Most of us want more joy and meaning in our lives. This is a beautiful longing yet it often becomes an attachment. The way we think our lives should create a roadmap for pain and distraction.
At almost 57 years old, I am amazed by how my life unfolds day by day in such unexpected ways…and I am learning and enjoying the process of detachment about a lifestyle…my life has many styles by the ways.
As you focus on your personal healing and transformation go within and pay attention to your life pulse.
The life pulse has four phases, expansion-stasis-contraction-stasis. This life pulse exists within every cell and every particle within the cell. Some of us get stuck in one phase and some of us skip some of the phases or force some of the phases. If you are attached to the expansion, phase thinking that life has to be exhilarating, expansive and creative all the time you are simply not connected to you. If you are in the stasis phase too much you are not respecting your true essence of personal growth and learning. And we know if you are in the contraction phase all the time it can be very painful.
In our society, we have valued the expansion phase of the life force. This is still a model that drives organizations and that drives how we look at health and vitality.
One of my best friend’s, who has a life-threatening disease, has learned to tap into the contraction phase by taking a three-hour nap every day. That has been her best medicine to challenge all the predictions of “not making it “ after 10 years.
Some of you will gain more peace when you go through a contraction phase. The problem is not the contraction but your perception of the contraction and your relationship with your own contraction. A happy pill…even if it is organic, will not be the first answer, but the last one.
Each phase is necessary for being vibrant and radiant in your life. If you are stuck in one for more than a few weeks then be curious. Is that serving you and how? What are you avoiding?
This month, go within and be curious about your life pulse and the life pulse of the people you love, you will develop compassion…one of the best medicines.
With much love,
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As we are approaching the holiday’s season, lets assess how we celebrate: we eat too much, drink too much, talk to much, stay up too late, watch too much football, prepare too much food or engage into too many activities. This “too much” pattern is often part of what we call celebration. It looks to me more like self-destruction.
For years I used to hide behind my work seeing clients on Thanksgiving Day. I have learned to be a Thanksgiving gypsy…not work anymore, connect to nature and land for a little bit of time in one or two gatherings. It is still not my favorite time of the year but always a learning opportunity to soften in the discomfort.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we chose to approach celebrations as a healing opportunity? Wouldn’t it be nice to bring the quality of sacredness in any celebration? There is one element that is the foundation of sacredness and healing, this is Space.
Being spacious is not about being distant; it is not about disconnecting or minimizing your time with any loved ones. It is creating space in your attitude, in your listening, in your seeking, in your love and in your actions.
Love is space so that everyone can unfold in its unique and mysterious way moment to moment. Love without space becomes purely emotional and that is signing up for a rollercoaster of suffering.
Healing is space so that every part of you can change its own pattern and create a new way to exchange energy. Healing without space becomes rigid in the process and it will not work.
My wish is you decide to be spacious during the upcoming celebrations. You will gain awareness and your heart will thank you.
With all my love,
We have many opportunities to pray as constant chaos and losses are happening on earth. The simple question is: how do you pray? Like many of you, in my younger age, I have begged and bargained in my prayers; I have prayed from a place of victim asking to be saved.
Praying is the opposite of begging; when you beg you loose your power and when you pray you are in your power. I am talking about spiritual power which the ability to experience oneness and stay connected with your true self.
When you pray, no matter what you do at the physical level, spiritually you are standing up. If you are praying on your knees, the purpose is to collect yourself not to make yourself so small that you don’t know what to do anymore. At that moment you raise the vibration within you and within the situation or people you are praying for.
Each of you is gifted with the power of prayers. Yet if you get attached to a specific outcome you loose your spiritual connection and no healing can truly occur. We can’t really control the physical delivery of our prayers but we can shift the energy and from there things will unfold. Pray from a place of inner power like a true spiritual warrior.
With Much love,
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Once, Osho, the great Spiritual Teacher, said something like this: “Life and death are not opposite. Ego and death are opposite”. …And I got inspired…
Life is always about transformation, transmutation and metamorphosis. Life is always about healing never about achieving. The key element to health and healing is death. If you can’t die you can’t heal. If you can’t let go of your attachments, your beliefs, your stories and your behaviors you can’t heal. Death is the foundation of transformation. If you choose to be vibrant and alive then accept the dying process.
