite”. …And I got inspired…
Life is always about transformation, transmutation and metamorphosis. Life is always about healing never about achieving. The key element to health and healing is death. If you can’t die you can’t heal. If you can’t let go of your attachments, your beliefs, your stories and your behaviors you can’t heal. Death is the foundation of transformation. If you choose to be vibrant and alive then accept the dying process.
What is in the way to your healing? Your resistance to dying. You want to heal without dying and it simply does not work.
Be curious about your ongoing resistance…how you shut down, how you step away, how you choose to focus on the causes of your unhappiness or disease.
Allow yourself to experience parts of your being that are new to you.
Allow yourself to look at your light and darkness without any stories around.
Just feel yourself deeper. That is where you will find inner peace and awareness. Pay attention to anything you have been saying to yourself for years: “I really want to change this or that”. Ask yourself this simple question: what part of me is ready to die? Is it my lack of trust? Is it my need for constant approval? Is it my fear of being alone? Is it my self-judgment?
What attachments, stories, beliefs, behavior, thoughts or relationships…am I really to let go?
Only then you experience the sacred within you …and that is the first step of healing.
With much love,
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Faith has been called upon by many of us particularly when we are facing challenges or are at a crossroad in our life. The practice of faith brings beautiful qualities; it supports us to stay humble, open and to surrender to the laws of the universe.
Yet if we jump too quickly into the “faith wagon” we may never get what we are looking for and we will never heal or learn anything. When the practice of faith is not anchored into our physical being it becomes an empty prayer, a spacey ritual or at time a begging.
The roots of faith connect to the quality of trust. If your relationship with trust is out of alignment so will be your faith. First assess how trust shows up in your life. What do you need to trust someone in a business environment or a personal relationship? What do you need to trust your golf swing, your dance performance or anything that will invite you to express yourself? How much do you respect and accept that part of you? Every culture, every tradition has a unique relationship with trust. Be curious about your needs and choose to honor them.
The way you trust may fit into these categories:
- You only rely on your mind and data: the more information the better.
- You let yourself be guided by impulsive pleasure and listen only to your emotional body.
- You struggle with your intuition to figure out what is next; you are caught in the mind.
- You dissociate into the spiritual dimension pretending everything is fine and God or the Universe will take care of things.
These are four styles of distortion, as they are not paying attention to your fears. There is only one place that is real about who you are, your fears and your needs: your heart. There is only one place that will give you true insights: your heart.
Be curious about who you truly are if you want to experience the beauty of faith.
In my practice I notice that most people spend lots of time listening to their thoughts instead of listening to their experience. That pattern is the same when it comes to listening to others. If you are thoughts focused you create lots of pollution in your system. When you pay attention to your experience you nourish yourself. That is the essence of self-love.
Many of you are amazing achievers. Your accomplishments are often outstanding yet your self-care and self-love are lacking. You have used your will and your brilliance in a limited way…and my wish is that you choose to open your sky.
When you choose to listen to your experience your life opens up to unknown possibilities. Are you courageous enough to love yourself? Now…I am not talking of the love and peace movement of the 70s or romantic love; I am talking about love, the ultimate form of commitment, the ultimate discipline that will expand your awareness and intuition.
This discipline goes way deeper than a discipline that comes from your will. I have experienced both and I know the difference.
In my mid 30s and early 40s I was will driven. I ran the NY Marathon (and I never liked running), road bike races and played in golf tournaments. Everything was outcome-driven. Each time I won I felt empty, sick and dry inside. When I did not win I had to focus on the next event.
Self-love has a different flavor. You are curious, sensitive to what is and stay with any type of discomfort. From that ever-changing place of yours you listen and you create your day.
When you choose to connect to your essence there can be pain but no drama. There can be joy but no frantic excitement. You dramatically enhance your awareness and make decisions aligned with your true essence.
Are you ready to open your sky?
With much love and healing,
As I have been “sitting around” for the past 12 days or so healing from a knee replacement, I have contemplated the following question: What is your first response when someone asks you about the true purpose of healing?
Is it to feel better? Have more vitality? Gain more joy? Get rid of your pains? All of these answers sound pretty good to me but that is not the ultimate purpose of healing; these benefits are the side effects of the healing process.
The ultimate purpose of healing is to develop your relationship with your true self, beyond your titles, your credentials and the different roles you are taking on as a mother, a father, a leader, etc. Some of you may say is that it? That does not sound like too much fun!
Let’s list of few benefits:
- We make decisions that serve our heart not our ego.
- Our emotions are not leading our life; they are part of it.
- We are less reactive.
- We are able to experience more inner stillness in time of chaos.
- We are more aware and curious.
- We are more authentic.
- Our intuition expands.
The process of Healing brings us closer to our true self and from there our awareness expands tremendously. There is a sense of unity that is priceless to experience particularly when we are hitting a wall…any wall. And so be curious this month about what distracts you and what helps you to connect deeper with you!
With much love and healing,
Last week at the end of a talk on “How To Find Your Purpose”, I had several people who wanted to talk to me personally. That evening I was really tired fighting a sinus headache and I did not feel I had much more to give…I just wanted to go home. Several people wanted to talk to me at the end and a couple patiently waited for me. By then I could feel my heart closing down…The women, Cindy, shared that she has been diagnosed stage four pancreatic cancer last December. Within less than 30 seconds …I was not tired anymore and the three of us sat for a little while.
It was a great lesson for me. Tragedy woke me up. At that moment my mind had to drop and automatically my heart showed up. There was a new level of energy, a new set of priorities, a different listening and a new level of awakening. But really…Do I need a crisis to stay awake?
