A lot is happening. For many, it can be overwhelming, depressing, and threatening. Our mind is trying to figure out how to keep us safe, but it does not necessarily know how to do it. Our mind needs to learn a new language.
Anticipating, solving, fixing, understanding, organizing – all of these skills are useful; but, in some ways, can be useless if that is all your mind can do.
Your mind needs to be sensitive; your mind needs to learn instead of lead. Your mind needs to listen and feel without going into quick labeling.
If your mind only operates in a linear mode, you will feel restless, agitated, depressed, or confused. When your mind becomes sensitive, you develop a way of knowing and understanding that directly connects to your wisdom. When the mind is sensitive, you become intuitive.
The fastest way I know of to develop a sensitive mind is through breathwork. If you feel called, join me every Wednesday at 9am PDT for 30 minutes. Sessions are recorded if you want to use them at a different time, and the cost is $44 per month. Email me if you are interested email@example.com
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Shari Gootter and I “Way to Be” book, will be available for purchase on Amazon July 14th. We will have a Launch celebration-workshop via zoom on July 16th from 10 am to 11 am PDT. If you have not downloaded a sample of our book, go to www.40waystobe.com. Be sure to allow Pop-Up Windows on the site to get your copy.
I have carried this great conviction for a long time: Everything we need resides inside of us. From this simple belief, a fun project was born:
Shari Gootter and I have written a book called “Way to Be: 40 Insights and Transformative Practices in The Heart of Being”. Shari is a great friend of mine, a therapist, and yoga teacher. She also has extended experience as a facilitator and together, we have held a workshop called “Shift Happens”.
Each of us holds many facets and many forms of expression. In fact, to be vibrant we need to explore and reveal numerous aspects of who we are. When we give ourselves permission to communicate in multiple ways, life becomes an adventure.
Our personal work is to develop our sensitivity and self-awareness to create more harmony within ourselves. “Be yourself” is an invitation to pause and check-in, respecting yourselves and your environment. “Be yourself” is what you signed up for when you came on earth; there is no one to follow or to convince. “Be yourself” is staying open to the constant unfolding of who you are.
We had great joy in writing this concise book. Its purpose is to give you an abundance of insights and practices to help you connect to your own life force, your wisdom, and your joy.
“Way To Be” will be available in July. You can get a sample of our book at www.40waystobe.com
With love always,
Do we know how to learn? Do we know that the first step in the learning process is to let go? Without letting go, we are not shifting our paradigms, we are not opening to different horizons; we are clinging to the view of what was true for us at some point.
Letting go is the language of the heart. Without a heart, we can’t learn. Learning is a process of curiosity. While your mind loves to solve or create problems; it is your heart that is curious. Your mind likes to win; your heart likes to learn.
The last four months have revealed over and over that we are interconnected. Sometimes we forget the 7.8 Billion human beings are with us. The universe recently, through different forms, is shouting at us: “Wake up! Earth is your home, not the place you live or your circle of family and friends!”
This teaching requires the curiosity of the heart to create a new set of boundaries for our thinking mind and a new set of values. What do you need to let go of to become an earth citizen?
We all have the ability to experience Universal Consciousness. We all have the ability to feel a sense of oneness where we feel connected to everything else. For some of us, it happens during a meditation, a walk outside, a gathering with loved ones, an art expression, or some other way unique to you. Universal consciousness is not given to just a few that have studied spiritual teachings; it is available to everyone moment to moment.
We live in a time where we have to take care of our inner-self first. If we don’t, we will not be able to experience oneness, and our life will be self-centered. When we disconnect from everything else, we open the door to deep suffering.
This whole universe has always been part of you; feel it to develop inner peace and open your heart.
Before we speak, can we hear ourselves? Is the noise within us so loud that we get lost?
Before we act, can we feel ourselves? Can we feel our whole self beyond the predominant feeling of the moment?
Every time we can’t see the whole picture of who we are, we create destruction around us. This is our discipline: listening to our whole self, not focusing on the pain, or the excitement of the day.
