This past week during one of my workshops a young man who has three children raised his hand and asked me: “How can I be a perfect dad?” I was touched by this beautiful question as I could hear the purity of his intent… Bill wanted to be the best he could be for his kids. Yet I don’t believe we need to be or to follow a role model anymore; we need love.
We don’t need to be driven by perfection we need to be aligned with our heart. It is a different form of discipline that focuses more on listening and receiving than constantly showing the way and telling what is right or wrong. This discipline makes us shift from the ego to the heart.
- Your ego is driven by perfection; your heart is guided by connection.
- Your ego convinces; your heart inspires.
- Your ego strategizes; your heart has insights.
- Your ego dictates; your heart learns.
- Your ego avoids pain at any price; your heart connects to your pain and grows.
- Your ego is driven by fear and threat; your heart trusts.
- Your ego compares; your heart invites.
- Your ego anticipates; your heart lives in the moment.
- Your ego cannot be alone by itself; your heart loves to be with you.
- Your ego denies what could be uncomfortable; your heart faces everything.
- Your ego believes in impressing others; your heart believes in truth.
- Your ego makes you believe you act from the heart; your heart recognizes your ego.
In the time of crisis and uncertainty we are living in, we need to develop our “Thouness”, our ability to stay in the heart where we truly experience a sense of belonging and deep connection. In the heart we stay still, still with our pain, still with our limitations and still with our hopes. What would happen if this planet became stiller?
Choose one of the statements above that speaks to you and decide for 40 days to make that shift. Journal a few minutes a day and first assess your misalignments. Stay compassionate with your miss alignments. You cannot grow if you don’t practice self-love.
Do you want to shift from your ego to your heart?
Book a session with Tejpal.
If you want to experience the best adventure of your life, never leave home.
Living an adventurous life is not automatically about traveling, meeting new people or doing new things. Perhaps the most adventurous way of living is about finding home and staying home.
Where is home and what is home for you?
We know it may not have anything to do with your biological history. But really what feels like home? And what are the qualities that you want to experience when you are at home?
If I had to choose three, I would pick: Nourishment, Peace and Beauty. And each time I compromise any of these three qualities in my daily life, I compromise myself.
When these three are in place I can relax experience simplicity and gratefulness.
Choose three qualities that feel like coming home for you and from there, decide day by day what do you need to create to match these three vibrations. As soon as you feel at home you are dropping into the heart center where everything unfolds. From that place you can see, feel, intuit and manifest what you truly desire. Your heart is your foundation for everything in life but you have to be willing to stay still at home and experience yourself.
To enhance your ability to stay at home, I invite you to do the mirror meditation. It will help you shift from your head to your heart.
Simply sit in front of a mirror and look at yourself for 3 to 5 minutes. Do it every day for 40 days in a row. The mirror can be a hand-held mirror. Stay present to your relationship with you. You may first focus on your flaws, then you may get bored with yourself, then you may focus on what you like about you. Eventually, you will connect to you, you will be in love with you, you will be still where there is nothing to like or dislike about who you are.
As you are practicing true love, you will be at home wherever you go and really create the best life ever.
When I was little, I always had mix feelings about the Holiday Season. I was excited about the “stuff” I was going to get and at the same time so disappointed about the lack of connection, the lack of love. I felt empty, meaningless and was reminded of this constant existential pain I was born with.
In my teens, at this time of the year, I was dragging my feet shutting down and watching the family scene holding lots of judgments. In my twenties, I chose to simply dismiss myself from most family gatherings and was then taking the time for personal self-care such as reading, painting and playing music. In my thirties, I moved to the USA and was surprised by the length of the holiday season starting with the famous Thanksgiving. I learned one year at a time to relax a little more during that period of celebration and embrace it. I also chose to share my gifts as a teacher and a healer. Every year, I love to work part of Thanksgiving day to stay center.
My wish for the Holidays is that all of us can stay true to we you are. We are born with a lineage and a destiny and I do believe that if we take care of our destiny first our lineage will be taking care off. Open yourself to new ways of celebrating, mix traditions and create new rituals that help your heart to heal and open.