Every relationship is an opportunity for transformation, awakening and healing. I get reminded of this every day. Every relationship can give us a boost of energy when we choose to be engaged, open, sensitive and receptive. What is in the way to creating authentic relationships?
This month, surprise yourself. Reach out in a way you have not done before. Explore your resistance and fears and decide to break one of your old patterns in some of your relationships. Take a risk.
With much love,
One of my beautiful true friends, Catherine, is a comic and mother of three. She has been diagnosed with LAM lung disease; a rare form of cancer in the lungs that they have not yet found a cure for.
In 2006, she was given 5 to 10 years to live and she is now more vibrant than ever. Her life force and heart are priceless and her humor is contagious. She has been able to raise 2 million dollars and attract some top-notch scientists to find a cure for this disease. She touches so many with compassion and great laughter that you can only do one thing when you are in her presence…open your heart and laugh really loud.
Here is a newly documentary about Catherine and her website if you would like to make a donation. Please watch it! You will be inspired!
Why am I talking about Catherine’s journey? In many ways Cat helps me to answer that question that has became louder for the past couple of months. How do I show up in this world? What do I stand for? What do I fight for?
I got my answer…I simply need to connect to my gifts and uplift moment to moment. That is where I heal others and myself; that is where I keep my inner light going.
If we listen to the Yogis, the heart’s projection has a 60-degree angle. By nature the heart uplifts.
Uplifting has nothing to do with motivating; there is no agenda to make the other person feel better or have more energy. Each time you expect an outcome you are not in the heart center you are in your will, convincing, forcing and pushing.
Uplifting is not about ignoring what does not work either. You still commit to glow no matter what. If you embrace that quality, every cause you stand up for will not eat you up. More than ever before we all need to glow.
How do you uplift in your day-to-day life?
With much love
As I was cleaning my files during the holiday season I found a piece of paper with this quote on it: “Everything is possible in your life if you approach it with humility.” I have no idea you wrote this; regardless, I started to ponder…
As a child the way I understood humility was: “be less, be small, be invisible”. The focus was on the ego; make it as small as possible. Later in my life I realized that humility is not about asking the ego to be small but is relying on the heart to be big. And moment-to-moment we have to choose what we say yes to: is it our heart or our ego?
The path of humility may not be the easiest one but the other one carries way too much suffering. We did not come on earth to win; we came on earth to heal. When humility is at the center of your life you are at peace with learning the same thing over and over.
Humility keeps us on our toes…there is no falling asleep…everything needs intention and attention …our health, our relationships, our hobbies, our work…
This year I choose to celebrate as much as I can with the quality of humility at the center. In this context, it is not about how great I am but how blessed I am.
Now what about you? What is your theme for this new year?
With much love,
As we are approaching a new year my true wish is that you let go of setting goals for yourself. Bury that concept, burn it, dance around the fire …whatever speaks to you but once for all…drop it. When you set goals you simply limit who you are because you rely too much on your linear mind and your will. I personally don’t recall that reaching any of my goals made me happier; I always had a next goal in mind…
We are not linear beings we are spiritual beings. Our focus is to increase our vitality. More than ever before we need our vibration to be strong as we are constantly reminded of the political, economical and ecological chaos in our lives. We can pretend to ignore it but because everything is a vibration we still are impacted.
If you want more vitality keep it true. Stay connected with your wholeness, that means your light and your shadow. If you are running away from your darkness you will not experience your spiritual dimension you will not be vibrant. Stay human.
In this period that the Yogis have called “The Grey Period”, we can fall into our reactive patterns and be stressed or we can stand up in our light and be vibrant no matter what. More than ever before we need each others’ light. Yogi Bhajan used to say “Be the Light House”.
Happy holiday season.
With much love
What if you choose to invite the quality of silence as your best guest for the month of November? We have co-created a world that does not give a lot of space for silence.
If you are a kid, silence is often given as a punishment. We need to explore the true gifts of silence.
We don’t go into silence because there is nothing to talk about or nothing to fight for or stand for. We don’t choose silence because we are scared to speak up or because we are hiding. We don’t decide to be in silence to check out in fact silence is the way to check in.
Learn to speak with silence in mind. Learn to invite silence into your life to connect to the essence of who you are.
Make silence your favorite guest at your Thanksgiving dinner table. This does not mean that you are quiet literally; this means that you choose to envelope your essence with silence. It will allow you to communicate and connect authentically.
In our noisy lives, silence is one of the best remedies for clarity, ability to make choices and inner peace.
There are a few things we don’t learn at school or in our family of origin; one of them is the art of saying no. People suffer from anxiety, ADD, sleep disorder, loneliness and much more. People also suffer from avoiding saying no.
In some countries saying no is perceived as a threat and your life can be in danger but that is not the case where most of you live. We need to practice saying no to gain clarity and inner stability.
If you say no from a place of anger, it is already too late. Your needs have not been met for quite a while, you feel rejected neglected or abused and your no is a reaction to what is happening. Yet at time anger is necessary to gain clarity and focus.
If you say no from a place of resistance that means your fears are running the show. Fear is the opposite of love; at that moment you are not present and not much is happening in your life.
There is one place to say no from; it is the heart center. The language of the heart is not about being nice it is about being true. The heart goes beyond the polarity nice/mean or good/bad. The heart carries neutrality clarity and peace. Your nos become a yes to you.
Explore your nos and assess them. Are you saying no enough in your life from your heart center? Are you present enough to who you are? Your values? Your beliefs, and what you care for? Are you committed enough to yourself to say no?
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