Every time you listen, you create space. Space is the seed for life on earth. Insanity unfolds when there is no space, no ability to connect to ourselves.
Before we speak, let’s hear our full selves with all our senses.
This month, I will be teaching weekly Kundalini breath and meditation classes (30 minutes) via zoom. Sessions will be recorded if you are not available at that time.
Breath/Meditation Classes are $44 for 4 classes, Wednesday at 9 am Pacific Time.
If you are interested email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will send you a PayPal link and once you have paid you will receive your zoom class information.
I hope you will join me.
Love, Peace, and Health to All,
Your fears radiate, your heart holds radiance. Your fears spread like fire on dry land and your heart beams and glows without threatening anyone. Your fears kill any life force and your heart heals. Your fears create separation and your heart deepens connections.
If you want to heal and bring healing to this world, instead of contracting to expand and connect. Now, we don’t need to be physically together to create a depth of connection: our heart connects beyond space and time.
Our fears feed every distortion and every virus on earth; we need to choose to be radiant and stay with the power of our heart. One way to enhance the heart is to sing or chant. You don’t have to be a good singer to do so, just know your sound current heals yourself and others.
There is a chant in the Kundalini Yoga tradition that has been suggested at this time of great chaos. It is: Ang Sang Wahe Guru. These mantra-like most mantras is not meant to be understood but experienced. Yet, a simple definition could be We are one; we are part of the infinite universe and the infinite universe is present in every molecule of our being.
We are one is the mantra of the heart. The mind does not know oneness, it only knows one from an ego point of view: me versus you. There are many versions of this chant; one of my favorites is the following:
Repeat this mantra for a minimum of 25 times per day and simply notice how you feel after this experience.
Love, peace, and health to all.
In the weeks and perhaps months to come, I will communicate more often. Not because I want to sell stuff but because I love to teach and share my insights and hope I can help you. If you want to work with me, you know what to do. If your financial situation is currently fragile, I will adapt my fees to the best of my abilities or do half time sessions to suit your needs. Contact me at email@example.com
In this time of great unpredictability, your relationship with yourself is what matters the most.
You have a choice. You can go in the rabbit hole trying to predict the future and get lost in a plethora of information, or you can pause go within and from that place decide what action you are going to take.
The more you want to know about something that is uncertain, the more confusion you will have. The mind gives you the illusion that if you can control and anticipate everything you are safe. If you follow this path, you will have more anxiety and more fear. And as you know every time you act from anxiety and fear there is a lot of commotion.
There is not a right a wrong answer in an unknown situation but for sure there is what I consider a better way to approach the unknown.
You are not your mind and therefore you need to create a relationship with your physical body that teaches you to be at peace no matter what. Peace does not start with good wishes or good prayers; peace starts with the ability to go within stay with yourself and pay attention to your sensations and emotions.
There are many spiritual practices that teach you to relate to self by engaging the physical body through breath movements chants or visualization; choose one. You have to create a lifestyle with your physical body at the center, not to look good but to feel good. When you allow your body to be vibrant because of the daily walks you take, the food you prepare, the breathwork you do or the dances you engage into, then your body has antennas to guide you through your life. Your mind is not a guide it is a servant.
When you start to be at the service of your body, you learn the art of setting boundaries, respect, and patience. Your mind does not have any of these skills. Don’t wait, start now.
With much love,
Everybody wants to be happy, right? Yet there is so much suffering. We are a society that mainly functions on the polarity of pain and pleasure. We want more pleasure less pain, and the facts speak for themselves: the painkiller market keeps on growing and most commercials about anything focus on pleasure or pain. The thing is, pleasure and happiness don’t belong to the same world: pleasure lives in the world of polarity, happiness does not.
What is then the first step to generate happiness? Your mind believes that more, or everything it wants moment-to-moment is happiness. Most minds do not know what happiness is, as minds are so agitated that it is impossible to match instability with happiness.
Yogi Bhajan and other spiritual teachers have mentioned it over and over; if you want happiness you need to commit. When you commit to anything, you live beyond polarities.