I have chosen a healing meditation easy for everyone to do. Your child or your grandmother can do it. Share this gift with many. Meditation is an act of self-love. In this time of chaos, your soul is your biggest ally. No one can kill your soul; no one can threaten your soul.
“You have the right to create harmony and you have the right to create crisis, nobody creates them for you. (…) There is just one way to get out, and that is to grow.” YBJ
Emergency Kits are usually used when you are in some form of crisis. And when you are, you may experience the following with your kit: some products are obsolete, you don’t know how to use them and you don’t have what you need in it. In brief, you have not prepared yourself for challenging situations.
In school, nobody taught you how to fail; everybody wanted you to succeed whatever that meant. When you focus on making the right decision you put lots of pressure on yourself and build up an ideal image of who you think you should be. Your ego is now running your life and you learn absolutely nothing.
The only place we can learn from is the heart. The only place we can grow from is the heart. Making the so-called wrong decision, getting an undesirable outcome, or experiencing deep pain are situations we all face. In life the most important aspect is not making the right decision but instead mastering bouncing back.
The holiday season always brings a myriad of emotions in each of us. Depending on your history you may experience more joy than pain and yet if you are really connected to yourself some memories will make you smile and some will make you cry. There will be hope, disappointment, gratefulness, excitement, pure joy and deep sadness. If we choose to welcome the diversity of our experience without getting locked into one them we are fine.
During this time of connection and reconnection with others choose also to enhance a reconnection with yourself. Enjoy the adventure of you.
To support you in this process I am giving you a special meditation:
Video 1: Four Misconceptions About Meditation
Watch this short video to tune in before practicing.
Video 2: Self-Healing Meditation For The Holiday Season
Practice this meditation 3 to 11 minutes a day until January. Share this practice with many around you and If you are in Tucson November 23rd, join me at Yoga 4 All at 6:30pm November 23rd to jump start your meditation .
Wishing inner peace for the Holiday Season
“Those who know do not need to get rid of darkness; they simply need to light a lamp.” ~ Osho
Most of our misaligned behaviors, perhaps all of them, come from a place of fear. If we are called to create inner peace and experience true love in our life, we need to be curious about that part of us.
Are you willing to experience your fears in a new way? Are you willing to sit with your fears, connect to the essence of them, taste them, smell them and see them?
If you want to experience true happiness, you need to be still with your fears. In this quiet space you can hear, listen, receive and learn from them. Once you can experience your fears without running away, you can transform yourself and experience the depth of love.
Fear and love are part of the same polarity. How deep you can connect with your fears will reflect how deep you can love. There are many exercises to help you explore your relationship with your fears and deepen your ability to love.
I suggest you journal on this two questions for a minimum of ten days:
- What is your biggest fear?
- What do you do to avoid it? Be curious. You may not know right away what is your biggest fear. Notice how much energy you spend on avoiding experiencing this particular fear and how much you step away from your authentic self when you do this. Once you are at peace with your fears, you are at peace with everything else in your life and then everything is possible.
Do you want to experience authentic happiness? Get an individual, Transformative One-on-One Session from Tejpal.
I will be working in Manhattan, NYC but I am currently sold out but if you have an urge to see me there I will add some hours. Please contact my assistant, Chris at Chris@SerenityVA.com for an appointment.
When: Oct 9th and 10th
Where: Tournesol Wellness
26 East 36th Street
New York, NY 10016
With Much Love Tejpal
As I am on my way to experience the well renowned healer “John of God” in Brazil, I have taken quite some time clarifying the true intent of this coming trip. John of God is well known for the miracle healings many have received in his presence and so… I wonder …what is a miracle? What does it take to create miracles in life?
It takes the ability to surrender. When we surrender we are engaged, we are not passive. We are co creating with this vast universe and beyond. When we surrender we choose to drop our fixed images of what we want; we give a voice to our desires and yet we are willing to be spacious, not attached to an end results.
This month, be curious about your desires and be curious about your expectations.