What is in the way to your healing? Your resistance to dying. You want to heal without dying and it simply does not work.
Be curious about your ongoing resistance…how you shut down, how you step away, how you choose to focus on the causes of your unhappiness or disease.
Allow yourself to experience parts of your being that are new to you.
Allow yourself to look at your light and darkness without any stories around.
Just feel yourself deeper. That is where you will find inner peace and awareness. Pay attention to anything you have been saying to yourself for years: “I really want to change this or that”. Ask yourself this simple question: what part of me is ready to die? Is it my lack of trust? Is it my need for constant approval? Is it my fear of being alone? Is it my self-judgment?
What attachments, stories, beliefs, behavior, thoughts or relationships…am I really to let go?
Only then you experience the sacred within you …and that is the first step of healing.
With much love,
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Last week at the end of a talk on “How To Find Your Purpose”, I had several people who wanted to talk to me personally. That evening I was really tired fighting a sinus headache and I did not feel I had much more to give…I just wanted to go home. Several people wanted to talk to me at the end and a couple patiently waited for me. By then I could feel my heart closing down…The women, Cindy, shared that she has been diagnosed stage four pancreatic cancer last December. Within less than 30 seconds …I was not tired anymore and the three of us sat for a little while.
It was a great lesson for me. Tragedy woke me up. At that moment my mind had to drop and automatically my heart showed up. There was a new level of energy, a new set of priorities, a different listening and a new level of awakening. But really…Do I need a crisis to stay awake?
Every relationship is an opportunity for transformation, awakening and healing. I get reminded of this every day. Every relationship can give us a boost of energy when we choose to be engaged, open, sensitive and receptive. What is in the way to creating authentic relationships?
This month, surprise yourself. Reach out in a way you have not done before. Explore your resistance and fears and decide to break one of your old patterns in some of your relationships. Take a risk.
With much love,
What if you choose to invite the quality of silence as your best guest for the month of November? We have co-created a world that does not give a lot of space for silence.
If you are a kid, silence is often given as a punishment. We need to explore the true gifts of silence.
We don’t go into silence because there is nothing to talk about or nothing to fight for or stand for. We don’t choose silence because we are scared to speak up or because we are hiding. We don’t decide to be in silence to check out in fact silence is the way to check in.
Learn to speak with silence in mind. Learn to invite silence into your life to connect to the essence of who you are.
Make silence your favorite guest at your Thanksgiving dinner table. This does not mean that you are quiet literally; this means that you choose to envelope your essence with silence. It will allow you to communicate and connect authentically.
In our noisy lives, silence is one of the best remedies for clarity, ability to make choices and inner peace.
There are a few things we don’t learn at school or in our family of origin; one of them is the art of saying no. People suffer from anxiety, ADD, sleep disorder, loneliness and much more. People also suffer from avoiding saying no.
In some countries saying no is perceived as a threat and your life can be in danger but that is not the case where most of you live. We need to practice saying no to gain clarity and inner stability.
If you say no from a place of anger, it is already too late. Your needs have not been met for quite a while, you feel rejected neglected or abused and your no is a reaction to what is happening. Yet at time anger is necessary to gain clarity and focus.
If you say no from a place of resistance that means your fears are running the show. Fear is the opposite of love; at that moment you are not present and not much is happening in your life.
There is one place to say no from; it is the heart center. The language of the heart is not about being nice it is about being true. The heart goes beyond the polarity nice/mean or good/bad. The heart carries neutrality clarity and peace. Your nos become a yes to you.
Explore your nos and assess them. Are you saying no enough in your life from your heart center? Are you present enough to who you are? Your values? Your beliefs, and what you care for? Are you committed enough to yourself to say no?
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Last week I was asked to write an article with 200 words or less about the following question: “What is the meaning of life?”
And as we keep experiencing lots of crisis’ on this planet I invite you to journal on this question. The more clarity you have about your value system and your presence on earth, the easier it will be to create inner peace. From that place where you don’t react, but you make choices.