Every time you commit to something nothing is in the way; your life becomes very simple. You don’t allow your mind to question your commitment, you don’t allow the environment to question your commitment and you don’t allow your abilities or lack of to question your commitment. There is no story, no excuses, just you with you and nothing in between.
Commitment teaches you to be clear, transparent and simple; everything your mind will fight against. When this happens, you transform your mind and you transform yourself at the same time; It is one of the most powerful healing practices because it is the path of non-escape. Only when you don’t escape the adventure begins and you are free. Only when you don’t escape you can experience all of you, your beauty and your shadow and that is where the heart opens: beyond polarities.
Commitment does not guarantee anything and if you are obsessed about any outcomes then you are missing the point. You become driven and forceful which will prevent you to deepen your relationship with your heart. Commitment is a way to be, not a way to arrive at a destination or achieve anything; it is where you experience your infinite being.
When you choose to be crystal clear in your decision you create consistency and peace; the foundation for your heart to grow and open the door to lasting happiness.
Are you ready?
The world we are living in is unfolding in a unique way: changes occur abruptly, losses happen frequently and the information we receive is more confusing than ever before. We are now part of a new wave, a new era that carries more tensions, threats, and divisions.
To relate to this constant chaos, we have three options. The first two are the most common ones: we either ignore it and live in our bubble or we react to it with anxiety anger or fear. There is a third option that is necessary to adopt if we want to keep a level of inner peace no matter what. Instead of creating a wall or reacting to everything, we need to connect to our authentic self; If not, we will spend more time suffering.
When we realize that every challenge gives us an opportunity to learn and grow, then the time period we are in is definitively a great teacher. The third option invites us to have a new relationship with self and that is the discipline of this century.
You need to commit to self at a new level of authenticity clarity and depth. The deeper the connection the more stable and unshakable you will be in times of great instability. You will then realize that happiness or unhappiness has not much to do with your outside world. It takes discipline to commit and fall in love with self.
To fall in love with self, don’t put the candles out and your favorite romantic music. Instead, let your ego fall so that you can connect to your beauty and limitations so that you can accept who you are with compassion.
The most efficient way to fall in love with self is to meditate and commit to it. You may not like it at the beginning: you may have your mind too loud and agitated and you may believe that meditation should feel really good. That is simply false advertising. Meditation does not have to feel good; it teaches you to be with you and aware of your sensations, thoughts, and state of being whether you are agitated or peaceful, depressed or radiant. Meditation teaches you to stay with you no matter how good or bad it feels.
When you decide to stay with your self, something magical happens; your heart opens. When your heart gets stronger you become more lucid neutral and stable. When you realize that commitment and discipline are two essential pillars for the heart then what are you waiting for?
With much love and peace for the holidays season,
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“It (your mind) is so dangerous that you can do things that are delusional, imaginative and unintentional. And equally, it is so beneficial that you can create things that can be miracles.” Yogi Bhajan
You already know this: your relationship with your mind can generate great joy or great turmoil. Your relationship with your mind can create peace or anxiety, serenity or depression, stability or agitation.
The biggest problem is that you think you are your mind: every time your mind goes somewhere you go with it. When this happens, your mind owns you and from there you will develop a series of distorted behaviors that mirrors the patterns of your mind; the cycle never stops. When you follow your mind, you don’t know what the roots of your pain are, (as your mind will give you a good story about all your insecurities), and you can’t never heal.
The second important challenge is that you ask your mind for clarity. Your mind, if it leads your life, will always bring confusion. When you desperately look for answers, you disconnect from your true essence and eventually you don’t even know what you were looking for; you are now looking for answers to questions you don’t have.
When we realize how silly we can be with our own mind, then we have a chance to center and remember who we truly are and what needs healing. To create space between you and your mind you need a particular lifestyle that is unique for each of you. Of course, I can help you if you wish.
When you relate to your mind as a system of integration and synchronization instead of a chief in command, when you relate to your mind as a sensory system instead of an authority figure telling you what to do, then you can access everything known and unknown with peace and clarity.