Are your desires coming from a place of fear or from your essence? For example, do you want to be in a relationship because you are afraid of being alone or because you want to learn to live more in the heart?
With each desire, notice some of your attachments and realize how they prevent you from creating your miracles. Write down your attachments every day, 3-5 minutes a day to give yourself a chance to co create miracles.
Do you want to develop your ability to create miracles in your life?
Book a session with Tejpal in NYC (Manhattan)
When: Oct 9th and 10th
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When: Oct 15th and 16th
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For many years I have been addicted to pain one way or another. In the womb of my mother I recall myself saying: “It is not going to be easy”. It ended up being pretty accurate as my childhood was a blend of sexual abuse and lies from my father’s side, mixed with severe depression and an ongoing attachment from my mother’s side to die.
Nevertheless there were also good elements; both my parents had artistic talents, boys and girls were treated the same and physical health (nutrition and physical activities) were always a priority. Having said that, love was simply not there.
For years in many of my relationships I was choosing my partners based on their pain instead of their essence.
During the first 33 years of my life I thought I would either commit suicide or end up in a psychiatric hospital. At work I was always taking on the most challenging responsibilities; I did not know the word ease.
It took me a while to allow myself to be free of pain and shine in the world.
As I have given coaching and healing sessions for the past 30 years to thousand of people all over the world, I know that pain is where magic can occur. The magic of transformation and healing is not about avoiding pain, it is about creating a new relationship with pain.
Come join me, Thursday August 6th at 6pm. Together we will learn and practice six different approaches to help you change your relationship with pain and gain tremendous insights for a renewed Self.
If you cannot make it, the session will be recorded.
I was reading a book this weekend about a friend of mine Janice, who was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2010. Today she is still active touching so many yet experiencing a new chemo treatment. I witness her beautiful and relentless spirit, her untouchable focus and ability to be so grateful day after day.
I also have two of my clients Carolyn and Laura going through major diseases; both have the same ability to celebrate in their unique style any victory they have.
These three women have mastered their relationship with pain. Janice has a foundation and she teaches; uplifting so many and bringing awareness about cancer prevention. Carolyn who is still in the early stages of treatment for Leukemia is at the hospital and blogs. Her insights about surrendering and being a spiritual warrior are priceless. Laura is experiencing multiple forms of cancer and is too weak these days to do much of anything but she focuses on gratefulness with so much depth. These three women rely on two things: their heart and their spirit.
Most of us when we go through any pain we go into more fear, worries, anxiety and we jump into the future saying to ourselves: “When is it going to end?” As I am doing some renovation in my house and experiencing an on going mess, I have asked that question more than once. When I went through a break up last October I wondered many times when the pain will end.
Our pain always gives us an opportunity to grow. We can pretend there is no pain and find a way to numb it. We can be busier, drink a little more, jump into a new relationship, or collapse and be depressed. Quite frankly there are many more options.
We can blame or we can learn. We can ignore it or we can grow through it. When you master how you relate to your pain you deepen your experience with joy. Choose to drop your thinking, step back from your emotions and go into the heart.
The heart is the only place that will teach you how to be still and present when you are in pain.
When you are worrying about your future you are not in the heart. As Janice was saying in her book*, “NOW spelled backwards is WON…if you stay in the now, you’ve won the day”.
When you are obsessing on how to get rid of your pain you are not in the heart, you are in your head. Your pain is not a problem to be fixed but a part of you to be explored.
Join me August 6th , at 6 pm Pacific. I will lead a virtual healing circle to help you experience the wisdom of your heart.
For an hour you will:
– Learn three specific meditations to help you be in the heart
– Experience healing processes to feel peace and release any agitations coming from your mind
– Understand your unique style and discover specific ways to embrace your pain and get insights
This is a time for transformation!
Join me August 6th at 6PM Pacific. Together our healing power is stronger. If you cannot make the call, this session is recorded.
As long as I remember, I have lived on and off with anxiety. As a little kid, I used to ask myself “What is my life purpose?”. I did not wait 18 years to be curious about this; I was 6 or 7 when this question haunted me. I never felt a deep connection with my family of origin and I kept seeking for happiness and meaning.