Meaning, it is an experience that comes from your heart not from your head. Your head does not experience anything but carries a lot of labels about everything; your heart stays present in the moment and open. When you experience a loss you have more chance to drop in the heart versus when you gain something. When you lose a loved one, your youth, a job, etc. you have an opportunity to sit back and decide what is meaningful and what is not. When you are on the “gain train” without many experiences of losses you are more in your head than in your heart. If you want to know what is the meaning of life go back to the time of loss.
Everyone has to decide for themselves what the meaning of life is. Regardless on how we want to express it on a daily basis, we all need to apply the basic campground rules for planet Earth and the Universe: “Leave this site in a better place than you have found it” and “Leave this planet in a better place than you have found it”.
Raise your vibration and the vibration of the planet daily.
With much love,
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As we enter into a new year, we enter into a new frequency of energy. We have the opportunity to open up to a new level of awareness where we can see our patterns and experience our Self from a new perspective. A new frequency of energy gives us the opportunity to expand and reach new levels of joy.
This renewed self-expression requires healing. Without healing you will go into la-la land, driven by your stories and ungrounded.
What are you choosing to heal at this time? What part of you are you choosing to hold in stillness? How can you connect to the divine self within you? How can you stay connected to your true essence? How can you hold your duality, your fears, your hope and your despairs without trying to solve them or fix them? How can you trust the healing power of your soul energy?
When we choose the path of healing we choose radical truth.
If you are truly interested in self-renewal then start there. Remember that who you are is energy and simply be willing to look at your behavioral patterns. Do not go sideways into any context and or why you acted this way or that way. Look at you, your actions your reactions and your communication.
- What do I wish people knew about me?
- What do I wish people never discovered about me?
- What are my recurrent ways of acting (my patterns)?
- What are the fears and/or the needs that are driving my behavior?
My suggestion is to work with someone who can hold you with love and clarity. When you surrender to that level of truth then you will create joyful breakthrough in your life.
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The Holidays season often brings a myriad of emotions and memories. Some of them may be uplifting while others may be painful. Whether you are choosing to celebrate the Holidays or not, you cannot ignore them …It is “in the air”, it is part of the big energy field we are living in and therefore it impacts us.
How do you choose to celebrate this year? How do you choose to connect and relate to each others? Who do you need to forgive? What do you need to take responsibility for? How do you want to reach out from a place of truth?
This year, take this opportunity to truly transform yourself. Celebrations are always a rite of passage, an opportunity to reinvent who we are and let go of what does not serve you anymore.
To support you on your journey, I am inviting you to create a new habit for 40 days in a row and do a meditation with me.
Start November 24th and then decide after 40 days if you want to keep going but first choose to commit for 40 days.
What I know about this meditation is that it will heal and strengthen your nervous system. Your nervous system plays a big role in your emotions and thoughts. When this system is out of balance you are reactive, angry, depressed, worried, agitated and tired. When this system is strong and balanced you feel centered, aligned, and connected.
The decisions you are making come from a place of choice instead of a place of reaction.
Watch this video about the meditation.
If you choose to do it, share with me your experience and your questions.
I have much love and appreciation for each of you to be part of my life, Thank You, Thank You!
Self-transformation is an ongoing process necessary if you want to be happy, holy and healthy. It is important to incorporate this dimension in our lives when things are going pretty well instead of when we hit a wall. Our cells renew constantly, why don’t we?
The golden key to self-transformation is Self-Love. But are we ready to look at it closely? Self- Love is by essence a destructive process. We are accepting the fact that we may need to tear apart, deconstruct some of our attachments about life, and let go of who we think we need to be. Self-love is saying yes to life and yes to death; it is a constant rebirthing process.
The biggest block to Self-Love is the intensity of our emotions. Anger, fear, judgments or anxiety to name a few are powerful obstacles to reinvent ourselves.
Here are a few examples:
- Paul is extremely creative and in many ways brilliant. Yet he has been unable to make some important shifts in his business because of a major anxiety about separation.
- Jina is a very successful lawyer and has been experiencing terror perhaps all her life. It is very difficult to trust and everything in her life feels very stiff. There is a deep lack of joy.
For Paul and Jina, the process to gain Self-Love has to be multidimensional (energy healing, sacred geometry, breath, writing exercises, etc.) to move beyond the emotional block and feel safe enough to make decisions that support their true essence.