With much love,
The major problem with confusion is that you reject it: your linear mind gets agitated like a wild animal in a cage trying to find the exit.
Depending on your personality, you may push through your wall of fog to gain clarity; you may be anxious or depressed.
On my side, I am really happy when you get confused: you now have the opportunity to change your old paradigm; if you are not confused, you are not learning.
At times, you get confused because you are overthinking.
Confusion teaches you the art of listening to all the parts of you, not just your mental dimension.
Confusion also allows you to readjust your tempo: when you are confused, you need to slow down. Often you go the other direction; you get impatient ready to put the foot on the accelerator, desperately looking for an answer.
Some of you often ask me if your confusion is a resistance to change or if it is the necessary stage toward transformation. Most likely, it is both as every time we go through a transition, we experience resistance.
When you realize that the time of confusion is precious, you will be able to drop deeper into yourself to heal and nurture some parts of you that you did not know about. Confusion teaches you to stay present and vigilant, not from a place of fear but a place of curiosity.
If you want deeper peace and connection to your self and others, always allow confusion to be, as it is a great teacher for your mind and healer for your life.
I have one wish for you
It is for you to be you
And forgive me for being so demanding
Forgive me for directing you, or imposing on you in a way
I own my distortion of hope for you
And in that hope, I am not conditional
There is no deadline, no one-way ticket
If you knock at my door
That is what I offer you, nothing else
Be you, beyond your physical attachments, your roles, your look, your age, your belongings, your relationships
Be you, awake and at peace with the constant unfolding of who you truly are
It takes discipline to be you
It will take actually all of you and more to never betray yourself from fear
Of not having enough, being rejected, failing, or whatever else you fear pulls you to do
It takes lucidity to look at your shadow and forgive yourself over and over
It takes trust
And the courage to die over and over
So that you don’t get attached to your fixed identity or what you think you know
The kind of discipline I am talking about
Is the discipline of the heart
If you realize that in the chaos of your life and mind there is no other way
Then knock at my door
And in the space between us, you will find You
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I am not a physicist nor a scientist, yet I know that human beings are caught in the time dimension. Everybody wants to look thirty at the age of sixty and forty at the age of eighty: there is a booming anti-aging market. If you only live in the dimension of time, you will always be stressed and never at peace with anything.
Time is an illusion and an addiction. If you constantly run all day long trying to accomplish as much as you can in a limited amount of time, your life becomes meaningless. If you relentlessly try to beat the aging process, you will have deep inside, constant anxiety and agitation. Time without space engages your linear mind, which is simply never satisfied.
We live in a century where we need to change our sensory system and engage space more than time. If you relate to yourself and everyone around you with space instead of time, you will connect to the intrinsic quality of everything. There is only one part of you that understands space; it is your heart.
If space is the essence, then you experience the energy of everything first. If space comes first, you have to go within your own body, sense it, feel it, and be still. The period we live in is in constant chaos and to have clarity and peace; you need stillness. That is the gift of space.
When you bring space first, you become the host for everything. You can still be on time, but time becomes effortless and secondary; you are present.
To deepen your connection to space, a daily spiritual practice that challenges your patterns is certainly a first step.
With much love
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In our culture, we don’t really know how to welcome uncertainty. Our economic model is based on predictability, and at a personal level, we often get excited to see a psychic who can give us information about our future. But let’s face it, are we really feeling that good about certainty?
Our mind feels threaten when uncertainty occurs, and it creates a deep level of insecurity within us. If we could only drop into our physical experience, deep enough to be able to connect to the core of who we are, we would realize that uncertainty is simply being. We would understand that uncertainty is at the center of our identity.
If we stay stuck into our finite social identity, we will never understand what uncertainty truly is. We then use our will and positive thinking to believe that uncertainty is great, but within us, there is tension and fear.