In this constant search, I experienced a lot of pain and I struggled with the idea of living in a human body. Many times I wished to be a pure spirit being filled with a sense of wholeness and fulfillment. In this constant search, I felt deeply isolated inside, different from everyone else and questioning what was wrong with me? It felt to me that I was born with some kind of fault and I had to find a way to compensate. Yet, despite my ongoing suffering, I never stopped hoping.
Today I am so grateful to have found my purpose and be a catalyst for healing, transformation and inspiration. Today I am so grateful that I can serve in a way that uplifts me. Yet, my anxiety still comes and goes. As I have been working with thousands of people for the past 30 years, I witness how so many of you suffer with anxiety.
When we are in that place of pain, we loose our guiding system, we disconnect from the heart and we create a split within us. The only way we can feel radiant, vibrant and fulfilled is when we experience wholeness, when we feel we are enough. At that moment, we are connected to everything on earth and in the universe.
If you resonate with what I am sharing then join me May 7th at 6PM Pacific Time.
I have created a virtual healing circle to help you free yourself from anxiety.
During this hour together your will:
- Learn and practice three specific short meditations to help you release your anxiety
- Understand your character structure related to anxiety and create processes to support you on your healing journey
- Receive insights from me during our Q&A time
Click here to learn more about our upcoming class: How To Free Ourselves From Anxiety
When we come together, we heal faster and deeper. The session will be recorded.
With much love,
Every change you truly desire starts at the heart center. Your will or your mindset may be useful to support any transition you want to create in your life, but without the heart energy the changes you are making will feel stressful or will not last.
There are two important practices that enhance the energy of the heart: gratefulness and forgiveness. All of us can gain to deepen our relationship with both. When we experience our heart energy, we live in the present and are open to receive intuitive guidance.
Over the past 25 years I have witnessed with my clients a lot of pain, struggle and confusion around the theme of forgiveness. I often notice a genuine desire to forgive and yet the feelings of resentment, anger and confusion are still present. We know that when we truly forgive we feel free, spacious and ready to reinvent our lives.
- We will practice several meditations to expand the energy of the heart
- You will learn the 3 stages toward true forgiveness
- I will work with you, (during our Q&A), and share insights and healing to support you on your journey
Let’s create a beautiful time and bring our energy together for healing.
As we enter into a new year, we enter into a new frequency of energy. We have the opportunity to open up to a new level of awareness where we can see our patterns and experience our Self from a new perspective. A new frequency of energy gives us the opportunity to expand and reach new levels of joy.
This renewed self-expression requires healing. Without healing you will go into la-la land, driven by your stories and ungrounded.
What are you choosing to heal at this time? What part of you are you choosing to hold in stillness? How can you connect to the divine self within you? How can you stay connected to your true essence? How can you hold your duality, your fears, your hope and your despairs without trying to solve them or fix them? How can you trust the healing power of your soul energy?
When we choose the path of healing we choose radical truth.
If you are truly interested in self-renewal then start there. Remember that who you are is energy and simply be willing to look at your behavioral patterns. Do not go sideways into any context and or why you acted this way or that way. Look at you, your actions your reactions and your communication.
- What do I wish people knew about me?
- What do I wish people never discovered about me?
- What are my recurrent ways of acting (my patterns)?
- What are the fears and/or the needs that are driving my behavior?
My suggestion is to work with someone who can hold you with love and clarity. When you surrender to that level of truth then you will create joyful breakthrough in your life.
Rejoice and renew! Schedule a free 15 minutes discovery session with me!
The Holidays season often brings a myriad of emotions and memories. Some of them may be uplifting while others may be painful. Whether you are choosing to celebrate the Holidays or not, you cannot ignore them …It is “in the air”, it is part of the big energy field we are living in and therefore it impacts us.
How do you choose to celebrate this year? How do you choose to connect and relate to each others? Who do you need to forgive? What do you need to take responsibility for? How do you want to reach out from a place of truth?