It does not have to take years. Paul contacted a lawyer within a week of working together to explore the next steps regarding his business. Jina within a few months was able to embrace her daughter’s dream despite the fact that it did not make sense to her.
If you want to feel complete, at peace and radiant, then this is it! Have you said yes to Self- Love yet? Take a complimentary session with Tejpal.
In life, we make many compromises. Some of them we are at peace with. For example, the car I bought was not my color of choice, but it was a good deal financially. I sometimes work late to accommodate a client and I am in harmony with this.
At times, the compromises we are making are truly killing us. The following are true stories from my practice (the names have been changed):
- Ann has stopped going to her art class because she finishes late at work everyday.
- Peter has a new born baby and a second one coming soon. He had let go of his own business and has chosen to work in a company that pays good money but is not a great fit for him.
- Ella ‘s husband is a volunteer sport coach for the past 6 years. Ella carries all the financial responsibility of the family since then.
- Andrew loves musical theater but has chosen for the past two years to work for a software company.
Four true stories. Four out of these four people are exhausted, depressed, confused and some of them on medication to manage their anxiety. What happened?
They have one thing in common; they have compromised their deepest longing.
Ann is afraid to be rejected and is the only one working late; she has lost her vitality. Peter has been afraid to not make enough money and since he started working for someone else, he has been sick for the past year. Ella is putting on a lot of weight and is terrified to ask her husband to get a paid job as she believes he will leave her. Andrew has created a very structured life that looks successful on the surface but deep inside he feels empty and isolated.
Each time you compromise your deepest desire, you loose your life force. And from there, you create a negative momentum: your mind takes over trying to figure out a way to deal with everything and you get deeper into a black hole.
Why did they give up their desires? Because they did not know how to get there.
When you don’t know how to get somewhere, you listen to your fears instead of listening to your heart and soul. In most cases, you will literally become sick. What you need to focus on is your desire and only the first step to get there. Let go of creating an action plan, it will prevent you from moving forward.
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The ultimate discipline has nothing to do with how well you eat, how much you exercise, or how balanced your life is. The ultimate discipline has not much to do with your will to achieve what you want in life.
The ultimate discipline has to do with your ability to surrender and be in the moment. To create this, you need to shift your focus from a place of will to a place of self-awareness.
Self-awareness does not mean over analyzing everything that is happening to you. It means being curious about your experience and your reactions moment to moment. You are focusing on noticing your reactions instead of trying to understand them. Shift from a place of analyzing everything to a place of being curious and you will gain energy and vibrancy. Learn to be curious and clueless.
What helps you being in the moment?
Here is my first list:
- Caring for my garden
- Playing the guitar
- Public speaking
- Playing with kids
- Getting a massage
- Eating delicious food
- and the list goes on
What is your list?
As you experience more and more at the cellular level being present, you develop an attitude of receptivity necessary to enhance your intuition and creativity. Every part of your being becomes alive to help you manifest the life you truly desire.
The summer season in Tucson may look like the winter season in Alaska. It is a time of hibernation where we are reminded of the law of nature. I have had a tendency to drag myself during this period of heavy heat focusing too much on all the things I cannot do and this year, I have decided to take advantage of the summer. The heat quiets everything down and if we choose, it is a time for deep clearing. The act of clearing calls on many qualities: opening up, letting go, visualizing, healing and reinventing ourselves to name a few.
How do we clear?
Our Physical Level is perhaps the easiest level to clear. I have decided that for 40 days, I am getting rid of one thing everyday. I am giving away a fancy juicer and a dehydrator that I don’t use. I am giving away books, and I am feeling a wonderful burst of energy. The joy of clearing my space is simply priceless.
Our Emotional Level often holds pain. Choose one emotion that does not serve you anymore. Either it is anger, anxiety, depression, resentment, worries, or any other ones. Decide which emotion you want to be free from. Visualize all the benefits of the new you and create a collage.
Our Mental Level is often a place where we get stuck. Clearing our mind is an everyday requirement. When we do not clear our mind, our thoughts have a tendency to become loud and we become more reactive loosing touch with your essence. Choose a breath pattern from a tradition of your choice to reduce the intensity of your mind and stay connected with your true self.