If you connect deep enough within yourself, uncertainty becomes awareness and presence moment to moment. If you drop deep enough into your inner experience at the cellular level, you will experience your infinite self. This may seem a contradiction, but the more you are connected to your physical experience the more spiritual you can be. From there everything is by essence uncertain. One breath at a time, and if you stay there, you will experience the depth of the universe between each heartbeat.
Without any connection to your spiritual self, uncertainty is something you will try to avoid at any price. Your linear mind makes you think that anxiety is fed by uncertainty; in fact, anxiety is led by addiction to certainty. When you realize that knowing from the linear mind is not all we are then you can embrace the constant chaos of life.
We have to train our way of thinking to be able to welcome uncertainty. Instead of pushing uncertainty away, choose to embrace it to experience wholeness within.
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If you are in your teens, you know that being cool means having the right look, the right social media platform or the right hobby. In brief, if you are cool, you are in. If you are a hippie dude from the seventies, being cool means that you are laid-back, you don’t sweat the small stuff, and you take it easy.
Now if you don’t fall into these two categories what am I talking about? I am talking about your ability to stay peaceful and still inside no matter what.
If we listen to the yogis, we are made of five gross elements: earth, water, fire, air, and ether. Each element plays a role in our system and has a unique set of qualities. The balance of these five elements supports our health and happiness.
The energy of fire is necessary to digest and process food. It also feeds our courage, passion and allows anger to be expressed. It helps us to be focused and resilient. Yet, too much fire in our life is extremely consuming: everything becomes a source of irritation, anger or anxiety.
If you live mainly on the energy of fire, you may have a lot of energy, but you consume a lot as well. Chances are you end up being at the center of everything which does not serve you and the people around you: your impatience and reactivity are too loud.
Practicing being cool is choosing to stay away from yelling and screaming as an ongoing communication style; it is choosing to step back instead of jumping in, it is being considerate of the impact of your words, thoughts and actions for yourself and the people around you.
Being cool is not pretending that everything is great. There is no need to wear a mask or the emoji sunglasses 😎; we want you to be true to yourself and still feel a wide range of emotions.
After an intense physical exercise, cooling down helps you to relax and recover faster. The same applies in life if you get caught into unnecessary heated conversations remember to cool down so that you can move on quicker.
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What do you want for your birthday?
On my end, the answer is very simple. No one can give it to me, yet everyone can teach it to me. Whether because I witness you mastering it or struggling with it. If my heart is open enough, I will be able to learn it from each of you.
My birthday wish really feeds my soul and helps me go through any challenge, any loss, any struggle, any rejection, and any illness. I cherish it tremendously, and I am so grateful for it. It is really simple: it is Peace.
Being peaceful does not mean being quiet or discreet. One can be colorful and peaceful. It does not mean agreeing with everyone or everything; it means that we don’t become impulsive or don’t fall into drama. We approach situations as they are not as we wish they should be.
Peace requires simplicity and with it extreme clarity. For some of you when life is too simple, you are bored, and you are looking for excitement or troubles. Peace can’t be true says your mind. As soon as you become a thinking being, fear sneaks in, and your true intelligence disappears.
When peace is your foundation, the land in which you unfold, if you cry or if you scream, if you panic or if you are exhausted, you will allow it to be. You will not make up a story, complain or manipulate.
Peace is your true identity; be sure to create a lifestyle that enhances that part of you.
With much love,
What is the purpose of discipline? Is it about achievement? If discipline is outcome driven, you will never be at peace or content. You will always run after the next challenge, and often the results you are chasing will own you. At that moment you disconnect with your true infinite self and you are trapped into the finite.
The purpose of discipline is not about keeping your body fat at 20% or less, not eating your vegetables or sleeping the right amount of time; the purpose of discipline is to live beyond the polarity of your emotions. If you get stuck into the world of emotions, you will go through highs and lows, excitement and depression, addiction and reaction, seduction and rejection; in brief you will not access the wisdom of the heart and its stability. Emotions are wonderful when they are part of a whole spectrum of life not when they take over you.
When you go beyond the polarity or your emotions you are free; you can access the clarity and neutrality of the heart. From there you have direct experience with your infinite self; it is not a concept anymore it is palpable.