This year, take this opportunity to truly transform yourself. Celebrations are always a rite of passage, an opportunity to reinvent who we are and let go of what does not serve you anymore.
To support you on your journey, I am inviting you to create a new habit for 40 days in a row and do a meditation with me.
Start November 24th and then decide after 40 days if you want to keep going but first choose to commit for 40 days.
What I know about this meditation is that it will heal and strengthen your nervous system. Your nervous system plays a big role in your emotions and thoughts. When this system is out of balance you are reactive, angry, depressed, worried, agitated and tired. When this system is strong and balanced you feel centered, aligned, and connected.
The decisions you are making come from a place of choice instead of a place of reaction.
Watch this video about the meditation.
If you choose to do it, share with me your experience and your questions.
I have much love and appreciation for each of you to be part of my life, Thank You, Thank You!
Self-transformation is an ongoing process necessary if you want to be happy, holy and healthy. It is important to incorporate this dimension in our lives when things are going pretty well instead of when we hit a wall. Our cells renew constantly, why don’t we?
The golden key to self-transformation is Self-Love. But are we ready to look at it closely? Self- Love is by essence a destructive process. We are accepting the fact that we may need to tear apart, deconstruct some of our attachments about life, and let go of who we think we need to be. Self-love is saying yes to life and yes to death; it is a constant rebirthing process.
The biggest block to Self-Love is the intensity of our emotions. Anger, fear, judgments or anxiety to name a few are powerful obstacles to reinvent ourselves.
Here are a few examples:
- Paul is extremely creative and in many ways brilliant. Yet he has been unable to make some important shifts in his business because of a major anxiety about separation.
- Jina is a very successful lawyer and has been experiencing terror perhaps all her life. It is very difficult to trust and everything in her life feels very stiff. There is a deep lack of joy.
For Paul and Jina, the process to gain Self-Love has to be multidimensional (energy healing, sacred geometry, breath, writing exercises, etc.) to move beyond the emotional block and feel safe enough to make decisions that support their true essence.
It does not have to take years. Paul contacted a lawyer within a week of working together to explore the next steps regarding his business. Jina within a few months was able to embrace her daughter’s dream despite the fact that it did not make sense to her.
If you want to feel complete, at peace and radiant, then this is it! Have you said yes to Self- Love yet? Take a complimentary session with Tejpal.
In life, we make many compromises. Some of them we are at peace with. For example, the car I bought was not my color of choice, but it was a good deal financially. I sometimes work late to accommodate a client and I am in harmony with this.
At times, the compromises we are making are truly killing us. The following are true stories from my practice (the names have been changed):
- Ann has stopped going to her art class because she finishes late at work everyday.
- Peter has a new born baby and a second one coming soon. He had let go of his own business and has chosen to work in a company that pays good money but is not a great fit for him.
- Ella ‘s husband is a volunteer sport coach for the past 6 years. Ella carries all the financial responsibility of the family since then.
- Andrew loves musical theater but has chosen for the past two years to work for a software company.
Four true stories. Four out of these four people are exhausted, depressed, confused and some of them on medication to manage their anxiety. What happened?
They have one thing in common; they have compromised their deepest longing.
Ann is afraid to be rejected and is the only one working late; she has lost her vitality. Peter has been afraid to not make enough money and since he started working for someone else, he has been sick for the past year. Ella is putting on a lot of weight and is terrified to ask her husband to get a paid job as she believes he will leave her. Andrew has created a very structured life that looks successful on the surface but deep inside he feels empty and isolated.
Each time you compromise your deepest desire, you loose your life force. And from there, you create a negative momentum: your mind takes over trying to figure out a way to deal with everything and you get deeper into a black hole.
Why did they give up their desires? Because they did not know how to get there.
When you don’t know how to get somewhere, you listen to your fears instead of listening to your heart and soul. In most cases, you will literally become sick. What you need to focus on is your desire and only the first step to get there. Let go of creating an action plan, it will prevent you from moving forward.