The Heart and Spiritual Levels are certainly important dimensions to clear from and regenerate. Each of these two levels will help you renew your whole being. There are many approaches to work on these two levels. An effective way is to commit to a form of art expression. Remember you do not have to be good at it but simply enjoy it!
Get started this summer and decide where you want to start with; there is no logical order. Renew yourself with Tejpal for a transformative session or a discovery session!
From my 27 years of experience helping many to create a better life for themselves or their organization, I have discovered four main practices that impact anyone tremendously in creating quick and lasting shifts in their life.
- Commit to Joy
Too often, we are not spending enough time and energy doing things that bring us joy. In fact joy often shows up as an extra quality, a bonus that is certainly wonderful but not really necessary. When you commit to joy, you commit to uplift yourself. Your spirit, the most powerful part of who you are, becomes more vibrant. From there, you create a new foundation for your life where you learn to rely on your intuitive being. When this happens everything starts to shift in your life for the better.
- Engage in a Mind-Body-Spirit Practice
A mind body spirit practice (like yoga, chi-gong, sufi dance, etc.) works on shifting energetically your patterns without going into the stories and drama of your life. It will help you being more grounded and will increase the quality of your presence. Your awareness and sensitivity will expand to help you make choices aligned with your essence and your purpose.
- Practice Curiosity Towards Yourself
Stay curious about your needs, your desires, your fears, your vulnerabilities, your dreams, etc. Being curious does not mean over-analyzing who you are but listening and witnessing all the parts of you. When this happens you become less reactive, less noisy and you will be able to recognize the part you are playing in what you are attracting in life. You will then be able to clearly decide what you want to change.
- Experience Energy Healing
Energy healing works on your energy patterns and their impact at the spiritual, heart, mental, emotional and physical levels. Often information has been lodged deep inside your body and it energy field. When this information is revealed, blocks and belief systems that do not serve you will be released so that you can create the life you truly desire.
You say you want to change some areas of your life? When you engage in these four practices you will succeed attracting the life you truly desire.
Imagine that you hold in your hands the power to change your reality and that you are capable of creating your highest vision and desire. Imagine that life is way simpler than what you think. Then….you are able to Manifest Moment To Moment the life you truly long for.
Many of you know that I have co-written a book with my business partner Dr. Carrol McLauglin.
And so here we are! Our “Manifest Moment To Moment” book is published by Hay House and will be released June 4th this year.
Check out our website, www.ManifestMomentToMoment.com, the videos, and the claim it exercises! We hope that you will appreciate the spirit , insights and tools we have to offer! To respect your space, you will get an insightful newsletter once a month from this new website. I will scale down from the Tejpal-Inspires website and send one newsletter once a month as well. Feel free to give me some feedback, I would love to hear from you!
As I had my birthday this week, the day prior to my date of birth, I received some clear insights: “Tejpal, the theme of this year for you is about surrendering”. And then I received a few directions about which spiritual practice I need to focus on.
And so here I am…pondering and assessing the different parts of my life. Every area of my life will beneficiate from my ability to surrender, no doubt. Surrendering is for me the most gracious intent as it calls on flexibility and spaciousness. If I create more space then creativity can truly happen. If I am really creative then there is a way no matter how many blocks I may encounter in my life; I can always bounce back. And quite frankly in life we don’t need to be sure we are doing the right thing to be happy, we need to know we can bounce back so that we feel more secure inside to move forward and listen to our deepest desire.
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Over the years, I have witnessed the same thing over and over when it is time to shift and grow…there is one thing that is in the way for pretty much everyone I have helped. It is the lack of compassion you have toward your own Self. Yes, it is simple, but true. That is your biggest obstacle in your life.
Too often, we create a fixed idea of what our Self should be and each time we do not match that rigid identity. We shrink, contract and sometimes we spend too much time inward over analyzing everything.
First we need to let go of that fixed image about ourselves but still have that deep desire to expand, be more accepting, living more in the heart or whatever you would like to express and experience often in our life.
The people that get the most hyper and excited about working with me are often the people who struggle to commit. Their ideal image of themselves takes over and their engagement is like a fire cracker…explosive, beautiful and short.