When you remember that discipline is about staying connected with your infinite self, then your discipline does not become a chore, then you don’t identify yourself with your accomplishments or failures, then you realize that discipline is simply the path to happiness.
With much love,
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As we are diving into a new year, one thing is sure, chaos and crisis are part of our daily lives. In this constant turmoil, we need to hold clarity from within, crystal clear clarity. We need to be driven by the essence of clarity that is not connected to our emotions, our opinions or our level of pain and pleasure; we need to be driven by the essence of clarity that comes from our true infinite identity.
Despite any challenges you may endure, if you stay true to your blueprint, clarity and simplicity will always be present in your life. From there, you decide how you want to show up and manifest your true purpose in life.
The warrior within you does not sacrifice pleasure, does not push force or pressurize, does not fight; the warrior within you commits to her or his infinite identity. As a warrior, when you experience pain or pleasure, the infinite part of you remains. As a warrior, the finite part of you, your ego and attachments, will not take over your true self. When this impeccable loyalty to your true self occurs, then life ‘s ups and downs will be manageable, then your life will have one focus: service.
Service, from a warrior perspective, is not caught into looking good or being lovable. Service simply is a lifestyle from the clarity of the heart.
If you are curious and want to explore how you can be more in touch with your true self, then book a session with Tejpal. Regardless of your choices, commit to your true identity.
Our responsibility on earth is to keep our light on no matter what. Whether we fall, we fail, or we hurt, we need to keep the light on. We have to decide that there is no other option.
I am not asking you to pretend that you are happy and ignore any parts of you that need healing. You can feel pain and keep the light on at the same time. We have all witnessed people facing drastic challenges yet smiling and shining.
We will all go through unexpected challenges at times, yet we have to decide clearly and be impeccable in our decision: no wishy-washy behavior, no “I don’t know how to do this,” none of this. You think what I am asking you to be is hard; in fact, it is easier to keep the light on than the other way around.
There is a spiritual warrior within you that needs to be awakened if you want to keep your sanity. You do it for you and others, as we are here to serve each other.
Your lifestyle needs to change. You need to be sure that no matter what you create situations that enhance your light: whether it is what and how you eat, the friends you spend time with, the activities you are involved in or the teachers you choose to learn from.
From your own light, you will not be part of the tsunami of noise; you will find peace the foundation for love. Keep it bright and keep it light!
Peace and love to all and happy holiday season!
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Feeling empty usually has a negative connotation. It means that we are depressed or exhausted and that our ability to bounce back is gone. The tradition we are living in does not promote the art of emptiness. If we choose emptiness, we buy less, and our economic model cringes.
Every time we celebrate, we usually create a notion of abundance by providing too much. Too much food, wine, gifts and we leave the table full, which creates within us apathy.
We live in a country where obesity is a significant problem. In 2016, 40% of adults and 30% of children were obese. We live in a country where we die by overeating. To be alive, unique and vibrant we need to practice emptiness.
If your physical body is constantly full, it cannot do its necessary cleansing; your energy goes down, and your ability to focus is damaged. Now think about your breath: if you are full, you cannot breathe deeply. When you don’t breathe deeply, you can get into many kinds of trouble: addiction, depression or anxiety to name a few. To inhale you need to be empty; to take in, you need to be empty. A spacious body will help you have an open mind.
Beyond the physical body, pay attention to how you live; clear your space. Space is the foundation for your creativity and imagination to blossom. When your surrounding does not distract you, you are more in touch with who you are.
The heart by nature cannot be too full; simply because love is space, love is flow; love is about sharing.
In business, if you are too busy, that means that you are good at what you do. We never promote space for nothingness even though it may be the only way you can see what is going on. Without space, it is hard to set priorities and truly reinvent the business if necessary.
Practice emptiness; you will realize that nothing is missing or lacking. Instead, you are creating the opportunity to feel your self fully, grow and open up to new possibilities and new meanings in your life.
With much love,