Do you want to explore with Tejpal how to manifest your deepest desires? Schedule a transformative session…
The ultimate discipline has nothing to do with how well you eat, how much you exercise, or how balanced your life is. The ultimate discipline has not much to do with your will to achieve what you want in life.
The ultimate discipline has to do with your ability to surrender and be in the moment. To create this, you need to shift your focus from a place of will to a place of self-awareness.
Self-awareness does not mean over analyzing everything that is happening to you. It means being curious about your experience and your reactions moment to moment. You are focusing on noticing your reactions instead of trying to understand them. Shift from a place of analyzing everything to a place of being curious and you will gain energy and vibrancy. Learn to be curious and clueless.
What helps you being in the moment?
Here is my first list:
- Caring for my garden
- Playing the guitar
- Public speaking
- Playing with kids
- Getting a massage
- Eating delicious food
- and the list goes on
What is your list?
As you experience more and more at the cellular level being present, you develop an attitude of receptivity necessary to enhance your intuition and creativity. Every part of your being becomes alive to help you manifest the life you truly desire.
The summer season in Tucson may look like the winter season in Alaska. It is a time of hibernation where we are reminded of the law of nature. I have had a tendency to drag myself during this period of heavy heat focusing too much on all the things I cannot do and this year, I have decided to take advantage of the summer. The heat quiets everything down and if we choose, it is a time for deep clearing. The act of clearing calls on many qualities: opening up, letting go, visualizing, healing and reinventing ourselves to name a few.
How do we clear?
Our Physical Level is perhaps the easiest level to clear. I have decided that for 40 days, I am getting rid of one thing everyday. I am giving away a fancy juicer and a dehydrator that I don’t use. I am giving away books, and I am feeling a wonderful burst of energy. The joy of clearing my space is simply priceless.
Our Emotional Level often holds pain. Choose one emotion that does not serve you anymore. Either it is anger, anxiety, depression, resentment, worries, or any other ones. Decide which emotion you want to be free from. Visualize all the benefits of the new you and create a collage.
Our Mental Level is often a place where we get stuck. Clearing our mind is an everyday requirement. When we do not clear our mind, our thoughts have a tendency to become loud and we become more reactive loosing touch with your essence. Choose a breath pattern from a tradition of your choice to reduce the intensity of your mind and stay connected with your true self.
The Heart and Spiritual Levels are certainly important dimensions to clear from and regenerate. Each of these two levels will help you renew your whole being. There are many approaches to work on these two levels. An effective way is to commit to a form of art expression. Remember you do not have to be good at it but simply enjoy it!
Get started this summer and decide where you want to start with; there is no logical order. Renew yourself with Tejpal for a transformative session or a discovery session!
From my 27 years of experience helping many to create a better life for themselves or their organization, I have discovered four main practices that impact anyone tremendously in creating quick and lasting shifts in their life.
- Commit to Joy
Too often, we are not spending enough time and energy doing things that bring us joy. In fact joy often shows up as an extra quality, a bonus that is certainly wonderful but not really necessary. When you commit to joy, you commit to uplift yourself. Your spirit, the most powerful part of who you are, becomes more vibrant. From there, you create a new foundation for your life where you learn to rely on your intuitive being. When this happens everything starts to shift in your life for the better.
- Engage in a Mind-Body-Spirit Practice
A mind body spirit practice (like yoga, chi-gong, sufi dance, etc.) works on shifting energetically your patterns without going into the stories and drama of your life. It will help you being more grounded and will increase the quality of your presence. Your awareness and sensitivity will expand to help you make choices aligned with your essence and your purpose.
- Practice Curiosity Towards Yourself
Stay curious about your needs, your desires, your fears, your vulnerabilities, your dreams, etc. Being curious does not mean over-analyzing who you are but listening and witnessing all the parts of you. When this happens you become less reactive, less noisy and you will be able to recognize the part you are playing in what you are attracting in life. You will then be able to clearly decide what you want to change.
- Experience Energy Healing
Energy healing works on your energy patterns and their impact at the spiritual, heart, mental, emotional and physical levels. Often information has been lodged deep inside your body and it energy field. When this information is revealed, blocks and belief systems that do not serve you will be released so that you can create the life you truly desire.