If you want to go really far, be aware of your limitations and have compassion for what you may call your contradictions, your paradoxes and your faults. Own them and hold them; there are parts of your expression.
There is no world-class athlete that dismissed their own limitation. Gary Player knew as a golfer that he had to go the gym and be fit, way before the Tiger Wood trend, to compensate his short size in order to be a legendary golfer.
Your ambition without self-compassion will not nourish your soul. Do you want to experience and explore the gifts of self-compassion?Take a complimentary session with Tejpal.
The Path Toward True Gratefulness:
Three Impactful Practices for Vibrant Living
Many teachers have emphasized the importance of being grateful. Yet too often we have miss understood the depth of this practice.
I have noticed two common habits around the art of being grateful that will limit your joy factor in life.
1- Most people practice gratefulness from a place of what they should be grateful for. In my practice, when men and women share what they are grateful for in their lives, ninety nine percent of the time, they talk from their head not from their heart. Their head tells them to be grateful for this or that but their being does not match what they say. Bottom line, they create a deeper disconnect between their true experience and their mind. This increases unhappiness.
2- Gratefulness is usually about what you have or the behavior of others around you. In this situation, your sense of gratefulness is only focusing on your surroundings. You have a new car, a new house, great vacation, a great support system around you, etc. While it is wonderful to appreciate, value and receive from your environment, you will most likely base your level of happiness on your outer reality. This limits you tremendously.
Focus on these three practices to truly experience vibrant living
1- Be grateful about who you are. Shift your focus from what you have or what is happening to you to who you are. What is the core quality within you that you choose to celebrate today? How do you express this quality in your life? Are there any ways you could express it more often? What will happen if you do?
2- Be grateful about the challenges you are facing in your life. Your biggest challenges in life are your biggest growth opportunities. When you truly receive the challenges you are experiencing, you have an opportunity to learn something about your personal limitations and from there to grow.
3- Be grateful for what you wish. What do you want to create in your life? Who do you want to become? Say yes to your soul’s longing and bring that longing into your present as if it is already there. It will help you shift your paradigm and create a life that matches your deepest longing.
With every achievement comes equal boredom. (…). In fact, achievement is boredom. Yogi Bhajan
Most of us have been raised with goal setting, and all the technology that goes with it. I have developed a negative reaction to this approach and feel constricted, limited and under pressure each time I hear that goal setting is the foundation for success.
I would like to offer a different formula. Commit to vibrant living to experience a life that is much bigger than yourself and your imagination.
Goal setting anchors you into your linear mind, vibrant living reminds you the strength of your spirit. What do you choose, your mind or your spirit?
Yogis have said that 90% of who you are is spiritual. Why are you putting so much effort on the 10%?
I don’t live in la-la land and I do appreciate financial abundance but first you need to trust the brilliance of your spirit and develop your intuitive skills to be at ease with your physical and spiritual reality. Being able to hold both dimensions will propel your ability to manifest moment to moment.
There are 2 important elements in your life that prevent you from living your purpose.
1- Your Perceived Negative Emotions
Negative emotions are fear, anxiety, sadness, terror, anger, rage, jalousie, resentment and vulnerability to name a few. When you spent energy avoiding experiencing a specific emotion you disconnect from your life purpose.
If you are terrified of anger, you may design a life that seems peaceful. Yet by not expressing your anger and shutting down, you may never create the necessary changes toward a vibrant life.
2- Your Perceived Negative Behaviors
Negative behaviors can be judging, rejecting others, comparing, lying, manipulating, etc.
If you are terrified of being rejected you will most likely design a life where you give too much and where you don’t speak your truth or set healthy boundaries.
If you are afraid of depression, you may design a life that is full of activities where rest can’t happen.
The emotion or the behavior that you are trying to avoid in your life simply run the show and become the foundation of your life design. You give them full power and can’t access your truth.
Remember that you are not your emotions or your behavior. You are much bigger. You are a spirit, a source of energy.
Write down the one emotion or the one behavior that you are avoiding and journal about that particular emotion or behavior, 5 minutes a day for 40 day. You will learn to accept this part of you, reclaim your essence and fulfill your purpose.
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