You say you want to change some areas of your life? When you engage in these four practices you will succeed attracting the life you truly desire.
Imagine that you hold in your hands the power to change your reality and that you are capable of creating your highest vision and desire. Imagine that life is way simpler than what you think. Then….you are able to Manifest Moment To Moment the life you truly long for.
Many of you know that I have co-written a book with my business partner Dr. Carrol McLauglin.
And so here we are! Our “Manifest Moment To Moment” book is published by Hay House and will be released June 4th this year.
Check out our website, www.ManifestMomentToMoment.com, the videos, and the claim it exercises! We hope that you will appreciate the spirit , insights and tools we have to offer! To respect your space, you will get an insightful newsletter once a month from this new website. I will scale down from the Tejpal-Inspires website and send one newsletter once a month as well. Feel free to give me some feedback, I would love to hear from you!
As I had my birthday this week, the day prior to my date of birth, I received some clear insights: “Tejpal, the theme of this year for you is about surrendering”. And then I received a few directions about which spiritual practice I need to focus on.
And so here I am…pondering and assessing the different parts of my life. Every area of my life will beneficiate from my ability to surrender, no doubt. Surrendering is for me the most gracious intent as it calls on flexibility and spaciousness. If I create more space then creativity can truly happen. If I am really creative then there is a way no matter how many blocks I may encounter in my life; I can always bounce back. And quite frankly in life we don’t need to be sure we are doing the right thing to be happy, we need to know we can bounce back so that we feel more secure inside to move forward and listen to our deepest desire.
What is your theme for your birthday year and how will you approach it? Take a complimentary session with Tejpal.
Over the years, I have witnessed the same thing over and over when it is time to shift and grow…there is one thing that is in the way for pretty much everyone I have helped. It is the lack of compassion you have toward your own Self. Yes, it is simple, but true. That is your biggest obstacle in your life.
Too often, we create a fixed idea of what our Self should be and each time we do not match that rigid identity. We shrink, contract and sometimes we spend too much time inward over analyzing everything.
First we need to let go of that fixed image about ourselves but still have that deep desire to expand, be more accepting, living more in the heart or whatever you would like to express and experience often in our life.
The people that get the most hyper and excited about working with me are often the people who struggle to commit. Their ideal image of themselves takes over and their engagement is like a fire cracker…explosive, beautiful and short.
If you want to go really far, be aware of your limitations and have compassion for what you may call your contradictions, your paradoxes and your faults. Own them and hold them; there are parts of your expression.
There is no world-class athlete that dismissed their own limitation. Gary Player knew as a golfer that he had to go the gym and be fit, way before the Tiger Wood trend, to compensate his short size in order to be a legendary golfer.
Your ambition without self-compassion will not nourish your soul. Do you want to experience and explore the gifts of self-compassion?Take a complimentary session with Tejpal.
So, you want to make a change….
You know what does not work in your life and you are not sure what could work. You know what does not serve you and you don’t know what decision to make. You may spend most of your time trying to figure out what could serve you, what could work and eventually in this process, fear comes up and you get stuck.
Trying to figure out what is next when you want to create something new in your life simply does not work. I understand it is tempting. When you try to figure out something, you are relying on your mind. Your mind will most likely pull you back into what you already know and it will create fear. It will limit you.
To create something new you need to shift paradigm. You don’t shift paradigm through your thinking.
The key to success is about letting go of your habitual way of processing information. First go within if you want to move forward. Listen to your emotions, sensations and heart and trust them as your inner compass system for what is next. Shift from setting goals to trusting your experience moment to moment like walking in a labyrinth, not knowing what is next and not needing to know what is next. Your insights and vision will come at the perfect time.
Can you trust what feels good? Can you believe that could be enough to start with? Can you value what feels good as a foundation for your next phase in your life? I promise you, if you allow this to happen it will not take years to create a life that is meaningful and blissful. If you resist and keep on believing that you have to figure things out before you move forward then you will be stuck for a long time.
What do you choose? 🙂